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princesseli
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 Posted: Thu Jun 12, 2008 3:41 am Post subject: High School |
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| Is there anyone else who's social skills were messed up because of highschool? In highschool I was very quiet, shy and barely said anything. I always used to think that you had to have some sort of permission to talk to someone. Like you mostly speak to your friends and you shouldnt be talking to other people. Well since I had no friends, I talked to no one for the majority of highschool. |
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Bradleigh
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| Posted: Thu Jun 12, 2008 5:23 am Post subject: |
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yeah I had some problems and couldnt talk to many people. by going through it have also become a bit tougher from bullies. I often dont know if I am suposed to talk to people, such as in chemistry and we had to go into groups, I was unable to join a group and felt that I needed permission from them or somthing. luckily I somtimes some girls often would ask me to join them.
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woodsman25
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I was fortunate I think, morso then others, I had friends who I learned socialization from thru obvservation, and LOTS of practice, trial and error. If it were not for High School I probably would not be as good at socializing as I am today, I learned alot, and tho it was a difficult time, it certainly was very nessissary, many things both good and bad I will recall for the rest of my life, knowing that all and all it was the greatest leap in social ability I ever had or ever will have in life.
I grew up, and the kid is not VERY different from the adult, largly because of the lessons I learned in high school. I almost didnt make it this far in life, I count my blessings daily.
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JerryHatake
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They actually somehow improved through NJROTC and other things I did to be honest. So I'm the opposite here then I guess.
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Gifted-Monster
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In High School I became arrogant and viewed all my peer's that weren't Gifted as morons.
Still do, in fact. I retreated heavily into my shell and used a mask 85-96% of the time during High School.
I think High School teaches Aspergers good emotion-supressing technique's.
Plus and a minus.
*Shrugs* |
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princesseli
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I didnt quite complete my previous post
In highschool I learned:
1.If you dont hangout with someone, you dont say hi to them if you past them in the hallway which now Im having to unlearn that.
2.I also learned to ignore everyone in my classes because I got sooo sick of having to sit in class and listen to other peoples conversations knowing that I had no friends. Now meeting people in classes are almost impossible which was something my psych was encouraging me to do so I'd have more of an academic support network when I actually need it.
3. Had an overall lack of depth connections with any people I actually made acquintances/friends with which was only in my senior year. Only coming to college I am starting to get know people on a so much deeper level.
4. Got used to being constantly ignored. My psych tells me I have to learn about the impact I make upon people when I enter a room. In highschool I got the idea, I was a nobody, which I probably was. So its hard for me to realize that my presense actually means something.
To sum it up, I was a nobody, an outcast, I was constantly ignored, almost no one wanted to hang out with me or be friends. And my psych agree with me in saying highschool did no good for my social skills. It did things in which I have to strive right now to erase. |
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CaptainMac
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I'm messed up because high school WORKED for me.
Here's the deal. I met two good friends in sixth grade. They and I made some other friends the next year and I got to meet and like all of them. So we had a group of about ten of us who would always be together, all stemming from the original two guys I met (and introduced to each other) back in the day.
We all had our own quirks. One of the guys was hopelessly obsessed with politics. Another was a chronic failure on the dating scene. We had a guy who went from being very shy to very outgoing. There was also a guy who had a lot of phobias that he overcame. There was a girl who was always injured somehow. Another girl was caught between rebellion and being insecure. We were like a family, all there to look out for each other.
College comes around. We all get scattered in different directions. Somehow we all manage to keep in touch and still hang out with each other all the time. In fact, if someone ended up at the same school as another, chances are they always are hanging out.
However, if those guys aren't around I'm off in left field. Take that back--I'm not even in left field, I'm the guy who's supposed to be the left fielder but am somehow in center field.
People at college are immature, cliquish/elitist, and party all the time. If you aren't in their little group they hate you. Even the ones who claim to be in religious groups do that (I left a Bible Study because it was practically elitist).
I was spoiled by my days in high school. I had so many good friends--and still have a picture of all of us on my computer as the desktop. While I still have these folks around to talk to and hang out with, their schedules sometimes make it impossible (since they're often miles away). |
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