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Mumto2
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 Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 5:09 pm Post subject: I cant stop crying over my boy |
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| Im just at the point where I cant see any way forward, yesterday morning everything was fine and calm by 4 I had called an ambulance, he had run into the corner of the walls, and his face swelled and he had this high pitched scream and kept saying his cheek was too big. I feel so guilty because it was that i was geting him to put him in his room for headbutting his sister and the floor - I cant take much more, I just dont know what to do for him |
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DW_a_mom
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 5:12 pm Post subject: |
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(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((mum)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
It sounds like what you need most is a giant hug, so there it is.
And don't second guess yourself.
Find people to talk to, to vent to; get yourself respite care if you in anyway possbily can; take care of YOU; and then work on moving forward.
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Kalister1
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 5:18 pm Post subject: |
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I'm so confused :S
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Mumto2
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 5:25 pm Post subject: |
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Thanks DW I dont really have anyone who understands to talk to. I just find it helpful to put my feelings down here because other people know how it feels to live with autism.
Im sorry for the person confused, I dont know what you are confused about but my son ran into the corner of 2 walls whils i was behind him saying i would take him to his room. The last thing I need is anyone doubting me as a parent, I need a place i can come to talk to people maybe this is the wrong place. I love my son, why else would I bother trying to find out about asd - ni have only known he has this since just after christmas. |
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Smelena
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 5:26 pm Post subject: |
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*big hug*
It's only been a few months since your son was diagnosed.
Things will get better.
Make sure you look after yourself. Are you getting any time out for yourself?
It's so important for you to look after yourself so you have the energy to look after your children.
After my sons were first diagnosed I went through a period of crying all the time - I was a tap! It was because I was so scared about their future.
I've seen what they're like when they're getting the right support - funny, happy, intelligent and creative.
*another hug*
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DW_a_mom
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| Mumto2 wrote: | Thanks DW I dont really have anyone who understands to talk to. I just find it helpful to put my feelings down here because other people know how it feels to live with autism.
Im sorry for the person confused, I dont know what you are confused about but my son ran into the corner of 2 walls whils i was behind him saying i would take him to his room. The last thing I need is anyone doubting me as a parent, I need a place i can come to talk to people maybe this is the wrong place. I love my son, why else would I bother trying to find out about asd - ni have only known he has this since just after christmas. |
I don't think she was trying to chase you away or criticize. I think she was saying that she didn't understand what you were tyring to say. PLEASE DO keep coming here to let out your feelings, this absolutely IS the right place. Just be aware that some posters have an easier time tuning into what other posters are getting at than others - many posters are just like our kids (or ourselves, or our husbands ... you know), really, so we all need to allow for it. It doesn't mean this isn't the right place. Sometimes you just tune out of the noise around you and focus on the conversation that is working.
And another ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((hug))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
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Kalister1
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Yeah, I was confused how you said it.
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Mumto2
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| Im sorry. See, I need to understand others more, including my son - I really want to. Im sorry. |
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 5:39 pm Post subject: |
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More hugs!
You definately need some time to rest and recoperate.
We all feel overwhelmed at times - it's so hard and frustrating sometimes!!!
This is definately the place to talk about it - it really helps! |
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| Mumto2 wrote: | | Im sorry. See, I need to understand others more, including my son - I really want to. Im sorry. |
It is really difficult to do when you are having trouble taking care of yourself, I've discovered. Which I know is SO hard to find time for ... but you have to be selfish sometimes. None of us can be the parents - or the people - we want to be when we're exhausted and overwhelmed.
So, no worries. We've been there, done that, and will do it again, I'm sure.
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Having a child with autism definitely makes for some challenging days. Some days I feel right on top of things. At times I have had such good days that I doubt their diagnoses! Those days are nice and enjoyable for all of us. But even at their worst, I still love them, and you do too. Just remember to take time for you, and we're here to lend an ear if you need us.
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My daughter has had her share of heartbreaking unjuries, related to her autism. It's very hard. (((hugs!!!!)))
We parents who walk the talk need each other. The agencies out there can't give us what we need. They can't understand because they are loaded up with rules and laws that block the real life support and ideas that we really need.
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Mumto2
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| Just wanted to say thanks for the replies, made me feel much better. I should not moan really, I mean - he has his health which im so grateful for. He has a black eye and can hardly see out of it, I think he caught the bone just under his eye the worst. Poor little man cant see out of it hardly. Im so glad its the school holidays, how the hell could i take him to school like that! I panic with every injury they might think its me! Mind, I have a note in his bag every day that he has hurt himself, funny that they never did them before my son joined the school, think they are covering themselves. Still at least its not just here he hurts himself so people can see how easily it happens as they dont see danger, he runs everywhere. |
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katrine
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My son always, has scrapes and bruises, too!
We've decided it's good - along with muddy clothes - shows how much he runs about and plays!
When he had lots of meltdowns he got lots of scrapes and bruises, too. Luckily you only had to experience one meltdown to realize it was unavoidable. We had the hospital staff explaining bruises to us, which was a pleasent reversal!
He scraped all down his back crawling under a bed, for example.
I think most professionals know just how wild a meltdown can be, and they know the kids can hurt themselves. |
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