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PostPosted: Sun Jul 20, 2008 11:20 pm    Post subject: blowing things way out of proportion, but not on purpose? Reply with quote

Everybody says I overact or blow things way out of proportion. I honestly dont realize it, I just cant control my emotions, so i get really angry over nothing, or really upset of the stupidest things, and take it to the extreme, i mean my daily schedule and routine are predictable do the exact same thing everyday, but my moods, my language, my ticcing, my sensory problems, my stimming, my level of functioning are allll very unpredictable, so i can go from rocking in my own world and literally seconds later meltdown to the point i attack somebody over moving my phone one place to the next. To everybody else it was blowing things way out of proportion, but to me, that moment, my scratches on my legs were getting stuck to my pants bothering me, my hair was in my mouth, their were weird noises everywhere, and the flipping of the tv channels was bothering me, so moving my phone just set me off like a timebomb. Anyways Does anybody here ever blow things way out of proportion, but not on purpose, or not knowing their doing it?
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PostPosted: Sun Jul 20, 2008 11:38 pm    Post subject: Re: blowing things way out of proportion, but not on purpose Reply with quote

Age1600 wrote:
Everybody says I overact or blow things way out of proportion. I honestly dont realize it, I just cant control my emotions, so i get really angry over nothing, or really upset of the stupidest things, and take it to the extreme, i mean my daily schedule and routine are predictable do the exact same thing everyday, but my moods, my language, my ticcing, my sensory problems, my stimming, my level of functioning are allll very unpredictable, so i can go from rocking in my own world and literally seconds later meltdown to the point i attack somebody over moving my phone one place to the next. To everybody else it was blowing things way out of proportion, but to me, that moment, my scratches on my legs were getting stuck to my pants bothering me, my hair was in my mouth, their were weird noises everywhere, and the flipping of the tv channels was bothering me, so moving my phone just set me off like a timebomb. Anyways Does anybody here ever blow things way out of proportion, but not on purpose, or not knowing their doing it?


Yes. It has happened to me. On occasion my mind has a tendency to take things out of proportion and think something is much worse than it really is. When that happens, I will become very obsessed about it night and day. Kind of a meltdown in your mind in a manner of speaking but I will not lash out physically. They may come up suddenly are very intense but will also blow over very quickly as well.
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PostPosted: Sun Jul 20, 2008 11:38 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well there is often a breaking point, the thing is that people tend to only look at what it was that set you off but realy everything should be taken into acount. I have done things like this before like had a meltdown and was yelling at my brither who only did one little thing wrong at the time, yet it was the continuos noise that I had that day. I have done it where I get realy angry at someone and then I get told they were only jokeing, but that does not make it any less hurtfull.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 12:33 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

It's always the smallest of details that be grating on Omar, not the major issue. If you got a torn shirt, you replace it, but if you just got a couple of buttons missing at some disadvantageous positions so your gut be busting out like you in you'll drop into labor at any beat...then things get annoying.

'course you can always them needles and threads and sew that ShirT up...just careful you dont prick your fingers.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 12:39 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

All the time.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 12:43 am    Post subject: Re: blowing things way out of proportion, but not on purpose Reply with quote

Age1600 wrote:
Everybody says I overact or blow things way out of proportion. I honestly dont realize it, I just cant control my emotions, so i get really angry over nothing, or really upset of the stupidest things, and take it to the extreme, i mean my daily schedule and routine are predictable do the exact same thing everyday, but my moods, my language, my ticcing, my sensory problems, my stimming, my level of functioning are allll very unpredictable, so i can go from rocking in my own world and literally seconds later meltdown to the point i attack somebody over moving my phone one place to the next. To everybody else it was blowing things way out of proportion, but to me, that moment, my scratches on my legs were getting stuck to my pants bothering me, my hair was in my mouth, their were weird noises everywhere, and the flipping of the tv channels was bothering me, so moving my phone just set me off like a timebomb. Anyways Does anybody here ever blow things way out of proportion, but not on purpose, or not knowing their doing it?


