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29 Sep 2009, 7:05 pm

Cad wrote:
thanks for the help guys. I am not afraid of being touched or other forms of intimacy, i enjoy it immensly :D it's just actual sexual intercourse. I've done things like mutual masturbation but i didn't really know the guy very well and he expected it of me, and i didn't want to dissapoint him or lose him so i agreed. I think episodes like that from the past have dictated a lot of my fears of sexual intercourse.


That's really cool. To tell you the truth, for me actual sexual intercourse is not the be-all and end-all of physical intimacy, and while I'm sure there are some sensations that can only be gotten that way, there are also disadvantages--risk of pregnancy comes to mind.

As I mentioned in another thread, most women seem to keep their bodies entirely off limits, except for a VERY small number of men (sometimes just one), with whom they want to do everything. This is frustrating and boring at the same time.



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30 Sep 2009, 3:11 am

DeadFire87 wrote:
I am very scared of sex. Never have I held someone or gotten anyone to talk to me really. The idea of sex is like driving nails into my head. Its very overwhelming thought and probably the main reason why I have failed so many times in getting a girlfriend even when they come right out and tell me they like me or walk up to me and speak. I have no clue what to say or do around a girl in a simple conversation. I can't even get someone to even be my friend. :(

I am not very typical for a 22 year old guy, but I would like to eventually find a girl that would want to be with me. :roll:


Aw, you sound like a really sweet guy :) i wish more guys were like u



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30 Sep 2009, 3:57 am

I'm not afraid of it, but it has to be for the right reasons. I could never see having a one-night stand. The mere thought of it makes me feel dirty. In a close relationship however, where I genuinely love the other person and want to make them happy, I enjoy myself. I don't have regrets.

I guess you could say it's not so much fear of the act itself, as much as a desire for it to be with the right person.



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30 Sep 2009, 6:48 pm

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If those guys dumped you because you were afraid to have sex, you obviously weren't dating the right guys in the first place. I haven't done it yet, but I'll definitely be afraid the first time around (especially if the gal I'm doing it with is way more experienced than me).

Just wait until you find the right person. It'll be worth it.


Same thing I was gonna say.


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02 Oct 2009, 10:55 am

I used to be scared of it. I first had sex when I was 19, mostly because my boyfriend really wanted to. I know if I'd said I wasn't ready he'd have probably accepted it, but he wanted it and I couldn't think of a good reason why I didn't. I didn't have a reason, I just had a gut feeling against it. We broke up shortly after that, probably partly because of that tbh (my brain went a bit mental) and I didn't even go near having another boyfriend until last year (by which time I did feel a lot happier with the whole idea of sex and all that), and a few months later started having sex with him and I really like it now. I guess personally I reckon you've got to wait until you feel ready for it. Ignore anyone who tries to make you go further than you're happy with because I really did regret it.



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03 Oct 2009, 10:21 pm

When I had sex we were both vergians and had no idea what we were doing. That relationship has ended a long time ago and sence than I have made out with a few girls at difrent parties that I have been to but I have not had so much as a cup of coffie with a girl. Because my only sexual experances was with a girl who was as inexperanced as my self I fell that I don't realy know what I'm doing and will be disapointing to whichever girl I have sex with next.