edgewaters
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| IlovemyAspie wrote: | | ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote: | | My friend Emma's fantastic, she's quite predatory for a girl. This would never have happened with her. |
Yeah I know a lot of girls who are like that. I'm just not one of them. I never had to be. I always thought I was but when it came down to it, I found out I'm not! I am quite persistent though and I usually get what I want that way. |
Well, perhaps you're not the tigress sort of predator, more of a snake that hypnotizes her prey before coiling around it 
Everybody's got to find their ecological niche and develop it, I think. A deer can't be a spider can't be a wolf. |
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ZX_SpectrumDisorder
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| ILMA prefers baking cookies and writing love poems. |
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edgewaters
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| Posted: Wed Jun 06, 2012 11:08 am Post subject: |
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| ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote: | | ILMA prefers baking cookies and writing love poems. |
Cantil vipers, gator snappers and wobbegongs all have fake lures evolved from their own body parts. The Green Heron, however, manages to lure fish into attack range without this advantage. How? Well, it uses bait.
Indeed, green herons have been known to drop small objects onto the surface of water. Small fish are tricked into investigating the object, hoping it may be something edible, and then the heron quickly snatches the unsuspecting victim.
Not all Green Herons use this technique, but those who do become quite talented, and they even experiment with different kinds of bait. Some herons have been seen stealing the bread that people feeds to ducks in ponds, and using the bread as bait. Other herons have been known to capture small fish but instead of eating them, they use them as bait for larger fish.
No one knows how Green Herons learnt to fish with bait. Some experts believe they learnt from humans, while others think they learnt by themselves by observing how small fish would investigate any small object or animal that fell to the water. Either way, this behavior is obviously not instinctive, making the Green Heron quite possibly the smartest predator in this list.
http://listverse.com/2011/01/15/10-deadly-tricksters-of-the-animal-world/ |
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IlovemyAspie
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| edgewaters wrote: | | ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote: | | ILMA prefers baking cookies and writing love poems. |
Cantil vipers, gator snappers and wobbegongs all have fake lures evolved from their own body parts. The Green Heron, however, manages to lure fish into attack range without this advantage. How? Well, it uses bait.
Indeed, green herons have been known to drop small objects onto the surface of water. Small fish are tricked into investigating the object, hoping it may be something edible, and then the heron quickly snatches the unsuspecting victim.
Not all Green Herons use this technique, but those who do become quite talented, and they even experiment with different kinds of bait. Some herons have been seen stealing the bread that people feeds to ducks in ponds, and using the bread as bait. Other herons have been known to capture small fish but instead of eating them, they use them as bait for larger fish.
No one knows how Green Herons learnt to fish with bait. Some experts believe they learnt from humans, while others think they learnt by themselves by observing how small fish would investigate any small object or animal that fell to the water. Either way, this behavior is obviously not instinctive, making the Green Heron quite possibly the smartest predator in this list.
http://listverse.com/2011/01/15/10-deadly-tricksters-of-the-animal-world/ |
LOVE IT!!!!  Who knew that's what I was doing with my cookies and love poems! |
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ZX_SpectrumDisorder
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| Posted: Wed Jun 06, 2012 12:53 pm Post subject: |
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| In a list of 'deadly tricksters'. |
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NicoleG
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D'aw. That green heron is so cute!
Stop luring me in with pictures of cute animals. That's cheating!  |
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IlovemyAspie
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| ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote: | | In a list of 'deadly tricksters'. |
yes I noticed that! But that's fine, with me you'll think you've died....and gone to heaven! |
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edgewaters
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| NicoleG wrote: | D'aw. That green heron is so cute!
Stop luring me in with pictures of cute animals. That's cheating! |
That's not cheating! Here, I'll show you cheating:
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DogsWithoutHorses
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I like the way this thread is going.
Tiny teddy bears seem like a sign of good times.
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NicoleG
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| Posted: Wed Jun 06, 2012 11:35 pm Post subject: |
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| We should rename the thread - How to recognize when a guy is cheating using cute and adorably cuddly things! |
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IlovemyAspie
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| Posted: Wed Jun 06, 2012 11:37 pm Post subject: |
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| DogsWithoutHorses wrote: | I like the way this thread is going.
Tiny teddy bears seem like a sign of good times. |
Yes, good times, good times. |
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bruinsy33
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| Greb wrote: | If you're posting here I suppose you have big troubles to recognize non-verbal language. Flirting involves a lot of non-verbal language. In my experience, you can improve your skills (recognizing flirting), but you will never be good at it.
I have accepted that I just can't. So I can tell how I deal with it. Perhaps you find it useful. If I suspect that a girl is interested (and I'm interested too, of course) I use the following steps.
1. Trying to get one or two dates. If she is interested in you, she'll agree. But that doesn't mean that she wants something more: she could just want to enjoy some time with a friend.
During the date, if you're not good at flirting, then just have fun. If both of you are having a good time, well, at least you won't screw it up (that is important).
2. Trying to take the situation to a 'kiss situation'. The easiest way I have found is to date during the weekend, so you can stay awake until late. Then show your will to continue even if it's late, but don't force her. If she likes you, she'll probably agree.
3. Then, when it comes to a situation like "It's one or two in the morning, after midnight, we're sitting in the couch and talking, or we're in a pub sitting close and talking" then I consider that the probabilities of she wanting something more are high and I make advancements (and here you have to take risks and jump, there's no easier way).
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I would speculate that many Aspie men need help earlier on in the encounter.That is, many would like to decipher signs that would give them the confidence to ask someone out for a date.If an Aspie man has the confidence to indiscriminately ask out any woman who shows them some sort of attention [regardless whether or not it is true flirting or not] then I would presume many of them wouldn't be single. |
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ThinkingMonkey
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| TM wrote: | First, I like to establish a "baseline" IE how the person's body language is in a "normal" situation, so that things that are "habits" of that woman can be eliminated from the overall picture.
Secondly, observe her behavior around you, looking for clusters of 3 - 5 indicators. For instance, if she plays with her hair, stands up straight, touches you, bites/sucks on her lower lip, plays with her lips with her fingers, directs her knee towards you with crossed legs, lets her shoe slip on and off, odds are its safe to hit on her.
Of course, this isn't an exact science, but then again with extreme risk aversion comes never getting laid. Really, in 50 - 60 years when you're in your late 80s or something, are you really going to regret getting shot down by some woman you can't even remember back in your 20s? |
So, observation for some days then. Did that once. Although I do not know the inferences I drew were right or wrong. Although, I had not read/known about any of the signs to watch out for. BTW, this is one of the girls who I think was flirting with me.
You do have a point about regret. |
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ThinkingMonkey
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| TM wrote: | | IlovemyAspie wrote: | | ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote: | | My friend Emma's fantastic, she's quite predatory for a girl. This would never have happened with her. |
Yeah I know a lot of girls who are like that. I'm just not one of them. I never had to be. I always thought I was but when it came down to it, I found out I'm not! I am quite persistent though and I usually get what I want that way. |
It's one of those differences between men and women, a man doing the same would often be seen as needy, desperate and stalker/creepy. |
I agree when guys do such a thing its not just frowned upon! It interpreted as needy, desperate, stalker, creepy, looser etc. |
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ThinkingMonkey
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| edgewaters wrote: |
Well, perhaps you're not the tigress sort of predator, more of a snake that hypnotizes her prey before coiling around it
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lol. |
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