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cdmeyer
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 Posted: Mon Aug 15, 2005 9:13 pm Post subject: roommate worries |
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| Im going to college in a couple days, my first year. Ive decided to have a roommate. Im wondering if i should explain to her about Asperger's. Im worried that my AS tendancies will turn her away from me like they did in middle school and high school. Im afraid i'll refuse to do something she tells me to do. Or i'll just isolate myself from her. I do know that she may not understand it. But i feel i need to talk to her about it. Is it a good idea or not? |
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lowfreq50
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| Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2005 12:18 am Post subject: |
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| It's a good idea to tell her, rather than having her confused about your behavior. The best-case scenario is that she is curious about it and wants to learn more. |
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hell_grey
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| Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2005 3:17 am Post subject: |
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| I don't think it would hurt anything. if i were you i would wait a few days to see what she's like and then if i still felt a need to explain and i didn't think she'd freak out about it i would definitely let her know. |
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aspiegirl2
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| Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2005 3:54 am Post subject: |
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I would let her know as well. The more she knows the more understanding she is likely to be. It would probably be hard to tell her because you don't know her, and Asperger's could be a very personal issue for some people, while for others it's not that big of a deal. But yeah, I also agree with waiting a little bit to get to know your roomate a little better before telling her about Asperger's.
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lowfreq50
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| Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2005 4:36 am Post subject: |
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Yeah, you never know . . . your roommate might turn out to be a very agreeable person.  |
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alexj
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I have got the same dilemna at work. My current choice is not to tell people about my AS. I just let them know details about me (even if not totally accurate) that may explain my weirdness and avoid them to be hurt or irritated by my behavior.
I have made clear that I don't like spending two hours for a meal, nor being surrounded by smokers when eating, and so on. So my colleagues and boss accept that I never go to the restaurant with them.
I also insisted on my absent-mindness. So when I don't understand others' intentions, for instance having missed somebody about to kiss me good-morning, or not realizing that I have to answer a question, my colleagues just laugh at me because they think I'm woolgathering as usually.
Maybe one day I will tell the truth to one or two people who are really nice with me  . But at the moment, I prefer to observe their level of tolerance.
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jmatucd
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it may be better to try to pas yourself as eccentric and then try to push some of the better traits out and center
but, then again, thats just me
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Namiko
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| Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2005 9:42 pm Post subject: |
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At all the schools I'm applying to, they have a detailled questionnaire to match you with the best roommate they can, or the most logical choice. But I would wait for a few days before telling your roommate, just to be cautious. Best case scenario is that she'll be curious and accepting.  Worst case, you might be able to ask for a different roommate.
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cdmeyer
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| thank you all for your suggestions. I moved in today and i ended up telling her. She understood and even promised to help me make more friends. She seemed curious. thanks again. |
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Namiko
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Yay! I'm really glad that worked out for you.
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