MMJMOM
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 Posted: Sun Apr 01, 2012 7:42 pm Post subject: Re: Meltdowns in the mornings |
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| Jordan08 wrote: | | , but when he has a meltdown it is in possible to get him to talk. He just cries and cries. This is what stresses me out because he knows enough words to tell me what is going on but he doesn't. Any thoughts or suggestions would be greatly appreciated |
THis is how my HF Aspergers son is. He can communicate brilliantly, but when he is melting, he can only speak one word. And he cries that one word over and over and over and over. It baffles me why he cannot say more. But I guess they get so upset that is all they can do. My son is 6 and when in a meltdown, cannot tell me what is goign on. ONCE he was in a huge meltdown, and he couldnt calm down, and eventually he cried to me, "Why cant I calm down?" That broke my heart, casue he COULDNT stop. So sad...I hate that our kids struggle like this.
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momsparky
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| Posted: Sun Apr 01, 2012 8:15 pm Post subject: |
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I wonder in these situations, if you can at least get information in by writing signs (obviously only when the child can read?) They may not be able to organize themselves enough to write back, but it might be worth a try to let them know that you're there to help, and that you will figure it out.
I know with my son, during a meltdown he's unable to communicate even if he has speech - he can call us names or scream angry threats, but he can't let us know what's going on. We usually send him to his room to calm down on his own.
Afterwards, we have succeeded in "discussing" things via a written conversation. The more often we successfully communicate - even if there's a delay to wait for the meltdown - the fewer, shorter, and less intense the meltdowns are for us. |
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DoctorAnkenman
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| Posted: Sun Apr 29, 2012 10:05 am Post subject: |
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I believe Sweetleaf is very insightful in that post above. Being on the spectrum can leave one's adrenaline system susceptible to over-stimulation, which leads to reactions (meltdowns) other people see as excessive.
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