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androidbeing
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 Posted: Tue Nov 22, 2005 6:10 pm Post subject: Buying friends expensive christmas presents? |
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Why can you not buy friends expensive christmas presents? I have three friends but according to one of them they are not close friends therefore I can only spend £7 max on each of them because of social rules. Apparently the person would be embarrased if I were to spend £100 on them. Anybody know why this is?
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| Posted: Tue Nov 22, 2005 6:59 pm Post subject: Re: Buying friends expensive christmas presents? |
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| androidbeing wrote: | Why can you not buy friends expensive christmas presents? I have three friends but according to one of them they are not close friends therefore I can only spend £7 max on each of them because of social rules. Apparently the person would be embarrased if I were to spend £100 on them. Anybody know why this is?
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Because they won't spend that much on you and seeing an expensive gift from you will make them feel like a--h---s. |
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Sean
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If I had the money, I'd shamelessly spend thousnds of dollars on family and friends alike!  I'd even ship stuff to a few people here. Since frequenty come off like a complete ass, and that would be my way of showing I care.  |
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hale_bopp
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| To be honest, if I recieved an expensive gift that wasn't from family, I would think the person had a thing for me. |
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androidbeing
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androidbeing
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| Posted: Wed Nov 23, 2005 4:04 pm Post subject: |
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| They are my friends, most other people won't be, so why can't i reward them by buying them expensive gifts? |
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Nitz
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If you spend a lot of money on someone, it puts them in a bad position, like other people said. They feel obligated to spend to return the favor, and if they don't have the money to spare on a similarly expensive gift, then they just feel bad. Even if you don't demand that they buy you something expensive, they still feel like they should reciprocate in order to be a decent human being.
Basically, money can't buy friends. It's just not how it works, and in the off-chance that they don't feel bad about not returning the favor, then they're not worth being friends with. I'd reccomend MAKING your own gifts for them; it doesn't cost as much to you, it doesn't make them feel obligated to pay a lot of money, and showing that you care by spending the time on something like a card or a piece of artwork or a handcrafted item.
That's what I'm planning on doing for my friends, at least.
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en_una_isla
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Because the recepient of the gift will feel that you have put yourself out for them excessively, or perhaps are trying to "buy" their friendship? I once had someone offer and expensive present and I refused it because it made me too uncomfortable.
That's the only reason I can think of.
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