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PostPosted: Thu Jul 12, 2007 3:56 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'd say just ignore her.
Your 22 years old your mother shouldn't tel you what to do.
I sure as hell wouldn't allow my mother to tel me what to do.
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PostPosted: Thu Jul 12, 2007 5:23 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well, when I was little, my parents didn't really tell me what to do and they still don't.
I am almost 32, and they still take me out to get groceries and stuff.
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PostPosted: Thu Jul 12, 2007 5:51 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Parents have a very hard time allowing their children to grow up. My mom would still tell me what to do had I had not did what I wanted. Even after I got married she struggled with this. I'm 46 now and she's not bossy anymore, but it took years. Next time she tells you to change your clothes, unless you agree with her....don't. Respond with, "I like this" and then thats it. It takes two to argue, don't argue. You made your point. "I like this." And thats that.
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PostPosted: Thu Jul 12, 2007 5:55 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I don't have parents any more. But my husband and kids tell me what to do. Some of their advice is good and I take it. My husband never likes the way I dress because I dress like a hippie or a gypsy and he's very conservative so my appearance embarrasses him. Also my behavior. He gets very up-tight when we're out in public among strangers and I do or say something that he thinks is inappropriate. I have more fun when I go out alone or with my sister who thinks I'm more funny than embarrassing.
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PostPosted: Thu Jul 12, 2007 11:56 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I've had similar problems, but it extends far worse than just being told what to do. My parents, when I was 20, would still threaten to hit me across the face if I didn't agree with them. My father and I will still get into argument that verge on beating the hell out of each other because he doesn't want me to pour milk on the dining room side of the kitchen counter, or because I use a different can opener that he doesn't like using.

The opposite situation also occurs, where I'll have a problem that any normal person would ask help for (such as my car breaking down at college, and while I can get it running, I need a ride back to campus at 7am rather than waiting for a bloody taxi or bus-which doesn't run out to campus out in that crappy one-horse town-so I don't miss my 8am class). Or, another, more recent example would be asking for their help finding an attorney to keep on retainer for all the crap I've taken at college.

They'll turn around and tell me that I have to do that on my own, because I'm too old for them to do something as simple as go to the auto parts store for me while I work on the car, or give me a hand working on something in the garage.

I'm thoroughly convinced my parents, after my birth, are only good for financial resources and their caloric content.
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 13, 2007 12:48 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Oh yeah. My dad feels the need to spell everything out for me. I ask him a simple question, and then goes on for a good 2 minutes when he could have given me a simple answer.
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 13, 2007 1:00 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

My parents still treat me like a child, but I actually like it, because I feel like a child on the inside.

I'd get upset if they treated me like an adult.
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 13, 2007 1:04 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'm 18, and my parents won't let me go on a short road trip (2.5 hours away) because of all the "dangerous mountain roads" and my dad's afraid he'll lose his 2nd child. I'd just ignore them, but I still live in their house.... Rolling Eyes
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 13, 2007 8:14 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yes, my mother is quite like mothers of Kenneth Bianchi or H.P. Lovecraft. Confused
She treats me like a child. She told me yesterday that I behave as if I was not 23 but 8 year old. She thinks that I'm immature and compares me to my friend from high school whose greatest proof of maturity is having a baby (completely unplanned and illegitimate Confused Laughing ). I never buy clothes for myself - it's she who does it. Last year we were buying new pictures to decorate walls of my room with them and I had a quarrel with my mother in the shop because she didn't like the picture chosen by me and even later she was making comments about that for a long time.
I derive a great pleasure from imagining that I am a crucial witness testifying in a criminal trial against mobsters and I was provided with a new name and location by the Witness Protection Program - I became somebody else, I can't contact with my mother. I think that when I left home and the country (I'm not going to live in Poland) I'll not want to contact with her - I'll stop writing and calling. I simply don't feel any special attachement to people, including my mother.
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 13, 2007 8:29 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

likedcalico wrote:
Does this happen to NTs too? Does it happen to "normal" people" too?


Even parents of the most neurotypical kid in the world have problems of this kind, they don't know how to deal with the fact that a child is already adult and doesn't need parents. If for a bigger part of your life your only hobby was taking care of your children you'll have the empty nest syndrome for sure Laughing
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 13, 2007 9:54 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I never had parents but through observation I see most parents will treat their children as they are a child for most of their life and especially if their child is still living with them. Parental instincts or "rights". Not many people will understand that the human mind has a will of their own or actively support this theory.
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 13, 2007 2:16 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

My mother treats me like a child sometimes, but not all the time.

She is ok with me going places on my own and stuff, but it's just some things she says like she is trying to control my life.

I am nearly 18 years old and she still says things like "You should probably take a shower."

Like I don't know when to take a shower! Rolling Eyes

And she's trying to plan my future already. She keeps going on about all the grandchildren I'm going to have for her. Mad
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PostPosted: Sat Jul 14, 2007 7:04 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

My mum treats me very well in a non-patronising way. Smile

My dad (divorced and lives with a horse of a woman) is the complete opposite though. Sad
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