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matsuiny2004
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 Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 5:17 pm Post subject: ways of coping with your depression and building self esteem |
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When I was very depressed I felt that my life was going nowhere and not matter what happened it seemed to suck. Now I take medication to help me with my depression, but for some people medication does not work and others may still feel depressed at times even after taking medication. For those people I decided to write a list of what may be able to help them feel better.
Watch something funny, if you are feeling like nothing is going right watching a funny show or movie should help you feel better.
Find an activity you enjoy doing
remind yourself of the things you do right
write a journal about the positive events and experiences you have had in life
accept and look at your faults
build your selfconfidence
feel free to add what you have done to cope with your depression and boost you selfesteem
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asplanet
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| Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 9:45 pm Post subject: |
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I do agree that medication does not work for everyone, it never did not me... the thing that worked best was being diagnosed with aspergers which helped me to understand who I am and allow for my differences.
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Social_Fantom
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| Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 10:03 pm Post subject: |
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I'm glad this was stickyed (however it's spelled)
I've found that singing my favorite positive songs helps me feel better. 
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MR_BOGAN
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| Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 10:19 pm Post subject: |
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A way I make myself feel good, is just mentally fight any bad moods you are in and after a while they pass.
Also try to think positively about things if you can, if you start thinking that everything is just going to be bad, you will make things worse than they actually are. You may also ignore good things that happen to you. Things are usually never as bad as you make them out to be.
Also separate wants from needs. If you have food shelter all you needs are met, everything as is a want. Do not feel like you need any wants you have. But also if you want something try and get it, do not feel like you need to have it though.
Also if you be nice to someone, that also makes you feel good. Like the saying it is better to give than recieve.
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Social_Fantom
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| Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 10:31 pm Post subject: |
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^ One thing you said there goes along with what I'm getting ready to say.
Instead of focusing on the things in your life that are bad, try to be thankful for the good things in your life. Just remember that your life could be worse than it seems to be.
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asplanet
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| Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 10:51 pm Post subject: |
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While I agree there are so many ways to make uorselves feel better and myself exercise, dancing, music.... the list goes on. But I also need down time, its a part of who I am and have learnt not to feel bad about wanting to shut others out for a while...
When feeling low we know all know there are people worse off etc... but if you need to withdraw and feel sorry for yourself, do not feel bad... us aspies tend to need down time now and again... I call it my injured animal time where I retreat for a bit, just need my our space for a while, time not to over think, worry.. but just to be... it can be exsourcing having to fit into a world that does not fully understand us all...
Before being diagnosed I use to feel I was depressed, but now know its not the case, its just the way I am, thats why learning to understand ourselves, our needs is vital to accepting who we are. Since being diagnosed I no longer feel depressed, and have stopped feeling guilty about needing time out, its all too easy to try and please everyone else, and become overloaded, maybe one day others will be more accepting of our needs and we will all be allowed to just be....
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Starr
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Yes, I was going to add what asplanet wrote about exercise, it definitely helps me when I'm depressed even if it takes a real effort to go for a walk or a swim, I always feel better for it.
Also, don't overwhelm yourself with too many stressful or boring things all at once. If you've got stuff you have to do that's stressful, give yourself some time to do something you enjoy, even if you only have half an hour or so for yourself. It helps.
Remember, the depression won't last forever. That's my mantra for when I'm in the pits. I tell myself that eventually it'll pass. And it does. |
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MissConstrue
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Yes I went through many years with depression and tried so hard to get rid of it. Eventually it got worse and I was put into 2 hospitals for suicide. Can't describe the feeling to someone who hasn't had it that bad or experienced the overwhelming feeling that everything is out of one's control that it's not worth the effort.
Later, I realized alcohol helped me through it for a while along with my social quirks. Thing is, it progressed into needing it everyday as well as pills I shouldn't have taken. It got that bad that again, without the effort of trying to take my life, I was put in another hospital.
OK, to make a long story short, I got on meds but it took a while for me to adjust with this drastic change as well as drinking. One of them things I still have to watch out for. I've slipped into many cracks thinking I could get away with the same stuff that got me in trouble in the first place and then found myself in a place resembling HELL...well close to it, prison. I found that rehab and AA meetings did help me in many ways because of the people there. I at least didn't feel I was alone with those strange feelings. AA meetings aren't exclusively about alcohol in case anyone wants to know. It was part of of what helped me figure myself out a little without the drugs and drinking, but it's something that doesn't go away.
Anyway, good thread matusiny. I can't say I don't have issues with my self esteem but I guess it's still a learning process. I was put down a lot as a child as well as the rest of my family from my own dad who happened to be an alcoholic himself.
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asplanet
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| MissConstrue wrote: | | Anyway, good thread matusiny. I can't say I don't have issues with my self esteem but I guess it's still a learning process. I was put down a lot as a child as well as the rest of my family from my own dad who happened to be an alcoholic himself. |
First I agree great thread.
Miss Construe I can so relate, my mother was a alcoholic and growing up had no self esteem. Has taken me years, but to be honest only really feel I started to understand myself fully when I found Aspergers last year, before life never made sense...
I also drank to try and fit in, helped at first. But of course its a depressant in itself, so long term only made things worse. I am not totally sure AA is the right place for people on the autism spectrum, can understand why it helped you. I when a few times in the past, but never felt I belonged, different from the others somehow... what I mean by this is that quite often what ever I do can be to excess, thats my obsessive tendencies I guess. So if not alcohol, it would be coffee, over exercise, over eat, not eat... if I am out of control it can be for many reasons... I guess it was a cry for help especially when younger, but since finding and understanding myself, and realizing my symptoms are in fact a part of who I am... it has totally changed my life around, I have a new found confidence and belief in myself. If your feeling lost, there really is hope and others that understand...
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Give to someone who needs help. Volunteer work is good for the community, your fellow man, and your soul.
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Deathisi
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| Posted: Fri Aug 01, 2008 1:33 pm Post subject: |
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I find that talking to friends can help, it doesn't matter what it is about, but feeling like i fit-in helps alot i find.
Also I disagree that alcohol is bad in the long run, I can see how too much can have a very negative effect, but just the right amount (mixed with friends and music) can help relieve alot of life’s stresses aswell.
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Nairin
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I'll just share what helped me.
I once had stress-related depressive episodes and it helped me to write the cause of stress's name on a piece of paper or draw a picture to represent it, take song lyrics that remind me of the situation and write them on sticky notes, stick the notes all over the picture/names until it's covered with sticky notes, and burn it.
My self-esteem went up when I looked in the mirror and saw myself standing up straight with a calm and cool expression on my face. Standing up straight made a lot of difference to me because I was always slouching, and I liked my facial expression, so I was happy. Also, finding a fun type of exercise can be good, but it has to be enjoyable. I know that going to a gym and working out would make my self-esteem worse, but I love swimming and walking in the woods, so I do that. It might have made me lose weight, it may not have, but I feel better in my body now.
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peterd
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| Posted: Wed Sep 03, 2008 8:59 am Post subject: |
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<quote>I find that talking to friends can help, it doesn't matter what it is about, but feeling like i fit-in helps alot i find. </quote>
Friends? How does that work? |
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Funaho
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| Posted: Wed Sep 03, 2008 11:34 am Post subject: |
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| Quote: | | I find that talking to friends can help, it doesn't matter what it is about, but feeling like i fit-in helps alot i find. |
Friends are supposed to listen? Mine don't. I haven't had anyone to talk to about anything since my therapist went out of business six months ago.
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