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01 Dec 2007, 3:07 am

'I'm not.'

So, any others out there been accused of rolling your eyes when you weren't? The other week at Attwood's, a psycho there was telling me of some minute task I must do for therapy, and since I don't make eye contact at all, my eyes tend to wander. Now, as she was telling me this, the light above me caught my eye, and I was staring at it, queue said psycho stating that I just rolled my eyes at her and her task, 'Uh, no, I tend to fixate on things when people talk to me, like objects and stuff.' (Which is a part of autism, but whatever). This brought back a whole heap of memories from primary school, memories that contained teachers accusing me of doing such when I've been looking at stuff as they spoke to me.



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01 Dec 2007, 3:21 am

what's it supposed to mean when someone rolls their eyes?



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01 Dec 2007, 3:41 am

erased.


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01 Dec 2007, 3:43 am

When people intend to roll their eyes during conversation, it means you; 1) don't believe what you're hearing, or 2)don't like what you're hearing, or 3)want to be disrespectful of the other person or what they are saying. People do it instead of verbalizing an insult, though it's usually taken the same way.

I don't think I've been accused of this falsely. I certainly know how to do it for the NT reasons. I have been accused of glaring, or giving a look that says something "insulting" when I'm blank. I can tell my son doesn't know about eye-rolling and he has googly eyes, so it's just a matter of time when someone accuses him of it.



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01 Dec 2007, 3:54 am

i_Am_andaJoy wrote:
or when i feel overwhelmed people tell me to stop rolling my eyes, when i am not, i am just freaking out.


This happens to me a lot. I suppose it's like a stim for me. When I get lots of negative emotions running through me I almost have to express it physically, in order to take some of the pressure off of my mind. For that split second I'm concentrating on something physical instead of mental or emotional. I think I'd probably explode if I didn't do this.


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01 Dec 2007, 4:27 am

I get accused of rolling my eyes a lot. Ironically it happens a lot when I am actually trying to focus on the person standing before me, as opposed to being avoidant. I suppose it might be because I can only hold eye contact for a split second before I look away, and when I am trying really hard, this happens repeatedly, which might come across as rolling my eyes because my eye contact becomes so erratic. Oh. I actually hadn't thought of that possibility before typing it down. Neat.



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01 Dec 2007, 5:21 am

I got shouted at by a teacher last year because I was apparently 'rolling my eyes' at him even though I was not aware that I was doing it.



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01 Dec 2007, 6:02 am

I think there are at leat two types of eyerolling.

1. Looking up because you are thinking or looking for information in you mind. I sometimes do that if someone asks me a question that I have to think about. I guess there may be various reasons depending on your personality. But it's not because you want to be disrespectful to anyone. I read on an other forum where there were some people that though that there were a specific asperger trait or way to roll the eyes.

2. You roll your eyes intentionally for one or more of the reasons that were listed by KimJ. I don't do that often but it happens like maybe if the name of a person that I have some opions about comes up in a conversation. I often make an intentional sigh at the same time.

To me there is a great differense between the two and I am guessing I would not have much problem separation the one from the other in a person. Maybe the fact that many people are just aware of the 2nd way they mistake your eyerolling for that? It's just ignorance.



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01 Dec 2007, 6:09 am

onefourninezero wrote:
I got shouted at by a teacher last year because I was apparently 'rolling my eyes' at him even though I was not aware that I was doing it.


That's not fair. That actually makes me a bit angry at your teacher.



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01 Dec 2007, 9:00 am

Apparently I roll my eyes quite often, but other than the few times I do it intentionally I am totally unaware of it. It makes me come across as cynical which is fine with me because I am and would rather be seen as that than niave, which I definatly am not and have been accused of in the past.


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01 Dec 2007, 11:11 am

Crap some people think I need glasses. Others that don't know me once stop me from getting in my car because they thought I was drunk.

strange enough though when I had a night out, some people who already knew me, thought that I was drink. I guess it only happen when I am tired



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01 Dec 2007, 2:10 pm

Chauo, the #1 reason is actually normal for everyone. Everyone looks up in a particular direction to remember or to make something up. There is other eye-rolling that is either involuntary or for some sensory reason. That's what the OP is referring to and what my son kind of does. Mostly my son shakes his head and looks out the corner of his eyes, with rolling too. He never does it when someone is talking, it's kind of a private thing, like spinning and going upside down.



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01 Dec 2007, 3:53 pm

I was constantly accused of rolling my eyes as a kid. I didn't mean to be rude, but my eyes move around a lot when I'm thinking or avoiding eye contact. I got in trouble for Aspie traits a lot.



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01 Dec 2007, 4:03 pm

I was always getting accused of rolling my eyes when I was a kid! I had no idea that I was doing anything of the sort and didn't even know what "rolling eyes" meant. I couldn't picture what it would look like to "roll your eyes" and would become so confused when teachers and other kids would say that. It was quite distressing when I'd get in trouble for it.

Even now I hardly ever feel the need to roll my eyes at someones comment and I must have learned how not to do it unintentionally (though i don't know how or when) because people hardly ever accuse me of doing it anymore. Maybe I've become better at focusing in a conversation? Better eye contact than as a child? No idea...



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02 Dec 2007, 5:29 am

KimJ wrote:
Chauo, the #1 reason is actually normal for everyone. Everyone looks up in a particular direction to remember or to make something up. There is other eye-rolling that is either involuntary or for some sensory reason. That's what the OP is referring to and what my son kind of does. Mostly my son shakes his head and looks out the corner of his eyes, with rolling too. He never does it when someone is talking, it's kind of a private thing, like spinning and going upside down.


Ok! I see. Thanks. :)



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02 Dec 2007, 6:01 am

I do. It's a real pain in the assburgers.