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beef_bourito
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 Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:59 am Post subject: where do you find time? |
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for all you ridiculously busy people out there, where do you find time to meet women?
i pretty much don't have any time to meet girls this summer. i wake up at 4:30, go to rowing, come back and eat between 8 and 9, work until evening practise, row until 7:30, come back, eat, sleep. saturdays are spent rowing until about 12, the rest of the day is spent running errands. sundays are spent recovering from the week.
the only place i can actually meet girls would be at the rowing club. i work for a wood restoration company (decks, siding, houses, etc. outdoor wood) so i deal pretty much exclusively with married women, old women, or men. i've only encountered one attractive girl at work, and i didn't get much of a chance to talk to her because i was busy working and she was busy doing chores. so that pretty much leaves the one girl at the club that i sort of fancy, but i'm rarely able to talk to her (practises are very busy) other than at our parties away from the club (we've had one so far).
edit: the question wasn't meant exclusively for guys, women are welcome to discuss how they have time to meet guys. |
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BigK
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| Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 9:33 am Post subject: |
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You have all day Sunday assuming that you have enough energy left to get out of bed 
A bigger problem is finding someone content to be a 'rowing widow'.
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LILI
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You live in Ottawa? Are you at the club at Dow's lake? There are plenty of girls there of all ages. Since you are into rowing maybe it's there that you will meet someone, at competitions or other such events if not on your team. The Ottawa dragon boat competition is also a big weekend meat-fest. You could join a team for that or just hang out at the event. The entire city goes there....however, I think you missed this year's event already.
If you don't meet someone in that context, there is always the wine and food show in the fall and the Gala later. But, these events can get pretty crowded and expensive.
I just returned back home after living 5 single long years in Ottawa. it's not the best dating city, unless you meet someone by chance at work or in a sports club. I tried the Running Room, a swim team, triathlon training, Tae kwon Do, yoga, dragon boat, wine and food show, etc......it was always the same people and they were either old and married or too young for me....
most of my friends were in the same situation and just gave up and decided to try online dating on Lavalife. it's a pretty popular way to meet in ottawa. |
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Zane
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| Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 2:36 pm Post subject: |
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I don't. Women really are not that important. What is much more important is you finding yourself and then the rest will follow.
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Veresae
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| Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 6:17 pm Post subject: |
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| Find women who are busy doing the things you are busy doing I guess. |
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beef_bourito
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| Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:08 pm Post subject: |
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| LILI wrote: | You live in Ottawa? Are you at the club at Dow's lake? There are plenty of girls there of all ages. Since you are into rowing maybe it's there that you will meet someone, at competitions or other such events if not on your team. The Ottawa dragon boat competition is also a big weekend meat-fest. You could join a team for that or just hang out at the event. The entire city goes there....however, I think you missed this year's event already.
If you don't meet someone in that context, there is always the wine and food show in the fall and the Gala later. But, these events can get pretty crowded and expensive.
I just returned back home after living 5 single long years in Ottawa. it's not the best dating city, unless you meet someone by chance at work or in a sports club. I tried the Running Room, a swim team, triathlon training, Tae kwon Do, yoga, dragon boat, wine and food show, etc......it was always the same people and they were either old and married or too young for me....
most of my friends were in the same situation and just gave up and decided to try online dating on Lavalife. it's a pretty popular way to meet in ottawa. |
no, i row at the ottawa rowing club just off sussex, right in front of the UAE embassy. i only have one regatta around the canoe club and that's in september, other than that i'm never there. and there's no chance i'd join the dragon boat race, i've got enough on my plate athletically right now lol.
and i've heard of lavalife working pretty well, but i'd rather try on my own first and i'll use it if i get desperate. right now i don't mind being single that bad so i won't bother with lavalife.
btw, my sister met her fiancé on lavalife, they're getting married in september.
| BigK wrote: | | A bigger problem is finding someone content to be a 'rowing widow'. |
so true, although i'm trying to change jobs so i might have more free time. |
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Fnord
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| Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:18 pm Post subject: Re: where do you find time? |
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| beef_bourito wrote: | | for all you ridiculously busy people out there, where do you find time to meet women? |
Well, I'm married, but I still meet women for the first time at work, at church, at the store, in the park, on the beach, and almost everywhere else.
