Anyone literally never leave the house?

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21 May 2010, 2:06 pm

I am in the same boat. I am a 27 year old male. I live with my parents and I have only left the house a handful times in the last year. That was only to go to the liquor store. I avoid ANY human contact. I time my sleep schedule so I am awake when my parents are asleep and vice-versa. I have severe social anxiety and cannot be around others. I want to be suicidal, but have not reached that point, so I do other things to shorten my lifespan. I drink heavily, I barely move ( my feet are constantly cold and have no feeling in my feet) and I started eating unhealthy foods. Anything I can do to shorten my life. I was diagnosed with aspie as a child, but still believe that it was misdiagnosed. The doctor I saw over a year ago said I have severe social anxiety. I used to have a job that paid over 50k (US) a year. I had a girlfriend and friends. I had a 1650 square foot apartment in midtown Kansas City, MO. I had a decent life. I had to give all of that up because of social anxiety.


To the original poster: life sucks for some people. I will not sit here and blow smoke up your ass. I will not talk you out of suicide, should your mind ever reach that point. We will all die someday. Why go through life in pain? Medications don't always work. Therapy doesn't always work. I really hope you find some way to cope, even if that means suicide. I am in the same boat. If my parents were to die, I would be in prison or out on the street. Both of my siblings are successful and live out of the country and I would rather live in prison before I asked them for help. Life is only pleasant for those with healthy to semi-healthy minds. The World will try to convince you that YOU are responsible for your mentality. Just another reason to slump into seclusion. The majority trying to teach the minority. The majority will never understand.



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21 May 2010, 2:28 pm

I'm the opposite in a way. I hate going outside alone, as random people often start approaching me at the wrong moments. Plus, there's just too much noise, too many smells, and too much light outside. For this reason, I'm usually wearing sunglasses and have my music on all the time.
However, I'm always involved in something, whether it's meeting one person or meeting a group of people. So, I always end up going somewhere for a particular purpose, but I try to not linger anywhere on my own.


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21 May 2010, 2:31 pm

I have to leave the house for work, but when I am off, I don't go out unless absolutely necessary. However, as I am one of the "worldly" aspies, I feel rather guilty if I stay in more than one day.


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21 May 2010, 3:23 pm

I'm like that this year. For me it generally goes in cycles like that. I rarely leave the house except for work and uni. I plan on going out more next year, I swear >.> I'm getting pretty bored at this rate



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21 May 2010, 3:34 pm

The majority of my time is spent at home, in front of the computer. There's a park that's literally right outside my back door, and I go there everyday for exercise. But other than that, I only leave to go run errands with my parents. I live with them and my younger brother.



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21 May 2010, 3:43 pm

I locked myself in my bedroom for over a year once and litteraly only came out to use the bathroom. My parents thought it would just make things worse to make me come out so they left me alone which probably was a good thing.


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21 May 2010, 3:48 pm

ssenkrad wrote:
nansnick wrote:
Currently I'm in a similar situation with familiar living. Though, I do not find comfort in it. It makes me feel like a burden and a caged bird who is shushed whenever she tries to sing. While I am greatful to my parents for their continued support and perseverance through my issues it is not something that should affect their lives as much as it affects mine. It is my cross to bear and I need to find a way to venture out and carry it on my own. This way our bond can be shared familiar and co-operative rather than forced and circumstantial. Also this can alleviate their worries about my future when that inevitable day arrives. I hope my parents live a long life because I love them and I want them to be able to live and enjoy it without having to worry about me.


I like your attitude. It shows that you want to become completely independent. And where there's a will, there's a way. People who are completely content mooching off their parents and show no interest in bettering themselves or their own financial situation are the ones that tend to annoy me.



It should only annoy you if you can prove they're CAPABLE of "bettering themselves
and their financial situation". And even if they are, I can't see why it's annoying to
you if their families are only ones supporting them. Obviously their families are
willing to do so, it's really no one else's business then.

Considering the myriad of issues (and/or the degree of similar issues) that can be present in autistic spec disorders (or most mental disorders for that matter) which manifest themselves in some individuals and not others, i'd say the burden of proof
in this respect is pretty burdensome indeed.

"Attitude" alone will only get you so far.



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21 May 2010, 3:52 pm

I stay most of the time at home because I´m depressed and can´t go out unaccompanied. :( . I used to go out. Now I only go out twice a week with the occupational therapist for about 2 hours. I plan to start individual therapy sometime soon then I will leave home 4 times a week.



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21 May 2010, 4:04 pm

Now that I have been laid off I am away from the house for about an hour at a time to go walk to the store about three times a week. Every other Saturday I go to play Dungeons and Dragons from 6:00pm to 11:00pm I really do not want go anymore but I go because I feel I'll revert back to complete hermit who will not even go the store. I stay indoors so much I have a vitamin D defiency. 8O I'll be staying home but promis I will start coming out more when people stop sucking so much.



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21 May 2010, 4:33 pm

I get out every now and then, but it's usually just to do my own thing. If people start interacting with me, I begin getting stressed out, and will reduce the frequency I go someplace.

The only three places I'm comfortable at are the library, church, and grocery store. Everywhere else, I can handle for 30 minutes to an hour, but after that, if I'm not out of there, I'll panic.

I would love to be a hermit though. It would make everything so much easier.


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21 May 2010, 4:33 pm

It depends how ill I am. When I'm depressed I go really down, and don't leave the house. I get shopping online, and don't go out for days on end. I think my most recent bad bout was eight or nine days. But normally I go to church once a week, music three times a week, and potter around on the allotment.

Right now I'm on medication, and getting out of the house more. If I didn't have a child I'd never get out of the house when I'm down. I make an effort for him to seem normal when he's home.



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21 May 2010, 5:06 pm

I don't never leave, but I'm pretty reclusive. I have a couple chronic illnesses and I have chronic fatigue (not the syndrome, just fatigue) so I need a lot of rest. There are things I would like to do outside of the house but I don't have the energy. I used to leave the house fairly frequently when I had a relationship, a couple friends, and some acquaintances.



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22 May 2010, 1:44 am

I haven't gone out much in the last year because I haven't been working. Going out for me usually involves spending money. So I try to stay at home and keep my expenses low.



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22 May 2010, 1:57 am

I spend most of my time in the house. 99% of the time, I only leave to go grocery shopping & to go to appointments.


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22 May 2010, 5:25 am

I think it's an introvert thing instead of autistic thing. I have an AS son who just loves going out to stores, parks and have fun. He's not an introverted person at all.

I go out about twice a day, though usually for exercise, fresh air and fun, not for social purposes. I also like shopping, though I try to go late in the day to avoid the crowd. I go to the gym once a week and like parks and beaches and hiking. I think the longest time I stayed in the house was about a week, when I got flu one time.

Going out isn't equal to meeting people or socializing anyway.



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22 May 2010, 6:11 am

I rarely stay in the house all day. I just dont wanna be staring at a laptop/TV all day.