Why do guys hate fat chicks?

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Would you date someone fatter than you?
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29 Jul 2013, 12:14 pm

diablo77 wrote:
I guess I have unconventional taste because most of the "super model" type women aren't attractive to me at all, but I actually prefer fuller figured women.


I just like them fat.

My boner is less strong when they lose weight in a lot of cases. I think quite a few women (though not all, by any means) women are better-looking as BBWs than when they have slimmed down.



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29 Jul 2013, 1:12 pm

Tequila wrote:
diablo77 wrote:
I guess I have unconventional taste because most of the "super model" type women aren't attractive to me at all, but I actually prefer fuller figured women.


I just like them fat.

My boner is less strong when they lose weight in a lot of cases. I think quite a few women (though not all, by any means) women are better-looking as BBWs than when they have slimmed down.


Really? So fat doesn't signal 'unhealthy' to you??



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29 Jul 2013, 1:44 pm

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I don't get it. I remember hearing some guys talk about their dating standards and the phrase "If you can't lift her, don't date her." I've been struggling with my weight since I was 10. I've been dieting and exercising and I feel that all of my efforts have been for naught. I'm 5'4" and shy of 250 pounds. I feel like a tiny linebacker most of the time. D:

Women hit on me but I'm straight so it's awkward. If I was bi, I'd be happy with my lady fans. I'm also an aspie so I feel that in combination with my weight makes me completely undesirable. I sometimes feel that without resorting to liposuction that I'll never be good enough for guys my age. Guys never want me, they want my friends. :(

Guys complain about pretty skinny girls cheating on them but ignore the nice girls that would treat them better just because we don't meet their standards. I guess guys could say it about women too but I feel like women are more willing to settle with a quirky guy who may not be attractive (I see it all the time) than a man wanting to be with a fat chick. :/


7/15 Update: I figured I would post this here so everybody can see that I'm actually doing something about my condition. See? I'm not a total hypocrite. XD

Day three of my new diet and exercise regiment. I'm feeling pretty good about how things are going.

7am: 20 minute brisk walk (wakes me up with the fresh morning air)
Breakfast: bowl of low-fat granola (or blueberry oatmeal, depending on my cravings)
9am: 15-30 minutes on the exercise bike at 70-80 rotations per minute. (My legs feel like lead afterwards but I feel SO GOOD.)
Lunch (11 or noon) : Some form of low-fat sammich (yay flatbreads!) or egg substitute with reduced fat cheese and hot sauce (I LOVE Frankie's Red Hot Sauce).
1pm: 30 minute core workout with 5 pound kettle bell (I'll upgrade to 10 next week, when I'm used to the movements).
Dinner (4pm or 5pm): Some low-cal low fat dinner I make with grilled meats accompanied with a salad of some variety. (Strawberry and Spinach salad is my favorite!) Smile
7-8pm: 50 cal Fruit pop, homemade smoothie or a cup of yogurt for dessert. ^_^

After all this, I feel sore but it feels good. My head is in a happy place. As far as the food goes, I don't feel deprived of anything really. The commercials for restaurant food don't even tempt me anymore. ^_^


This is the "nice guy (TM)" argument.

"Why do guys always date those as*hole skinny b*****s who cheat and not nice girls like me?"

"I am entitled to a relationship/sex because I'm a nice person"

I bet you probably reject all the guys in your league too, similar to the deluded aspie nice guys.



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29 Jul 2013, 1:47 pm

Women have a higher percentage of body fat naturally than men do anyway, so obviously most guys of a healthy weight would date someone who is technically fatter than they are. If you're not attracted to someone, you aren't going to date them, and to the majority of guys being fat is a turnoff, plain and simple truth really.

As for losing weight, @ OP i noticed you said you were losing sleep because of your efforts towards losing weight. Sleep deprivation is one of the absolute worst things for weight gain, it's not particularly smart to lose out on, the resultant drop in GH levels makes it harder to keep pounds off.



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29 Jul 2013, 2:10 pm

Only a small bit. I like skinny men.



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29 Jul 2013, 2:22 pm

Most of this thread was before my time here and I'm not about to go read it all now, but I'm pretty sure most guys don't hate fat chicks, as such (at least not for being fat), they just aren't attracted to them. There are some exceptions, though, myself included.

Erisad wrote:
Guys complain about pretty skinny girls cheating on them but ignore the nice girls that would treat them better just because we don't meet their standards.


Is there really a correlation between how nice a girl is and how fat she is? I'd be surprised, but if anyone has any data, I'm all ears... err, eyes.

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Really? So fat doesn't signal 'unhealthy' to you??


Whatever it signals is sub-conscious, but apparently it doesn't signal "unattractive".


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29 Jul 2013, 2:25 pm

Aldi do chickens in three sizes and at a reasonable price too.


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29 Jul 2013, 3:07 pm

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Most of this thread was before my time here and I'm not about to go read it all now, but I'm pretty sure most guys don't hate fat chicks, as such (at least not for being fat), they just aren't attracted to them. There are some exceptions, though, myself included.

Erisad wrote:
Guys complain about pretty skinny girls cheating on them but ignore the nice girls that would treat them better just because we don't meet their standards.


Is there really a correlation between how nice a girl is and how fat she is? I'd be surprised, but if anyone has any data, I'm all ears... err, eyes.

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Really? So fat doesn't signal 'unhealthy' to you??


