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Rach
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: Dec 14, 2005
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Location: North lincolnshire
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 Posted: Wed Dec 14, 2005 6:41 am Post subject: How to let go of boyfriend |
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Hi,
This is my first post on here so i am sorry if i bore anyone!! 
I'm 17 and have been dating my boyfriend for 4 months, he is an amazing guy and knows all about my issues and how to take care of me. I depend on him for a lot of things now, although i suppose i managed before he came along. My parents know about my rather obvious aspie tendencies, but my mother was rather upset at the thought of having a daughter that might me "not-normal" and so never allowed me to have a formal testing for aspergers syndrome. She is a firm believer that i do not have any sort of condition and that i am just difficult...therefore i get very little in the way of support from my family. This is ok. I know they love me and just are unwilling to think of me as any way problemed. My boyfriend however understands my condition perfectly and is a great source of support for me in times when i sometimes feel everything is against me! (im sure so many people have these days aspie or not!) We are both mental about snowboarding, he dropped out of school in his 12th year to save up for a 4 month trip to whistler (Canada) to do a season out there. He then met me. We became very close very quickly and he realised 4 months wasnt going to be feasible, he has cut his trip down to 6 weeks, the minimum he can do without actually losing his accommodation. I am thrilled with his decision as the thought of him being away was quite unbearable and i appreciate what a sacrifice it is. However i have gotten myself into a routine of seeing him at the same time every day of every week, texting at certain times etc. I am now a little worried about when he leaves, it scares me to think about the big change it will bring and i wondered if anyone had any advice on what to do in this sort of circumstance. I dont want to seem like i am complaining about him going, i'd jus like some advice on how to cope when he does.
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Astarael
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Joined: Aug 07, 2005
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Location: Western Australia
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| Posted: Wed Dec 14, 2005 7:01 am Post subject: |
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Hmm, you could email him at times where you normally would message him so you're still talking to him and it's not a huge change in routine. Try catching up with people you haven't see for a long time or pick up a new sport or play one you already play a bit more? If all else fails just get a huge stack of books and read through them. I'm probably not the best to ask because I'm usually the one who leaves my boyfriend stranded when I go away on holidays, but I think if you reguarly keep in touch and find other activities to interest you it shouldn't be too bad.
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06xrs
Deinonychus
Joined: Nov 04, 2005
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Location: Alabama
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I had to go to Hawaii for an internship right as my wife and I were getting really serious. I was busy working, so the time went by really quick for me but I think it was rougher for her. This was before e-mail (hard to believe there was such a time), so we had a set time when I would call her. If we had had email, we would have been chatting away continuously. We did however send a lot of letters back and forth. Now that I'm thinking about it, that was almost better. She sent me something everyday, including dropping one in the mail a day or so before I left so it would be there when I arrived. I think being able to work on the letters all day long helped her deal with the absence. She also kept sending me gifts and stuff. It actually really brought us closer together.
As far as support, I'm sure everyone at WP will give you all we can. Let us know when the clock starts and we'll help you count off the days. Separations suck, but without them there would be no reunions.
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Rach
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Location: North lincolnshire
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Thanx very much for the tips, 06xrs i think your idea of mailing him everyday is a good one, will give me something to do everyday lol and will help with the lonliness Lol he's the only reason i leave my room. I can see me being glued to my computer for the next 6 weeks  |
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Deinonychus
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| Rach wrote: | | I can see me being glued to my computer for the next 6 weeks |
Be sure you use rubber cement, it comes off easier than super glue 
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