Moog
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Stage K - you learn to be yourself more completely; integrate your sense impressions, emotions, mind and body more (peace)fully; you know mainly how to conduct yourself among other people; you still have autism, you're still a bit awkward, but it's only a problem very occasionally.
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AliPasha
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| Autism is not a process, and i'm hesitant to say a way of life, Autism is something we have to live with. Personally i'm a near nihilistic misanthrope recluse with some old fashioned outlooks on life, we should not obsess over autism, I try to live my life not worry about what i maybe classified as, but my goals and plans for the future. If look for false hope, then we will end up disappointed, we must look at reality for what it is. What is real is that we have Autism, and we have to persevere over it no matter how pervasive it may be. |
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daedal
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Stage 3, probably. To most appearances, I am a very introverted, very awkward (physically, too) teenage girl with set hobbies (they see me reading, mostly) and difficulty mixing with people my age, but I am not a complete weirdo like I was to my peers when I was younger. Then, I suppressed the weirdness, but that often led to me tripping up on all the rules and stuff. Now I can deal with them better, I understand the theory behind them more. If you don't know me, I'm just the NT geek who somehow manages to have unwanted company. If you interact with me, you can see I'm not all 'there', but I'm still a lot better than I was (I should hope so!).
When I was younger I was obsessed with being normal (and no, I won't put that in quote marks), so I probably looked more normal to adults then than I do now because I suppressed lots of things. I didn't stim (at least, I became very aware of myself and stopped whenever I caught myself), was just very lively and animated, asked too many questions all the time, but it was the other kids thought I was just weird, so I was stage 2 then. But when I was 10 I withdrew...started having mini meltdowns at other people's houses, everything got a little too much and I spent more time than ever by myself in my room.
Argh confused post. I'm tired! At 9pm, haha. |
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Yowuza
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| Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 3:47 pm Post subject: |
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| Moog wrote: | | Stage K - you learn to be yourself more completely; integrate your sense impressions, emotions, mind and body more (peace)fully; you know mainly how to conduct yourself among other people; you still have autism, you're still a bit awkward, but it's only a problem very occasionally. |
Well said. |
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Moog
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| Yowuza wrote: | | Moog wrote: | | Stage K - you learn to be yourself more completely; integrate your sense impressions, emotions, mind and body more (peace)fully; you know mainly how to conduct yourself among other people; you still have autism, you're still a bit awkward, but it's only a problem very occasionally. |
Well said. |
Thank you 
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DevilKisses
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| Posted: Fri Feb 25, 2011 2:23 am Post subject: Re: 4 Stages of Asperger's Syndrome |
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| IceCreamGirl wrote: | Stage 1: You're in your own Aspie world. You act completely different from everyone else.
Stage 2: You try to act normal, but you can't help acting a little different.
Stage 3: You act normal most of the time, but once in a while you act different.
Stage 4: You've grown out of AS.
I just came out of Stage 1. I'm in Stage 2 now. Most Aspies don't reach Stage 4. |
I don't think stage 4 exists. |
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Hannah_x
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| Peko wrote: | | Simonono wrote: | | What is there to grow out of?? This is a permanent way of life. |
I have to agree. So based on this chart I believe its impossible to go beyond stage 3. I'm somewhere between 2 and 3. |
I agree too, But isn't stage 2 and stage 3 kind of the same?
I think I'm stage 1-2 |
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bigdaddy95
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| Posted: Mon Mar 07, 2011 1:15 pm Post subject: |
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| must have been stage 1 or the secret stage 0 until about 12 or 13. Now I am on stage 3. Makes me wish I was never diagnosed. |
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anikatheoddone
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| Posted: Tue Mar 08, 2011 8:42 pm Post subject: |
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| im stage 3 |
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-froggo-
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| Posted: Fri Mar 11, 2011 5:54 pm Post subject: Re: 4 Stages of Asperger's Syndrome |
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| katzefrau wrote: | | IceCreamGirl wrote: | Stage 1: You're in your own Aspie world. You act completely different from everyone else.
Stage 2: You try to act normal, but you can't help acting a little different. |
Stage 3: You have a complete emotional breakdown from exhaustion
Stage 4: You stop trying to act like anything you're not, realizing survival is of greater importance than being thought normal.
Stage 5: You accept that you have AS and it is a permanent condition, and you begin the process of learning how to better accommodate your needs even if you would prefer not to have special needs.
at least, these are the stages of becoming aware of having AS as an adult, as i see it. |
I think I'm in Stage 4 when in comfortable situations... other times I revert back to 1. 
Edit: On katzefrau's scale |
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Dragonfairy
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| Posted: Sat Mar 12, 2011 11:21 pm Post subject: |
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Eh, stage 1. There's nothing even remotely "normal" about skateboarding around wearing frilly dresses from Japan while having your mum take photos so you can upload them onto facebook.
It's better than getting intoxicated, stumbling over to whoever is "do-able".....and behold, nine months later, you're wondering who the father is. From what I've seen, that's what most of the people my age are up to where I live. Not much. |
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Davuardo
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| Posted: Sun Mar 13, 2011 4:25 am Post subject: |
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Daedal Posted:
"When I was younger I was obsessed with being normal (and no, I won't put that in quote marks), so I probably looked more normal to adults then than I do now because I suppressed lots of things. I didn't stim (at least, I became very aware of myself and stopped whenever I caught myself), was just very lively and animated, asked too many questions all the time, but it was the other kids thought I was just weird, so I was stage 2 then."
Have to say I can seriously relate to that. I am probably stage 2 at this stage of my life(16 years) and really worked hard to hide my symptoms of AS during 12-15 year old adolescence. During the course of this year I am learning that there isn't really a need to carbon copy people as "everyone is unique", which I heard a lot when I was younger, despite never really taking in a meaning for it. I could just spend all my time analysing others social behaviour and emulating it but now I have learned to accept myself a bit more and stop worrying about what people will think, after all, most NT's are mad anyway 
My socially regurgitated behaviour however has lead to my girlfriend and her parents not believing that I have it as I seem 'normal', despite my official diagnosis.
I think in terms of stages the opening comment nailed it on the head, however some people with AS may find it difficult to accept that as if we never find ourselves moving stages we won't accept that some people do move through the stages, its part and parcel of our condition . AS affects everyone differently.
PS: I still attempt to act normal-ish merely to ensure that the group is comfortable around me, as I think that I shouldn't conform yet expecting everyone to just put up with it is selfish and self-centered. |
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aspie48
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| Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 8:36 pm Post subject: |
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| lol u can't grow out of aspergers |
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trojan51
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| Posted: Thu Mar 24, 2011 7:28 pm Post subject: |
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| According to the OP, I am in stage 3, I do show my aspie traits every now and then but I do appear "normal" most of the time |
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SammichEater
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| Posted: Fri Mar 25, 2011 7:27 pm Post subject: |
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Stage 1 - you be yourself
Stage 2 - you realize you are not like most people, and try to fit in
Stage 3 - you realize that you don't give a crap and give up with stage 2
I'm trying to transition into stage 3 right now. |
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