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| How often do you overextend you coping skills? |
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16% |
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| Once a day |
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16% |
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| Every other day |
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16% |
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| Every other day |
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16% |
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| Once a week |
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4% |
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| Once a week |
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4% |
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| Once every Month |
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12% |
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| Once every Month |
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12% |
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Ghosthunter
Phoenix
Joined: Mar 20, 2005
Posts: 2473
Location: Minneapolis, Minnesota
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 Posted: Thu Apr 28, 2005 6:45 pm Post subject: Coping Skills and Overextension! |
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First a commentary from Ghosthunter:
Last night I was suppose to find out if
my roommate and I finally sold our
first computer. We did, I found out.
It was a Macintosh 1400c/166/2g/F.Drive/
33mhz bus Powerbook that sold for $200.
It is a representation that not all I do
fails, or succeeds. It was a business
excersice to allow his & my knowledge
to have some physical world value.
I should be happy, but this is not why
I am unhappy.
End of Ghosthunters statement.
1)...The Questions?
"Have you ever overexstended your coping skills?"
2)...Comments by Ghosthunter
| Overextension and it's heavy price wrote: |
I, as I got older have a good resilency to coping
skills and this is due to being through most ropes
that you folks will have experienced to one degree
or another.
I have always sought to look forward and help
others and myself through learning how helping
them can help me in return(new skills found).
I tend to hold off when I reach a certain point
so I retain my true essence and not reveal the
blubbering idiot that others use to look at me as,
though that vulnerability will sometimes reveal
itself. It has been a rare occurence in the last
5 years to have hyperventilation unless I really
need to push beyond these bounderies, and my
helpful self cannot give freely because this
emotion has been spent and all that is left is
the vulnerable self.
I should be happy that I sold a computer by being
this helpful soul, and seeing validation for my
efforts(a rare occurence also). I show up at
shipping day and all goes well.
6:45am, I Z-Tag, start store setup
7:30am, I start the shipment
8:35am, I finish shipment inventory
9:00am, I finish the dishes
No incident, and all is well!
10:00am, We have a new client to deliver
to and the bosses wife say's she wants to
give more delivery hours. I am getting
slightly stressed, and that is why I clocked
at 10:00am.
Hmmm? Not sure so far!!!!
11:00am, the soup spills, I get clumsbier,
customers are lining up, I want them to
go away, delivery is due at 11:30am,
and I will lose hours dearly to a not-so-
sympathetic bosses wife if this delivery
doesn't go with no mistakes. As a matter
of fact she spent 1.5 hours with me going
over it knowing I am autistic, and we set
it up so it should go smoothly yesterday
at 4:45pm-6:30pm.
Hmmm? Go away customers, I start
panicking since their is a greater price
for screwing up this delivery than your
stupid sandwich order and the fact we
can't break your $100 Travellers check.
My co-worker(a female) knows I am autistic
and is looking at me as I hyperventilate
in as much of a discrete fashion as possible
in the line of customers since you are
only temporary(the customers at that
moment) an the price of failure requires
me to push this giving boundry. And she tells
me to calm down.
11:30am, We arrive to the site and leave
by 11:50am. I go to the other store and
thank the stars that all went as well as
possible, though I am exhuasting my
usually reliable coping skills.
12:50pm, The bosses wife lets me just wave
the sign around and I have some venting
time(NOT SCARRY LOOK TIME) and further
exhaust my coping skills reserve pool.
1:30 pm, I arrive at the main store and
pickup my regular clothing with no coping
skill,(It feels like bleeding everywhere) and
hope the world leaves me alone.
She(the supervisor "I DON'T LIKE" asks can I
cover for a hour) and I freeze, and all I can do
is give this scarry stare, and she say's "you look
like you don't hear me". Then the acting manager
asks, and I mutter, No!, and that is a first, I have
no coping skills and leave me alone I am thinking
to myself.
2:00pm, I arrive at the hostel and the badgery
owner is yelling at his other favorite chew toy
and I thank the stars he didn't see me a chew bait.
I had no coping skills. I skulk out of there like
a abused child and write this.
2:15pm, I read a tidbit of a 34year old and getting
diagnosed and I have nothing to say, instead bleed
all over his statements meaning and appologize to
you folks and contemplate how to write(not BLEED)
this.
If some of you don't get it, I can understand. If some
of you don't mind being BLED over, that's cool also.
Unhappily,
Ghosthunter
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3)....The Question Repeated...!
"Have you ever overexstended your coping skills?"
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Postperson
The Daughter of Indifference
Joined: Jul 10, 2004
Age: 51
Posts: 2828
Location: Uz
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| Posted: Thu Apr 28, 2005 7:06 pm Post subject: |
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| I was constatnly overextended when I was working. Hope you have tonight off GH. Have a good rest. |
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Sarcastic_Name
Don't look.
