sometimes it's difficult to believe love exists

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Sometimes it's difficult to believe that love really exists and that all the people around me are simply deluded freaks just pretending at a fantasy.

Awwww.

Are your friends art and humanities majors by any chance? Did they miss biology class?

why do you feel this to be true

I'm just being bitter. I should have phrased that better. I know fine well that just because the way my life works out doesn't mean that other people don't experience life differently to me.

What I actually mean is I feel like I've been on my own so long that I can't comprehend or imagine what a relationship is like and it seems like everyone around me is living a fantasy. I know they are not, but it is so removed from my experience that it seems like a fantasy.

well, i know that feel. everyone around me is married or in a happy relationship, and most people seem to think there's nothing life has to offer short of relationships, so not being able to get one, i feel kind of left out.

Lol I know what you mean hurtloam. I was at a party the other day and I saw a couple dancing really cozy and intimately. It looked really cozy. At felt a sense of longing but at the same time I couldn't imagine ever being on the dancefloor in love with a boy. It looks so unreal. But we're still young so we should try and be the best version of ourselves and not give up all hope

I was supposed to go to a friend's son's wedding yesterday and I told her I was sick with the flu. It was a lie. Truthfully I could not stand to be around all the happily excited people sharing in the celebration of love and commitment. I have forced myself in the past to attend such events, the last one resulting in my date telling me that he'd rather I hadn't attended. I can't help it, I'm alienated.
Marriage seems like a fiction to me too. Like people taking up roles in a play that has been repeated billions of times. How can you not tire of someone when they become predictable and uninteresting? Or when they've done something you can't forgive and it changes your feelings for them.
To say you're going to be with each other for the rest of each others lives seems unrealistic.

I can relate to what the headline says, sometimes it is hard to believe in love, that it actually is to find out there, at least for everyone.
I often fear that i will end up alone, that i will die on my lonesome one day as a 80 year old woman while rocking back and forth in my rocking chair, playing "Tyrannosaurus Hives" on my vinyl player.
I'm not the most outgoing person, and i do feel very uncomfortable in my own skin, this definitely shows, and i think this scares people off or at least makes them feel uncomfortable regarding me, not finding me very pleasant to be around. So It's true what they say, what you feel about yourself, other people will feel about you too.
I always assume guys are secretively making fun of me or have negative motives if he (though it happens very rarely) seems to be flirting with me, and i freak out (in my head) and get myself out of the situation.
My mom has always had bad men when i grew up, so i guess maybe this is were some of my fear is coming from, that i fear too many men out there are bastards, and that all the good ones are taken.

You people got me a tear in my eye. :'/

Thank you very much!

This is not just a fear, it's a reality, the good ones are more likely to be taken and the older you get the less likely to find good ones in your dating pool = and more likely to find worse leftovers.

Men can be superficial.

Girl: Do you love me
Guy: Yes
Girl: Why?
Guy: You are pretty
Girl: uggh!


Guys should look deeper into why they are attracted to a woman besides just having a pretty girl having sex with them when others do not.

I had to learn this. My aspie ex GF and I are back together because now we talk to each other about our feelings in a logical sense. We solve problems together and listen ...and I mean listen. We also play guitar together and work together towards a goal. We became a team! ^_^


Love is a higher form of respect with a sexual attraction.

Good ones are either taken or nobody wants them. There's no in-between. And the ones who are taken are quite lucky. Today's society values as*holes of both sexes.

Anyway, love really doesn't exist. Lust, sure.

That is a pessimistic thought, only a cynical misanthropist could see the world as such.

Sweet and sour isn't the best flavor to be, it seems salt and vinegar is in trend at the moment.

Cynical misanthropes are the world's wisest people. Way to go, you paid Boo a compliment.

Thank you Alexander :p.
But I am not pessemistic nor I hate people, you are confusing logic with bitterness.

What I said is purely based on logic: The more you get the market late, the more likely you find bad apples in the basket (in case they renew shelfs once in morning).