bcousins
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| Hetalia_Obsession wrote: | | That happens to me ALL THE TIME! Especialy with my dad who has no idea how to deal with my aspergers or even all the symptoms and doesn't understand my motices |
Join the club! Dad never had any idea on how to deal with aspergers. |
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Hetalia_Obsession
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Age: 16
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Location: Wisconsin
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| Posted: Thu Sep 15, 2011 3:49 am Post subject: |
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| bcousins wrote: | | Hetalia_Obsession wrote: | | That happens to me ALL THE TIME! Especialy with my dad who has no idea how to deal with my aspergers or even all the symptoms and doesn't understand my motices |
Join the club! Dad never had any idea on how to deal with aspergers. |
And he has some anger issues so he's alway yelling at me about something |
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bcousins
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Location: On a failed Tangara set at Blacktown
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| Posted: Thu Sep 15, 2011 7:31 am Post subject: |
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| Hetalia_Obsession wrote: | | bcousins wrote: | | Hetalia_Obsession wrote: | | That happens to me ALL THE TIME! Especialy with my dad who has no idea how to deal with my aspergers or even all the symptoms and doesn't understand my motices |
Join the club! Dad never had any idea on how to deal with aspergers. |
And he has some anger issues so he's alway yelling at me about something |
That too... Though i dont see my dad anymore, |
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Hetalia_Obsession
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Location: Wisconsin
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| Posted: Thu Sep 15, 2011 3:21 pm Post subject: |
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| bcousins wrote: | | Hetalia_Obsession wrote: | | bcousins wrote: | | Hetalia_Obsession wrote: | | That happens to me ALL THE TIME! Especialy with my dad who has no idea how to deal with my aspergers or even all the symptoms and doesn't understand my motices |
Join the club! Dad never had any idea on how to deal with aspergers. |
And he has some anger issues so he's alway yelling at me about something |
That too... Though i dont see my dad anymore, |
I think the biggest problem is that he can't tell what's symptoms and me just being disobediant |
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bcousins
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| Posted: Sat Sep 17, 2011 5:20 am Post subject: |
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| Hetalia_Obsession wrote: | | bcousins wrote: | | Hetalia_Obsession wrote: | | bcousins wrote: | | Hetalia_Obsession wrote: | | That happens to me ALL THE TIME! Especialy with my dad who has no idea how to deal with my aspergers or even all the symptoms and doesn't understand my motices |
Join the club! Dad never had any idea on how to deal with aspergers. |
And he has some anger issues so he's alway yelling at me about something |
That too... Though i dont see my dad anymore, |
I think the biggest problem is that he can't tell what's symptoms and me just being disobediant |
Thats a very fine line. |
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hot_dog285
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your parents are one of the reasons that I despise most of humanity, if they won't even try to understand, then don't bother with them. I have to get rid of all emotion just to stand being in public without loosing my mind and going on a rampage. if they don't believe you, then shove some damn information in their faces, give them proof, if they still fail to try to understand, then hold their damn heads under the putrid waters of knowledge. If all else fails, do what I do, shut down all emotion, be painfully blunt, tell them to worry about their own faults, and play along with their game, then, when they can't find anything wrong, once again, point out what they need to work on, show them what they need to do before they try to pin anything on you, then tell them that once they are perfect, and I mean perfect, there are no flaws with them, then they can lecture you on your faults, but until then, they can't do anything without being hypocritical. |
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Dgosling
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Location: Utah
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You should probably tell your parents that you really think you might have aspergers and want to get a test. they will hopefully understand. if you do have it then i'm pretty sure they will help you through and stop punishing you.
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twich
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| I don't know if it would help, but if they don't know about your diagnosis, they probably aren't cluing in on the fact that this isn't just some adult taking a hissy fit because things aren't going their way. I just got diagnosed last week and my Mum has already changed a few things, like I don't like being hugged, my sister is very huggy. If I were to tell her I didn't want a hug before last week, I'd get in trouble for not wanting to hug my sister, but now my Mum says "She doesn't want a hug right now, ask again later" or things like that. So, consider the fact that they don't realize why you're doing it since you say they probably don't know you're an aspie. It's still not cool, they really should at least attempt to acknowledge when you're not having melt downs even if they DO think you're just having a hissy fit, because it could even change and NT to get the positive reinforcement. Just some thoughts, sorry if I offended. |
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bcousins
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Well, i avoided punishment last night. I just didnt go home. Sydney terminal (Central train station Sydney) was the place to be. Nice and safe.... And did a whole night Gunzel.
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over9000
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My parents used to do this, but they stopped really quickly. Even still, their gentle attempts to teach me to do better seemed like punishment to a young autistic kid like me. When I was about eight, I realized that they truly loved me and wanted the best for me, so I calmed down a little bit. Through more complex logic on my part, I got a firmer grip on reality, so I stayed on my parents good side. They still grow annoyed with me because of my lack of social skills and ADD, but for the most part, they don't rely on negative reinforcement.
Anyway, I feel for you and I pray for you. Hope that your parents come to their senses. |
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QuantumKiller
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| I think it's common to be punished like that. I've been diagnosed twice, and it did nothing. I first found out I had it by my mom screaming it angrily at me, and me thinking she was using some strange cuss/insult........... |
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mathdude94
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I've had that same problem I've gotten to the point where I just stay in the basement and aviod my parents as often as possible. It's not really a solution, but it's all I can do for now.
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UDAspie13
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I feel ya I used to have meltdowns frequently till about two years ago.
my AS is not very noticeable its type 4 partly 3 (reference to an earlier post)
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DarthMaul
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Yeah. I can relate to that. Seeing as how it's only me and my mom (and on occasion my brother), I don't have any daddy issues. Though I don't think these constitute as punishments (more like annoyances), but oh well.
(1). My mom whines quite a bit because I don't want to spend any time with her. Explaining to her that my interests (i.e. my video games, fanfiction, and blog) are just more... Interesting than spending time with people (that I can or can't read).
(2). I try to explain what high-functioning autism is. I add the high-functioning bit because she knows what Kanner's autism is (my cousin has it), and I'm not trying to confuse the woman anymore than she needs be. Even when I do give very blatant hints, she shrugs it off like a piece of dust on the lamp shade.
Oh, and something interesting/confusing/whatever this is happened a while back (like within the last 7 days):
My neurotypical friend of 9 years just went bat dyerbmo on me because I wouldn't:
a. message someone for her and
b. because I asked her "What fool doesn't bring their phone with them on vacation?" - which is a general question (least I think it is). A fool could be anyone. It could be you or me or those officers by the stairs.
I, personally, find that odd/interesting 'cause she calls one of my older friends a paedo because of his age, and I don't hit the ceiling when she says it. [By the way, hitting the ceiling means blowing your lid, getting angry, etc. - I found that out when I was in the shower].
And bcousins... I'd hang out at the train station too, but um... Why would I be in a dirty New York train station where I can get raped, robbed, pushed into the tracks that are either live or have pee at the botton, or killed? Trains are cool though. |
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SteffiTheSmile
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I know how you feel.
I went to one of the "best specialist schools of Aspergers", and got told off for things I cannot help :S.
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