I can never get the right words off...

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I was around this woman for about a week now, and she was so amazing... I really think I may have actually loved her (I say "think i may have" because I can never determine these feelings in the short amount of time we had been around each other). She's the first person I had really developed any feelings for in over a year and a half, and I ended up only being able to say that she was a "wonderful person", instead of really telling her how I feel... Now she is leaving on a plane really early tomorrow, and while she and I are still friends with each other, I'm probably never going to see her again...

Why does it have to be that every time I think of the feelings of love, I get so paralyzed that I can't truly act on those feelings? Why couldn't I start a relationship right here, right now? Even if it was to be one separated by 1000 miles, it would still be a relationship...

(PS: these latest events literally just happened about 10 minutes before this post, so I'm not in the best of moods right now...)

I don't know if this is any consolation, but I don't think that a "confession" would have worked miracles - she was planning to go, so probably she would have left anyway.

So, now that you are apart, think for a while and if you still feel the same, tell her! I guess that you have a way of communication, and now that you don't face her, you won't freeze, and she won't feel threatened in any way (don't get me wrong - likely she wouldn't consider you a stalker, but anyway the "real life" situation could be awkward for her too).

You see, I'm in a resembling situation, but our distance is much shorter. We are exchanging PMs. I don't know if anything will come out of it, but I think she's superb and now she knows that.

Sometimes confessions like that, given the wrong way can backfire. Reflect, then respond since you have the time with her. If you're dealing with someone new, act faster

I've decided that I'm going to start being more forward. I still don't want to follow the fastly tiring alpha-male routine, but I need to act faster.

Yeah I guess you guys are right about this...

I'm just trying to be faster because that's what 98% of the world wants...

This is sad but at the same time probably for the best.
To change your relationship by confessing to this women at the last second would've suddenly made it a different, strange situation.

Maybe I've been spending too much time studying drama... the situation that keeps going thru my mind is that I'm doing some group activity, maybe some kind of volunteer project, since I've met the easiest people to get along with on volunteer projects like habitat and what not...

Anyway, I would be somewhere for a week and would be around woman X, developing feelings for her as the week progresses. It wouldn't peak until the very end. That's the situation I keep finding myself in...