I do the same thing, I just overreact and obsess on something and cannot stop thinking about it, complaining about it. I don't attack anyone, I just feel really anxious and panicky and cannot stop thinking about something I find worrisome. It usually happens when I have to go someplace that is very crowded like a restaraunt or a movie theatre.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 1:06 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yes. I have and done it alot.

I tend to worry about it a long time after.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 1:55 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I have triggers, I guess. It's not really random things that make me crazy, it's the same things. Usual Aspie things, noise, light, crowds, etc.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 2:03 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I feel sorry for the people whose lives I've made unpleasant by overreacting. I am much much more considerate now.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 2:18 am    Post subject: Re: blowing things way out of proportion, but not on purpose Reply with quote

Age1600 wrote:
Everybody says I overact or blow things way out of proportion. I honestly dont realize it, I just cant control my emotions, so i get really angry over nothing, or really upset of the stupidest things, and take it to the extreme

Yes, I'm very volatile ("labile" mood/affect as the shrinks call it). When things are bad, they are very bad-when I'm sad/mad, it's accumulation of all the times I've ever felt that way before & I'm mad/sad about all those memories, too. Am not an effective (mental) compartmentalizer.
In the moment, I have awful temper & am easily irritated & become hostile, resentful, defensive. May "know better", on some distant intellectual level, but that carries no weight, has no influence over my immediate extreme reaction-other than to add "feeling bad about feeling bad".
Age1600 wrote:
Anyways Does anybody here ever blow things way out of proportion, but not on purpose, or not knowing their doing it?

Sometimes it's "one little thing" by itself, sometimes it's "that last little thing". Either way, whatever's happening & bothering me now is what predominates & is "the end of the world" for me, according to my perception.
Am never intentionally choosing to be difficult, excessive, or problematic (for self or others). I freak out because whatever really does thoroughly feel like a crisis, unbearable, & I need help. Can't do that "futurebrain" magic trick where one imagines future that holds promise of amelioration, relief, satisfaction, or forgetting-and somehow that "vision" or belief is supposed to enable me to "control myself" in the present & not flip out over every little thing ?
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 2:49 am    Post subject: Re: blowing things way out of proportion, but not on purpose Reply with quote

Age1600 wrote:
Everybody says I overact or blow things way out of proportion. I honestly dont realize it, I just cant control my emotions, so i get really angry over nothing, or really upset of the stupidest things, and take it to the extreme, i mean my daily schedule and routine are predictable do the exact same thing everyday, but my moods, my language, my ticcing, my sensory problems, my stimming, my level of functioning are allll very unpredictable, so i can go from rocking in my own world and literally seconds later meltdown to the point i attack somebody over moving my phone one place to the next. To everybody else it was blowing things way out of proportion, but to me, that moment, my scratches on my legs were getting stuck to my pants bothering me, my hair was in my mouth, their were weird noises everywhere, and the flipping of the tv channels was bothering me, so moving my phone just set me off like a timebomb. Anyways Does anybody here ever blow things way out of proportion, but not on purpose, or not knowing their doing it?


Yep...and I'm also called immature, told "grow up", ( I'm 46 how much more growing do I need to do?) because I'm told I take things way too seriously. Which is another way of saying , they were joking , usually at my expense and I didn't get the joke.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 10:07 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yeah I do it more often than I'd like. It's always the tiniest thing that open the floodgates for me. One thing happens that changes my plan, I'm okay I'm handling it, then some loud repetitive noise, okay I'm handling it.... then maybe I spill something, and make a mess... now I'm NOT handling it! The world has ended for me for what appears to others is a spilled drink, but it was really a whole slew of things. The drink was just the last straw. That's just one example of how things build up, sometimes without me even realizing just how anxious that I'm becoming until I explode. Evening seems to be my most emotional time. I guess by then my patience are gone.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 10:22 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I think this is pretty common behavior, even outside the spectrum. Hence the expression "Don't cry over spilled milk."
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 10:22 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Often you start thinking that why have I gone off about a small thing or at least that is how others act and that makes things worse.
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