I finally recieved feedback from last girl I had unsuccessful dating. She said she's "a bit afraid of my fanaticism". Let I explain.
Like maybe most of us I have some special interests. The fact is they are a lot in near-political activism, practical philosophy, changing the ways society is acting. I know what I want to get in result and move towards this goal.
But this girl so as very probably many others I tried to date before becomes afraid when you say at leas a bit of such things. Maybe they consider me as some fanatic but actually hey are not able to see my ideas because I don't talk much on them on first date (I never had second date for years).
So what should I do?
I can't be completely silent on my special interest especially if the girl is interested what are my hobbies and what is the meaning of life for me. And when I just start such topics girls are afraid. Girls need more common guys for themselves. I have no lack of confidence but they need commonness instead and confidence together with such special interess scares them.
Unfortunately I failed to find girl with more or less same interests and values - either they are much older or they are already married and their husbands are activists as well.
30 Oct 2014, 2:36 am