The key is for you to be where the women are, and not to isolate yourself in your own interests ... like, somewhere out on the water in a rowboat all by yourself.
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beef_bourito
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| Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:41 pm Post subject: Re: where do you find time? |
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| Fnord wrote: | | The key is for you to be where the women are, and not to isolate yourself in your own interests ... like, somewhere out on the water in a rowboat all by yourself. |
oh there are girls all around on the water, they're just too slow for me to talk to them lol, not to mention we're all too busy with something else. my coach would yell at me if the girls were keeping up with or going faster than us |
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LILI
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| Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 9:32 pm Post subject: |
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I understand how you feel about lavalife. I have not felt the need to use it yet either, even if it's popularity is growing and many friends have had success with it. I still believe in meeting in person, randomly.
I am sure you'll find someone despite your crazy schedule, don't compromise just to find someone.
Good luck and keep us posted! |
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techstepgenr8tion
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| Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 9:39 pm Post subject: |
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| Zane wrote: | | I don't. Women really are not that important. What is much more important is you finding yourself and then the rest will follow. |
Agreed, getting yourself establish is extremely important for at least having a stable relationship and a lasting paradigm of self to work off of and offer.
On the other hand though, I hear what Beef_Burrito is saying, as when you may have all that already (don't know if he does or doesn't, sounds like he's occupied in things he really enjoys), its a bit of a stuck cycle and you can't help but feel that innactivity in terms of changing things up or going to enough new places is keeping you in the same spot. Myself, I don't know anymore, you can even meet the right person but *how* you meet them still seems to matter more as well as what kind of state you're both in; that's really out of everyone's control. |
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techstepgenr8tion
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| Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 9:43 pm Post subject: |
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beef_bourito, not too many venues really anymore. Best seem to be house parties that friends throw, particularly if you have friends who are good for the networking. Then again, as busy as you are, I've noticed something even just watching friend's relationships, that it takes a toll.
That said though, Saturday nights if any of your friends like to hit up the exclusive bar strip down town (most major cities have 'that' area) or friends with a house on a lake and a boat or whatever, pull those connections in - you'll come up empty a lot but you'll at least have some fun. As for the errands, Saturdays you may have to really condense things. On the rowing as well, if its something you do competitively, have olympic ambitions, I wouldn't stop but if you think it is interfering with the amount of free time for other things that you have and you see it just as a hobby, you may want to cut back to maybe 2 or 3 nights a week if possible just to allow for other things to crop up and to have some more free time. |
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Fnord
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| Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 9:44 pm Post subject: Re: where do you find time? |
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| beef_bourito wrote: | | Fnord wrote: | | The key is for you to be where the women are, and not to isolate yourself in your own interests ... like, somewhere out on the water in a rowboat all by yourself. |
oh there are girls all around on the water, they're just too slow for me to talk to them lol, not to mention we're all too busy with something else. my coach would yell at me if the girls were keeping up with or going faster than us |
I understand; it's your coach's fault.
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beef_bourito
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| Posted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 8:53 am Post subject: |
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| techstepgenr8tion wrote: | | That said though, Saturday nights if any of your friends like to hit up the exclusive bar strip down town (most major cities have 'that' area) or friends with a house on a lake and a boat or whatever, pull those connections in - you'll come up empty a lot but you'll at least have some fun. As for the errands, Saturdays you may have to really condense things. On the rowing as well, if its something you do competitively, have olympic ambitions, I wouldn't stop but if you think it is interfering with the amount of free time for other things that you have and you see it just as a hobby, you may want to cut back to maybe 2 or 3 nights a week if possible just to allow for other things to crop up and to have some more free time. |
i've got a few parties coming up (two things this sat, and a canada day party on tues), but both are going to mostly have people i know already.
and as for the rowing, it's competitive so i can't really cut back. i guess you could say i've got olympic ambitions, because that's the dream everyone has, but in reality i just want to go as far as i possibly can, if that means olympics then that's great, if it's just university and club, that's fine too. i think i'm just going to have to wait for november before i have any kind of time because i row club during the summer, and university during the fall (sep-oct). |
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flailure
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| Posted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 10:03 am Post subject: |
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| Veresae wrote: | | Find women who are busy doing the things you are busy doing I guess. |
Amen to that. You're far more likely to find someone with whom you're compatible if you meet while pursuing common goals and aspirations.
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