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sunnycat
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 Posted: Mon Jun 25, 2007 2:20 am Post subject: Self-affirmation Pledge for those with AS |
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Self-affirmation Pledge for those with AS
by Liane Holliday Willey
I am not defective. I am different.
I will not sacrifice my self-worth for peer acceptance.
I am a good and interesting person.
I will take pride in myself.
I am capable of getting along with society.
I will ask for help when I need it.
I am a person who is worthy of others' respect and acceptance.
I will find a career interest that is well suited to my abilities and interests.
I will be patient with those who need time to understand me.
I am never going to give up on myself.
I will accept myself for who I am. |
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sunnycat
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| Posted: Mon Jun 25, 2007 2:22 am Post subject: |
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This makes me tear up...
I think I should read it at least once a day...
Mods, if you please, would it be possible to sticky this?
I think it is an invaluable guidance for aspies... |
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tomamil
What the #$*!?
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| Posted: Mon Jun 25, 2007 2:53 am Post subject: Re: Self-affirmation Pledge for those with AS |
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I do believe all, except for | Quote: | | I will ask for help when I need it. |
I worked hard for many years to increase my self-confidence, but the result is obvious. I also had something like this pledge I invented for this purpose. |
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sunnycat
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| Posted: Mon Jun 25, 2007 4:15 am Post subject: |
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tomamil, that sounds interesting...would you care to share your pledge with us?
Why don't we share our pledges for ourselves and people with AS? |
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Fedaykin
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| Posted: Mon Jun 25, 2007 4:24 am Post subject: |
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It feels like that pledge is more suited for girls/women. I don't have any written pledge myself, but I do have beliefs that justify my worth, even though I've not had the chance to make much of an impact on society. These beliefs are a bit arrogant, but I don't see anything wrong with that if it's simply how you're viewing the world - actually going around telling people what I think about them would perhaps be a bit rude though. My justification goes something like this:
People in general are idiots that only look one step ahead and don't really care about the things that are required for future generations to enjoy the gift of a great life the current generations have been given; The caring they display is mostly lip service and isn't aimed at actually achieving the outspoken empathic goal. "It's the thought that counts" is how they justify the result ending up all wrong. They believe in lots of falsehood and don't use the brains they've been given to question their beliefs, even though that would enable them to better achieve what they claim is the goal of their values. They make lots of fuss about petty matters and act disorderly unless there's authority there to boss them around.
Here is where Aspergians shine - we are people that don't compromise with our values, and use our brains to the fullest in finding out the best way to achieve the values we believe in. Even though our main focus is on systems like our societies or the planet, things that everyone is dependent on, we do go beyond lip service if we find that someone needs us and actually try to solve their problems. We strive to understand the world in an unbiased way and don't just accept false beliefs. We do have a tendency to have a defiant anti-mentality, but in time, we contemplate the different ways you can look at an issue and find some focus that requires our attention. We truly care about the things we're studying, and since we don't bother adhering to the nonsense that's in the public debate, we're often labelled "extremists". We also are able to operate as individuals, we don't need a crowd to chant that we're right to state our beliefs.
I think that the first men that ascended from the lower primates must have seen weird like we do and initially have been outcasts - these men probably didn't groom their friends in the same way that we don't bother doing any social grooming.
I feel that this syndrome has been a very important part of collective human intelligence and progress throughout history, and that's the justification for our existence. |
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tomamil
What the #$*!?
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| Posted: Mon Jun 25, 2007 4:51 am Post subject: |
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| sunnycat wrote: | tomamil, that sounds interesting...would you care to share your pledge with us?
Why don't we share our pledges for ourselves and people with AS? |
well, the idea was the same as in the pledge you posted. when i started visiting the secondary/high school, i felt so scared that while sitting in bus on the way there i spent the time saying to myself in my head that:
i have no reason to be scared,
i will handle anything,
i am good person and that's the only thing that matters,
whatever happens i will focus on solving it instead of suffering and self-pitying.
after several days i started believing that, i acknowledged that i really have no reason to be scared. and now i don't need it, more and more i am achieving in my life, the more confident i am  |
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girl7000
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| Posted: Mon Jun 25, 2007 4:57 am Post subject: Re: Self-affirmation Pledge for those with AS |
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| sunnycat wrote: | Self-affirmation Pledge for those with AS
by Liane Holliday Willey
I am not defective. I am different.
I will not sacrifice my self-worth for peer acceptance.
I am a good and interesting person.
I will take pride in myself.
I am capable of getting along with society.
I will ask for help when I need it.
I am a person who is worthy of others' respect and acceptance.
I will find a career interest that is well suited to my abilities and interests.
I will be patient with those who need time to understand me.
I am never going to give up on myself.
I will accept myself for who I am. |
I really like your pledge, sunnycat |
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sunnycat
dance of the broken bones
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| Oh, thanks for your comment girl7000, but I must let you know that I am not the author of this pledge...The author is Liane Holliday Willey, who is also a fellow Aspergian...She wrote an autobiography called Pretending to be Normal. I copied this pledge from Tony Attwoods book, The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome. |
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subatai_baadur
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| Quote: | | I am a good and interesting person. |
Interesting? Certainly. Good? Not by a long shot. Lost me right there.
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darkscorpion
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| Posted: Thu Jun 28, 2007 5:29 am Post subject: |
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my pledge is really simple: survive!
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sunnycat
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| Posted: Fri Jun 29, 2007 12:20 am Post subject: |
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| darkscorpion wrote: | | my pledge is really simple: survive! |
That touched my heart...  I agree to that! |
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RainSong
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| Posted: Fri Jun 29, 2007 12:29 am Post subject: |
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| sunnycat wrote: | | She wrote an autobiography called Pretending to be Normal. |
I read that book and really liked it. (I can't get through most spectrum books, although I can't identify why.) Actually, come to think of it, this might be the only AS book I've ever finished reading.
It is a nice pledge; I hope it does get stickied.
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LadyMacbeth
They made me do it.
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I'll read it when I'm in a better state of mind. No words will help at the moment.
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hilbert
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| I would like to try and pretend it is true. It might help me reconcile my desire for companionship and my need to get away from everything. Life seems to always be a contradiction in terms. sorry, what I mean is this is like choosing, I am scared to make up my mind for some unknown reason. |
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nomessiah
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| Posted: Wed Jul 04, 2007 4:15 am Post subject: |
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This:
"I am capable of getting along with society."
should ideally, in my mind, be followed by:
"I am capable of getting along without society." |
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