To the gals: What do you want in a guy?

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danothan24
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28 Oct 2014, 12:34 am

First off, I realize that we can't generalize that "girls like this" and "girls like that", since girls are just people and people want different things. Still, it does seem like there would be at least a few fairly universal traits. My question to any ladies reading this is what do YOU, specifically, like in a man. If we get enough responses, we might be able to come to certain consensuses. Regardless, it's good to hear from actual females what they like.

Also, PLEASE no "smooth" guys insisting they know what girls like. Seriously, it's nauseating.


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28 Oct 2014, 1:41 am

What kind of stuff are you asking about?

Straight girls only?



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28 Oct 2014, 2:07 am

Someone with similar interests, who likes good music, is actually interested in me not just sleeping with me a few times or invested in some other girl at all I mean its not a jealous thing I just don't like getting attached to find out they have unfinished relationship business with someone else, its awkward and usually means things don't work out between me and them so hopefully I can find someone who that doesn't happen with. Aside from that I don't want to date some borderline facist f***, or any sociopaths, psychopaths or anything like that. Otherwise I am not too terribly picky though there are some ways of dressing I cannot stand that are more often than not associated with things I cannot stand like yeah if a dudes walking around in a plain t-shirt with pants half way down their a** I associate that with bad rap music and thug culture and such which is obviously not appealing. If someones wearing jeans and a t-shirt of a band I like than that is going to be much more appealing especially if they have long hair or at least not super short hair.

That is the best description I can give as to what is appealing to me at the moment.


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28 Oct 2014, 8:03 am

[opinion=mine]

Generally speaking, THEY seem to like men who are faithful, honest, responsible, independent, resourceful, kind, generous, assertive, mature, outgoing, optimistic, confident, and willing to compromise.

What they don't seem to like are men who are promiscuous, deceitful, irresponsible, dependent on others, incompetent, abusive, stingy, childish, emo, pessimistic, wishy-washy, and who have a "My way or the highway" attitude.

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28 Oct 2014, 8:05 am

You hit the nail on the head, Sir!



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28 Oct 2014, 8:39 am

This question has been asked so many times already and it has been answer even more often.

What I look for in a guy? Someone that is confident (but nog agressive), someone that is not afraid to be open with me, he must be able to talk about feelings, someone that has an active lifestyle and is a bit adventurous just like me, someone that is interested in the world around him and is a thinker, someone that's affectionate, and caring towards me, someone who is truly interested in me and -lastly- someone I can have goofball fun with and won't always take me too seriously.



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28 Oct 2014, 1:25 pm

Fnord wrote:
[opinion=mine]

Generally speaking, THEY seem to like men who are faithful, honest, responsible, independent, resourceful, kind, generous, assertive, mature, outgoing, optimistic, confident, and willing to compromise.

What they don't seem to like are men who are promiscuous, deceitful, irresponsible, dependent on others, incompetent, abusive, stingy, childish, emo, pessimistic, wishy-washy, and who have a "My way or the highway" attitude.

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28 Oct 2014, 6:20 pm

yellowtamarin wrote:
What kind of stuff are you asking about?

Straight girls only?


Sweetleaf's response was a perfect example of what I was hoping for (while Fnord's was precisely what I asked to NOT do).

Straight or bi girls. I am asking what girls personally like in guys, so I doubt that lesbians would have a ton of input. Just to be clear, I have no issue with them (and sure can't blame them for preferring girls to guys), I'm just not sure how much input someone who doesn't even like guys could contribute to this.

Also, Cafeaulait, sorry if this is redundant. But as long as there are guys who like girls, this sort of question will always be asked.


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28 Oct 2014, 11:53 pm

danothan24 wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
What kind of stuff are you asking about?

Straight girls only?


Sweetleaf's response was a perfect example of what I was hoping for (while Fnord's was precisely what I asked to NOT do).

Straight or bi girls. I am asking what girls personally like in guys, so I doubt that lesbians would have a ton of input. Just to be clear, I have no issue with them (and sure can't blame them for preferring girls to guys), I'm just not sure how much input someone who doesn't even like guys could contribute to this.

Also, Cafeaulait, sorry if this is redundant. But as long as there are guys who like girls, this sort of question will always be asked.


And such guys will always try to apply the opinions of women they're not dating to women they want to date, inevitably fail, and wonder why women can't just "make up their minds" or "make sense".



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29 Oct 2014, 7:39 am

danothan24 wrote:
If we get enough responses, we might be able to come to certain consensuses. Regardless, it's good to hear from actual females what they like.


What is the use of such a consensus? To decide on "desirable" traits and then try to emulate them in order to attract females is a recipe for failure. It doesn't work that way. It is an attempt to quantify the unquantifiable.



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29 Oct 2014, 9:36 am

androbot01 wrote:
danothan24 wrote:
If we get enough responses, we might be able to come to certain consensuses. Regardless, it's good to hear from actual females what they like.


What is the use of such a consensus? To decide on "desirable" traits and then try to emulate them in order to attract females is a recipe for failure. It doesn't work that way. It is an attempt to quantify the unquantifiable.


Or maybe it is to show once and for all different females have different taste and there is not one size fits all approach....well except maybe when you are dealing with the following:
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29 Oct 2014, 9:48 am

i don't know but i hope theres some out there that are in to apathetic, non'ambitious', feminine , socially anxious types of guy or i'm fresh out of luck



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29 Oct 2014, 9:58 am

Sweetleaf wrote:
Or maybe it is to show once and for all different females have different taste and there is not one size fits all approach...

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29 Oct 2014, 10:06 am

anthropic_principle wrote:
i don't know but i hope theres some out there that are in to apathetic, non'ambitious', feminine , socially anxious types of guy or i'm fresh out of luck


If they like good music....


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30 Oct 2014, 1:11 am

Aside from someone who is a decent, kindhearted, loving person, I'm attracted to guys/people with darker hair generally, a good sense of humor (or at least willing to put up with my idiosyncratic one), and good taste in music.

A nice smile/nice eyes, and an interest in sci-fi are big bonuses.

But I'm an oddball, so.



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30 Oct 2014, 1:50 am

Is open and honest.
Thinks rationally but is willing to discuss emotional matters (in a rational way).
Is introverted.
Enjoys intellectual/philosophical debates.
Enjoys nature.
Is not materialistic, money hungry or power hungry.
Is fairly independent (not clingy or sees me as "completing" him).
We "get" each other.

There's some things. I'm sure there are plenty more. I'm very picky.