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bc1
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22 Jul 2007, 2:59 am

play it again, sam.



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22 Jul 2007, 3:09 am

gwenevyn wrote:
I like to get a good idea of what someone's perspective is, before any kissing occurs.

Unfortunately the situation you post could mean anything from "he thinks you're the best girl ever!" down to "absolutely nothing."


Presuming that there's a chance.
I've taken to kissing people a
great deal more than I ever would,
all as part of my 'act' while dancing.

Seldom on the lips (and the only person
that I really meant it for - was only on the
hands), but still, it's a situational thing. I
rather doubt that anyone would get the
wrong impression from them



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22 Jul 2007, 3:18 am

Usually it is triggered by sexual attraction, and also adoration in which case it fosters feelings of closeness and intimacy. Beyond that, I don't know.



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22 Jul 2007, 4:54 am

What is this... "kiss"? I know not whereof you speak. At least not the porno-tongue variety, anyway :(


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22 Jul 2007, 6:46 am

If you are on the recieving end and you find the kisser attractive it means you have succesfully negotiated (by luck or by design) all those horrible barriers that can make getting that close to someone you like seem almost impossible.

To me it means it's all relatively plain sailing from here, I can do the rest, that hard bit is over.

Socialising / flirting properly / small talk / dating etc is the hard bit.

Kissing / touching / not speaking / cuddling / sex etc. is the easy bit.

For me anyway.



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22 Jul 2007, 6:57 am

Asparval has it mostly right. If you get a kiss from a member of the opposite sex and a) you like it and b) they're cute then feel free to experiment.

Hint: Assuming the normal height ratio, a girl putting her arms around a guy's neck puts everything in just about the right position.

Enjoy!!

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P.S. Watch out in the Gulf states because there guys kiss guys and it's regarded as normal.



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22 Jul 2007, 7:32 am

Asparval wrote:
If you are on the recieving end and you find the kisser attractive it means you have succesfully negotiated (by luck or by design) all those horrible barriers that can make getting that close to someone you like seem almost impossible.

To me it means it's all relatively plain sailing from here, I can do the rest, that hard bit is over.

Socialising / flirting properly / small talk / dating etc is the hard bit.

Kissing / touching / not speaking / cuddling / sex etc. is the easy bit.

For me anyway.


I thought that's the bit where things do get hard? :lol:



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22 Jul 2007, 7:41 am

Well what can I say... there are very few people I'd kiss. I would never kiss a friend even if it's just friendship stuff... I know some that would, nothing wrong with it but it's just not my style lol.

I'd say I need to trust them 'almost' to the max, although not quite, because it's damn near impossible for me to trust someone to the max lol. It's quite hard for me to trust certain people and trust grows after some time with them, or perhaps not, but with a girl I'm trying to get with that trust comes remarkably quickly, and so far not to my misfortune, except for the first girl but that was only a couple of weeks and we didn't kiss anyhow lol. So nothing missed really... which is just as well.

If I'm with someone then tbh I don't mind if I kiss them after like 30 minutes of officially being with them, it don't matter to me... because I'm with them I like them, wouldn't offer what I have to someone on a personal scale if I didn't trust them a lot... so I'd have no issues kissing them. In this situation a kiss means a lot.


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22 Jul 2007, 7:59 am

HelloHello wrote:
Asparval wrote:
If you are on the recieving end and you find the kisser attractive it means you have succesfully negotiated (by luck or by design) all those horrible barriers that can make getting that close to someone you like seem almost impossible.

To me it means it's all relatively plain sailing from here, I can do the rest, that hard bit is over.

Socialising / flirting properly / small talk / dating etc is the hard bit.

Kissing / touching / not speaking / cuddling / sex etc. is the easy bit.

For me anyway.


I thought that's the bit where things do get hard? :lol:


Well certainly imo yes... the build-up challenge part I find easier, although certainly not easy... but when actually with someone I panic more lol which begs the question - why do I put myself in for this sorta thing when I panic more 'with' someone lol. But I do it anyway. :D


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22 Jul 2007, 9:12 am

Dammit, some people kiss,
and that's all it is. Like a hug
or a handshake. Don't count on
it meaning anything. Take it within
the whole context.

Then again, some people have sex,
and that's all it is.



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22 Jul 2007, 10:27 am

HelloHello wrote:
Asparval wrote:
If you are on the recieving end and you find the kisser attractive it means you have succesfully negotiated (by luck or by design) all those horrible barriers that can make getting that close to someone you like seem almost impossible.

To me it means it's all relatively plain sailing from here, I can do the rest, that hard bit is over.

Socialising / flirting properly / small talk / dating etc is the hard bit.

Kissing / touching / not speaking / cuddling / sex etc. is the easy bit.

For me anyway.


I thought that's the bit where things do get hard? :lol:


LOL, only if you are doing it right!



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22 Jul 2007, 10:44 am

(thinks) so that's where i'm going wrong



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22 Jul 2007, 2:02 pm

Its funny how genders do operate so differently. As a guy if I kissed a girl on the lips, yeah, that's pretty much a "There, I just broke the first boundary for ya - we're good". When a woman does it, she probably does like the guy but she's trying to hack his brain through his lips and figure out what he feels for her, how real it is, and it all comes from the subtle movements of the kiss itself and how he does it.



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22 Jul 2007, 5:44 pm

how the heck did kissing get started, anyway? who decided sucking on someone's mouth could be romantic? and whose brilliant idea was it to get tongues involved?

blech! let's just cuddle, thx.



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22 Jul 2007, 6:23 pm

bc1 wrote:
how the heck did kissing get started, anyway? who decided sucking on someone's mouth could be romantic? and whose brilliant idea was it to get tongues involved?

blech! let's just cuddle, thx.


You'd be surprised just how much natural instinct has to do with things. Its like when you hit your teens and realize you have a sex drive, no one needs to teach you how to...well...you follow what I'm saying. I think kissing follows that same program, though I don't know if people would be as good at it or think about it as much at first. Then again I can't imagine how that must have been back in the days when we were wearing animal skins, people probably walked around with morning breath all day long and eating some half-cooked buffalo probably didn't help much either (shudders...).



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22 Jul 2007, 8:55 pm

Morning breath can taste good.