Joined: Mar 27, 2005
Age: 20
Posts: 3582
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| Posted: Thu Apr 28, 2005 11:26 pm Post subject: |
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I'm not sure what you mean by over-extending, but I think I might understand. Is that when you over-do a coping skill? Or when your just drained of coping-ness?
If it's the second, then yes. I ran out of coping skills at prom. Well, it was more like my battery's decided not to recharge, and I had no skills for a few days. This happens about once a month. I'll end the week, and I'll come home from work/school, and not want to talk to anybody for the rest of the day.
Question for Ghosthunter: When you say "bleeding", what exactly do you mean? Give the simplest explanation possible please.
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ElfMan
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Joined: Dec 17, 2004
Posts: 557
Location: Australia
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| Posted: Fri Apr 29, 2005 12:16 am Post subject: |
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GhostHunter, thankyou for once again describing something that explains how I am. I don't tend to have the words like you do, not even in my mind, so it is a releif when I am able to read it desribed.
I start over extending myself after two hours of being with people on an easy day. Even in my art class which is supposed to be an hour but we always go for nearly two hours. (It's one on one by the way). I always start to go blank as things in my mind progressively stop responding by this time. So even when I am enjoying myself it happens.
I am sorry to here about your day. I know how hard it can get and how much you must feel like just running and getting as far away as possible. You have great strength GhostHunter. But allow yourself the time when you need it. Put time in your weekly schedule that is 'GhostHunter' focus specific.
I am sorry I do not reply to many of your posts, but garanteed I gain from them.
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Ghosthunter
Phoenix
Joined: Mar 20, 2005
Posts: 2473
Location: Minneapolis, Minnesota
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| Posted: Fri Apr 29, 2005 11:51 am Post subject: Hmmm? |
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Now that I am back to my inquisitve,
or Dr.Phil, or helpfu selfl(this is based on
how I am intrepreted) I can now answer
the "Bleeding" question. Sarcastic_
Name asked what is "Bleeding", well it
is when your emotions are cut open like
a wound, and excess flow out like the
bleeding victim of a gun shot wound.
In parts, it is good since it allows the
emotional side to heal if one bottles up.
In my case, I have done control bleeds
so I don't drain everywhere, and maybe
a few inaccessible areas that needed
attention will have a place to flow outward.
| Ghosthunter and a poem wrote: |
Fly, Fly bird of night, singhing your wings
in the sun, nutured by the moon. Blessed
be the mother moon as she sooths you
as you flow from within, blessed be the
father sun that singhes the wings of the
arogant bird that need take flight, flowing
from within and then outward.
I fly to the sun and touch my wings to the
sun, and pain seizes and nutures the inner
self and the bird crashes into night. Night
moon embrace the wing and the rips and
tears that once were are now new again.
Take flight in heart, singh a wing and fly
upward, and reveal the inner self and
realize I bleed and flow for me.
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P.S....I thought of this last night, and I don't
think it is real good, it had more poingnant
words to illustrate the intensity.
sincerely,
Ghosthunter |
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Sarcastic_Name
Don't look.
Joined: Mar 27, 2005
Age: 20
Posts: 3582
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| Posted: Fri Apr 29, 2005 11:28 pm Post subject: |
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Thanks Ghosthunter, I get it now.
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Ghosthunter
Phoenix
Joined: Mar 20, 2005
Posts: 2473
Location: Minneapolis, Minnesota
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| Posted: Sat Apr 30, 2005 12:02 am Post subject: Thankyou! |
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I am glad you responded, and
understood the concept of bleeding.
Does it relate to you in anyway?
And how was the poem?
I kindof dreamt it, and forgot it's
poignant words so I adlibed the
ones I forgot.
Sincerely,
Ghosthunter |
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Tere
Phoenix
Joined: Jan 27, 2005
Posts: 529
Location: Columbus, Ohio
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| Posted: Sat Apr 30, 2005 9:49 am Post subject: |
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Ghosthunter I knew exactly what you meant! When I worked I would come home sometimes feeling beaten and bruised.
The problems always set in when I was given tasks that weren't mine to begin with. These new tasks on top of my already decided on tasks left me totally overwhelmed! To add to the already problem, I was given time limits to get everything done!
As if that's not enough, bosses and supervisers return to make sure I am on schedule!! That, to me, is picking at an already wounded spirit. By now I am ready for a total melt-down! To be picked and picked, indeed leaves you "bleeding". |
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GoogaMooga
Butterfly
Joined: May 10, 2005
Posts: 15
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| Posted: Wed May 11, 2005 11:28 am Post subject: |
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| "It's allright, Ma/I'm only bleeding" (Bob Dylan) |
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