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Ashton
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 Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 7:48 am Post subject: Asexuality. |
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Is anybody else out there Asexual? And no, I don't mean the biological definition that once can reproduce with one's self, I mean the other definition. As in a person who doesn't experience sexual attraction towards either gender. It's also not a choice....
I certainly am. I don't like girls, I don't like boys. Sexual attraction is seemingly non-existent for me. I very very rarely have any sort of a sexual response to anyone, and when I do, it's towards a girl, and lasts for all of 2.34x10^-8 seconds before I then go "No thanks" and go about my business. My non-Aspie friends really don't seem to accept this, or understand it. Being as close-minded as they are, they think that I'm a "homo", which by their logic is since I don't like girls, then I must be gay, even though I most certainly am not.
/sigh.
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Catster2
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| Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 7:59 am Post subject: |
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| Yeah I think I am asexual I am female and have had a couple of relationships but am far happier without a relationship. I am facinated about sex but not excited or feel attraction towards people. It is much higher in Aspies to be asexual you aren't alone. |
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Ashton
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| Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 8:31 am Post subject: |
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| Catster2 wrote: | | Yeah I think I am asexual I am female and have had a couple of relationships but am far happier without a relationship. I am facinated about sex but not excited or feel attraction towards people. It is much higher in Aspies to be asexual you aren't alone. |
Thank god. So I'm not crazy after all? 
Yes, I feel the exact same way. I've had a girlfriend in the past, didn't work out, we just didn't connect. And in comparison, I do prefer not being in a relationship. It's just less anxiety for me.....
I also have a problem where I serisouly have issues talking to the female species. I really get scared whenever I have to talk to them, I feel like my every movement is being judged, and I get really uncomfortable. Its to the point where I almost avoid contact altogether with girls, because I just get so damn uncomfortable.
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Sunfell
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| Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 9:16 am Post subject: |
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Yup. No interest in either sex, no drive or desire to reproduce, no attraction to babies and kids. I know a lot about sex- probably more than your average hormone-addled person, and I've learned enough about body language in males to know when they've stopped seeing -me- (if they ever do perceive me) as a person and instead as an object. I've sometimes caught flack from them for not smiling enough- apparently, a thoughtful, unsmiling female is some sort of existential threat to their egos or something.
I had a hard time with this as a youngster- people all around me were going boy-crazy, and I was totally bored and indifferent. I was treated like some sort of freak or weirdo, and my mom even asked me if I was a lesbian. I told her that girls left me just as cold as boys did. At least she never pressured me to date or marry. I was ardently pursued by males as a younger woman- and even almost married, but bailed at the last minute.
I still don't see what the fuss is all about- perhaps it's like being color-blind, but I don't miss it. Seems to me that the sex-drive is more problematic than anything else, judging by the trouble people get into. I have accepted myself as I am, and no longer waste any time on it. My life is my own, peaceful and serene and rich with other interests. |
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Willard
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Location: Confederate States of America
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| Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 11:00 am Post subject: |
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I had a friend several years back whom I now strongly suspect is also on the ASD spectrum, who exhibited that sort of disinterest in things sexual. Of course, it was all the more obvious because we were in our twenties, at a time when the socio-sexual behaviors are usually at their peak, but I did notice that though he clearly recognized the relative sexual attractiveness of individual females, he just never seemed to have any impulse to pursue the matter. One time I introduced him to a female friend of mine in whom he expressed an actual interest (I was pleasantly shocked that he asked about her), but even though I acted as go-between and made sure the interest was mutual and even gave him her phone number, he never did a thing about it. It's a puzzlement to me, I have the opposite problem, but I do think it's not uncommon among those on the spectrum.
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ScherezadeJM
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| Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2008 6:31 am Post subject: |
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| My sister (not an Aspie) is asexual. It is perfectly normal, but for some reason I seem to be the only one in our community who understands this... |
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deathchibi
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Foringinn
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| Not asexual, but I have sexual anhedonia. Not wery fun. |
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aspiebeauty87
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I'm guessing i'm very asexual cuz i don't really like boys yet i just pretend to belong with people my age but i don't so i hang out with 12-17 yr olds because i don't belong in my age group which sucks
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chrism
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| Posted: Tue Jul 22, 2008 12:15 am Post subject: |
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i like boobies! and im attracted to them... boobs are a chris magnet 
umm but apart from that im rarely attracted to people... i've had 4 girlfriends in the past 4 months but thats all |
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KiyokosOnlyOnigiri
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I'm personally unsure where I am on that continuum, but I think there is such a possibility of asexuality. There's almost no 'crush'-ing here, in my head. Then again, most people in my current world of group-home-kiddie-jail-stuff-whatever pretty much seems unfit for a mature relationship - with ANYONE. They say they are gay, but most people there, when they leave, get pregnant through sex with some guy. This is why I consider myself asexual, at least for now.
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GNRfan
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| Posted: Mon Jul 28, 2008 7:20 pm Post subject: |
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| I used to have a friend who was i think, he obviously wasn't gay but , he showed ZERO attraction towards women , like i'd say " wow that girl sarah in our math class sure is a cutie!" and he'd just try to go onto some other topic. It's a shame and blessing for thoose who are asexual i think , cause although you don't get to experience marriage and love and such you don't have put up with all the friggin mind games girls are always pulling. |
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Ann-D-Rew
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| Posted: Fri Aug 01, 2008 10:16 pm Post subject: |
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| Ya I deffinetly hear where you're comin from, I'm not asexual, but have a relitively low sex drive. In fact it takes a curtan type of woman, to do some things in a curtan way for me to get excited. |
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StrawberryJam
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Location: Lexington Kentucky
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| Posted: Fri Aug 01, 2008 10:52 pm Post subject: |
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i thought i was asexual for a while, since i never really cared about people in that way. meh, everyone looks the same to me usually, no one jumps out at me as being "sexy" or anything. well, untill i met my current boyfriend, in my view hes the only "sexy" person in the world XD weve been dating for 10 monthes now, after me having gone through 12 relationships i didnt really want to be in but was only in because the other person asked and i didnt see a reason to say no, and those relationships never made it past 2 monthes before i just didnt want to be around the person anymore.
yeah XD totally
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philosopherBoi
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| Posted: Thu Aug 07, 2008 5:05 pm Post subject: |
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| I'm not asexual I am guy-sexual though. Anyways did I see something about Aspies having a higher chance being asexual??? |
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