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PostPosted: Sun Jan 04, 2009 2:03 pm    Post subject: How to decrease one's sex drive? Reply with quote

I'm looking for simple, natural ways to decrease my sex drive. Ideally, I'd like to get rid of it completely yet be able to allow it to return when and if the time is right.

Does anyone know of anything other than prescription medication that can lower a woman's sex drive?

BTW, I know masturbation helps in many cases, but it doesn't satisfy me enough to have any effect on my sex drive, and I've tried all kinds of techniques.
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 04, 2009 3:09 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sorry I can't offer a solution...

I have the same problem and it's driving me crazy and might wreck an otherwise great relationship I'm in.
I bought Chasteberry herb which is said to have been used by monks to reduce their sex drive and keep them chaste, but it doesn't work instantly (it takes a few months of daily tea to kick in), so I gave up from impatience.

Do we just have to find someone who has the same sex drive as us?

By the way, I've heard that libido/sex drive is all in the brain. Some scientists put a stimulator on that area of the brain of a woman who had a low sex drive, and she instantly had a very high libido (she didn't like the sudden change so she had them take it off though). Interesting.. but I'm not personally interested in messing around with my brain.
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 04, 2009 3:16 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well, the Army used to use saltpeter, but it only works on guys that I know of...Wink

Getting old helps too...
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 04, 2009 3:17 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

For the moment, I'm sick of having sex. I'm sick of the social interaction involved in it, and all the details like contraception, etc. I'm sick of wondering when I'm going to get laid next. And so on.

I want to focus on the rest of life without that distraction.

I'll look up nuns and monks. You're right - they might have developed some good techniques.
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 04, 2009 3:28 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

It turns out that saltpetre (potassium nitrate) does not actually have any anaphrodesiac properties - that was a myth.

But there are prescription drugs that can be used specifically to treat hypersexuality. I think I'll ask my doctor about them. I'm not keen on the idea of taking prescription drugs, but I guess I'd consider it if the side effects were minimal . . .
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 04, 2009 4:43 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

You can consume a lot of soy milk and that will lower sex drive. However its not without consequence as it also lowers thyroid function and may cause gynelogical problems.

If you will go the prescription route all psych meds destroy sex drive. Otherwise I'd suggest you go to Good Vibrations website and get a good vibrator as those are ten times better than sex with another human anyway.
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 04, 2009 6:35 pm    Post subject: How to...? Reply with quote

Ticker wrote:
You can consume a lot of soy milk and that will lower sex drive. However its not without consequence as it also lowers thyroid function and may cause gynelogical problems.

If you will go the prescription route all psych meds destroy sex drive. Otherwise I'd suggest you go to Good Vibrations website and get a good vibrator as those are ten times better than sex with another human anyway.


Shifting to low gear topic

I had this problem years ago and it was an endless source of frustration. I actually consulted a female gynecologist and asked, in all seriousness, whether a female circumcision would decrease one's libido. She said it would but no one in North America would do such a surgery.

I tried the M route, but things just got overstimulated more. I was a mess in my twenties and thirties, and even swallowed a lot of 222s in order to alleviate the "itch". Hormones do a number on those with AS, I believe. But I felt too vulnerable to engage in a relationship, and I got used anyway when I attempted it. In my forties it slowed a little.

Mind over matter was somewhat helpful, but again, when the desire resurfaced, I was just like Spock when his urges were at a peak. Very depressing.

Menopause thankfully took away most of the feelings, and now I only get urges about once a month. I know this does not help much, but at least you know you are not alone. I never told anyone about my "problem" before. It was just too embarrassing. It is okay now, because it has passed.

And yes, I do know exactly how you feel. Sad
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 04, 2009 7:36 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Try becoming very religious... it worked for me for a while, but eventually backfired. I think if I had stuck with it though and tried harder, it might have worked.
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 04, 2009 7:59 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

You didn't mention if it was okay for a guy to reply and I hope I'm not being intrusive but why do you want to reduce your sex drive? Anyway I've heard that yoga and deep meditation can work, probably same as the religious thing as mentioned above.
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 04, 2009 9:38 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

garyww wrote:
but why do you want to reduce your sex drive?


Maybe 1) lack of sexual outlet 2) the sex drive is so high it is distracting you from more important issues?
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 04, 2009 9:50 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Wow, this is a crying shame. Shocked
I would love to find and be with a woman who would like to enjoy sex 1-3 times a day or more, every day.
Or, at the vary least 4-6 times a month.
I love the intimacy and closeness that comes with it and that is shared.
not to mention its a real fun play time to do with someone you enjoy being with.
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Well, males have even of a harder time finding and being with someone.
so yes I can understand that,
I as well many times wish I could just turn off my sex drive until I could find someone to enjoy it with.
The hell of it is the more males masturbate the more our body's busy its self producing more sperm thus
making our sex drive kick in even more, its a vicious cycle, so it makes it even worse when we masturbate
to relieve our selves of the want and drive, and when we are full we still ache to relieve the baggage just not as bad.
and we as well feel or are reminded of our constant loneliness (when we do not have someone) because of it.
there seems to be a certain satisfaction that comes along with love making, I think much of it has to do with
our body's absorbing the female hormones while making love.

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PostPosted: Sun Jan 04, 2009 10:14 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I read that extra sugar in your diet decreases your sex drive - at leasst for men, but I don't know if this is fact, or even if it applies to women. It's probably not a good long term strategy anyway.
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 04, 2009 10:16 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

And I'd just like to textually pat myslef on the back for not making any jokes about 'coming over to my place' in the previous post
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PostPosted: Mon Jan 05, 2009 12:37 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Ticker wrote:
You can consume a lot of soy milk and that will lower sex drive. However its not without consequence as it also lowers thyroid function and may cause gynelogical problems.


Interesting! Something to try - it can't hurt.

Ticker wrote:
If you will go the prescription route all psych meds destroy sex drive. Otherwise I'd suggest you go to Good Vibrations website and get a good vibrator as those are ten times better than sex with another human anyway.


I've tried all kinds of toys - they don't really do it for me. I need to at least be in the presence of someone I'm attracted to in order to have a satisfying orgasm. I can have an orgasm by using my hands or a vibrator or other inanimate object, but it's just not satisfying enough to have any effect on my sex drive.

Also, I've been on a variety of psych meds for which decreased libido was a common side effect. But not for me. None of them affected my sex drive at all.

And I looked up the drugs that are used to treat hyper-sexuality and discovered that they're based on synthetic hormones - mainly progesterone. Chemically, they're a lot like oral contraceptives and have similar side effects. So I'm not going that route.
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