Im going out with someone but do i achually know ifi want to

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Tonight after work i went to the local youth cafe and i met up with one of my female friends well we decided to start going out after cuddling a bit and talking. Well now im at home im not sure that i want to and i dont think i want a GF anymore. Ive knowen this chick for a long time and now Ahhhhhh, i guess its just stressing me out . I enjoy being around her and she enjoys being around me but its just so stressing.

This happens with me 50% of the time with women. I either get so excited when I finally start dating a girl that I end up being too clingy, or by the 2nd date (or when she puts out) I get bored and don't want to be with her anymore. I am currently in a relationship I am content with, but I still get that "I wish I was alone" feeling somewhat often.

I'd suggest waiting it out a bit until you get used to it. Any new situation is hard for me, and I'm guessing that may be part of the problem here. Once you get used to being around her, it may not be so stressful, and you can see if this is a girl you want to stay with. Good luck

Zombie. how old are you?

I know how you feel. I felt the same way wiht my first girlfriend and the same way with my second girlfriend.

Im 17 years old turning 18 soon, this aint my first its like m 3rd or 4th or something like that. it is very stressing for reasons i should not say on WP because she will be offended if she saw it one day. This one is different, and i feel it .

Try to not put the label"relationship" on what you are experiencing with her.
I think ,most of the time,things work out so much better for both of you if you just let time decide where this is going.
Keep cuddling and enjoy eachother's company,but with the pressure "off"..no stress.
If it meant to be,it wil come naturally after a while,and then after a few months,then you can start talking about where the its going,and if you should only see eachother and not other people.
Give the dating phase some time,its the best advice I can give.
I think it will make a huge difference.

Oh and by the way...
This is perfectly normal.
Men and women are wired differently and have different attraction triggers