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20 Jul 2008, 9:32 am

I'm going to ask about this, to see if there is one in my area.

It would be so helpful (and yet would probably be hurtful too) to have a coach to say "That's enough". Like when starting a conversation, to know where to shut up and not anything else.

Or to have them say "Can you edit that down?" Those are things I get a lot of crap for doing, going on too much, saying too much, writing too much.

I think ALL the details are important. And the more I think about something, the more details I find.

Even things like posture would help, because I know I slouch much more now than I did when I was younger. I'm tired. Ha! And I'm in pain.

I avoid looking in the mirror, because I look miserable. I used to spend much more time on my appearance, but after my back went bad, it's too much effort.

And so are all the social things, the physical parts are too much. Standing or going places. But it would still be good to know what to do. I'm tired of people making fun of me or picking on me.



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20 Jul 2008, 9:50 pm

Does anyone know how to find one of these classes locally, like a specific site that lists them or something? I'm definitely interested if there's one in or close to Rochester, New York, and Google isn't turning up anything obvious.



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20 Jul 2008, 10:14 pm

I was forced to take one and the instructor was the most patronizing, condescending, annoying, miserable excuse for an educator I have ever seen.

Her advice I had learned already and she didn't know how to properly give advice, meaning the class was essentially useless.



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22 Jul 2008, 2:52 pm

I'm interested in going to something like this. Unfortunately I don't know if there are any around and I have no transportation (driving is hard!). The only way I could probably get to one of these is if I was on disability. My social skills aren't that bad but they've been crappy in recent years without my meds and not being in school.



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31 Jul 2008, 2:39 pm

Just wanted to give everyone an update.

I still can't get any information on what time the class is supposed to start. It was supposed to start on the first Monday in August, which is this coming Monday yet the one that knows anything about it isn't returning my calls. I'm beginning to wonder if it will even happen. :?


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01 Aug 2008, 11:12 am

WonderWoman wrote:
I don't think it's your last and only hope...I had been treating myself as best I could all my life. I read books on how to make conversation on how to make friends...I watched people interact.

...I picked up the book about how to have a conversation...And the book on making friends basically suggested that I join activities where people are doing what I like to do...And there are probably tons...that you could find.

...We Aspergians have much to offer to the world. There are a lot of kool people out there who can see that.


You've got some really good ideas! I can see why you're called WonderWoman (lol).

I'm in high school right now and I took a social skills class last year with 3 or 4 other students. The teacher was nice, helpful, intelligent, patient, and had really good ideas on how to help us (she was also a big fan of yoga). We discussed what is or isn't appropriate to do during a conversation, practiced having conversations with each other, and one time the teacher showed us a couple of clips from separate movies to observe and interpret the emotions and interactions between the characters.

She helped me with issues I had with tone of voice, body language, learning not to "dump information" on other people and give them chances to speak, and explaining why these and other such things are important in social interactions. I've also taken social skills during summer school both this and last summer.

Based on my personal experience with social skills classes, they can be very helpful and are a great chance to meet new people and practice making conversation. I hope you'll find it as useful and enjoyable as I have Social Fantom.



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01 Aug 2008, 5:28 pm

^ Thanks, all of you make it sound promising. :D

Another update:

I basically stalked the person that is teaching the class today until I finally got a definite time. It's going to be 1:00 pm every Monday starting either on the 18th or 25th, not on the first Monday in August like I was originally told. 1:00 in the afternoon is actually very ideal because it won't affect any of my college classes that much at all. If it were in the morning though it would have thrown a wrench into everything.

But that sucks though, I was looking forward to it on Monday. Now I have to wait even longer for my life to change. :x


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02 Aug 2008, 9:45 pm

Nutterbug wrote:
Do they have remedial social training classes in schools for those who need them nowadays? Or do they not cater to such a niche?

They have a social skills/study skills program at my high school and middle school on vista, ca. I don't knw how many more of these programs have been launched though.


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03 Aug 2008, 1:50 am

I had a similar thread, titled "Social Training – Did You Benefit?"
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt72945.html

No need to comment in both.
I just figured I'd mention.



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04 Aug 2008, 12:55 am

I've attended a social skills course, and it helped me a lot!


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