Whatever it signals is sub-conscious, but apparently it doesn't signal "unattractive".


If we're talking morbidly obese, then fat can definitely be a health issue. A little bit of fat isn't going to kill anyone. You can be scrawny and just as unhealthy as someone who is overweight.



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29 Jul 2013, 3:22 pm

The OP got 3-4 boyfriends (and maybe more) ever since, hence proving this thread is false: not all guys hate fat girls.

And she's probably now more sexually experienced than 90% of fit guys here.



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29 Jul 2013, 3:22 pm

Cafeaulait wrote:
Really? So fat doesn't signal 'unhealthy' to you??


If fat signalled unhealthy, I'd be dead.

I'm 153kg and 6'2".

I like chubby girls in general, but I'm not exclusively attracted to them.

(Obviously I don't like my women to be grotesquely huge, but there's a fairly wide range in what I do like.)



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29 Jul 2013, 3:30 pm

Some men that like plump ladies say"more cushin' for the pushin.'
I'd rather a man had a few extra pounds than be on the frail looking side.


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29 Jul 2013, 4:42 pm

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Some men that like plump ladies say"more cushin' for the pushin.'
I'd rather a man had a few extra pounds than be on the frail looking side.

You'd have loved me a year ago, then. I dropped about 60 lb., give or take some, and currently my weight fluctuates between 154 and 160. I topped out around 235 before I began fasting and dropped about 1 lb. a day for 40 days.



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29 Jul 2013, 5:08 pm

FMX wrote:
Most of this thread was before my time here and I'm not about to go read it all now, but I'm pretty sure most guys don't hate fat chicks, as such (at least not for being fat), they just aren't attracted to them. There are some exceptions, though, myself included.

Erisad wrote:
Guys complain about pretty skinny girls cheating on them but ignore the nice girls that would treat them better just because we don't meet their standards.


Is there really a correlation between how nice a girl is and how fat she is? I'd be surprised, but if anyone has any data, I'm all ears... err, eyes.

I can pitch in my personal experience, which doesn't count for much...

I've dated heavier girls than I was. One in particular I wish I'd tried to hang on to because she didn't have the kind of hangups I've since encountered with heavier girls.

I've noticed with a few heavy girls I've been close to that they tend to gravitate towards LTRs more easily than skinny girls. I think it's an insecurity issue, which (no offense meant to anyone) I suspect of the OP. [NOTE: I'm admitting I COULD be wrong here] The LTR I was in for some 6 years was with a girl who was only active when she absolutely HAD to be, didn't display all that much personal initiative or drive, complained when she didn't get her way, and blamed all the ills of the world on me. Yet as much crap as she dished on me, she wasn't ever all that interested in breaking up. Threatened a few times, yes, but it was more like using breaking up as ammo--more a threat than anything serious. We'd developed too much of a co-dependent relationship for us to really be able to function apart from each other. We made it from Jr. High all the way to a couple of years in college when I decided I'd had enough and accelerated that crazy train right off a burning bridge...even laughed as I watched it go up in flames when it hit the bottom. Then she went all crazy on me.

Fat girls/skinny girls...it's 6 of one and half a dozen of another, IMO. On the one hand, you have psychotic, insecure, co-dependent types who'll drain the life out of you if you hang around too long. On the other hand, you have skinny girls who have all sorts of options and are all too aware of those options. I've dated skinny and pretty girls, and the ones who broke up with me first or cheated were, invariably, the pretty ones.

I'm married to a BEAUTIFUL skinny woman. Since we first got together, there were times we were separated and we both know what we did in the absence of the other. Pretty, skinny chicks drive their guys bonkers because of a Catch-22: In order to keep them from straying, you have to isolate them from other guys; except you can't do that because that's considered abusive. Getting the "right one," whether she's plump, sweet, loving, and even-tempered or she's so skinny you can see what she's thinking, and beautiful, and smart, and true, is only something you can accomplish if you really go out on a number of limbs and play a wide dating field.

Incidentally, I've not slept with another woman since I got engaged to my wife, and she's not been with anyone else since then, either. That doesn't mean she's been "safe" from men trying, but I seem to have found my ideal.

From my experience dating both larger girls and skinnier girls, I'd say if I had to do it all again, the skinnier girls are the safer bet. They might cheat and/or leave. Fine. At least you know where you stand. I'd rather deal with that and say good riddance than have a ball and chain from the get-go. Once you get with crazy, she's hard to get rid of.



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29 Jul 2013, 5:17 pm

Tequila wrote:
Cafeaulait wrote:
Really? So fat doesn't signal 'unhealthy' to you??


If fat signalled unhealthy, I'd be dead.

I'm 153kg and 6'2".

I like chubby girls in general, but I'm not exclusively attracted to them.

(Obviously I don't like my women to be grotesquely huge, but there's a fairly wide range in what I do like.)


Yeah, I am nearly back to the weight I was before anti-depressants but I still like fat girls. I don't know why.

I prefer women on the high end of normal BMI (say 23ish, so not fat at all, just not stick thin) to basically obese (but not usually morbidly obese). Anything below about a BMI of 23 and they get less and less attractive as they lose weight. When they're at the borderline of underweight (which is strangely considered attractive in the media) then they have completely of lost it for me in terms of physical attraction and it becomes all about personality then.

Like my friend who I have fancied for 11 years - she used to be around 21 in terms of BMI and even back then I still would've been more physically attracted if she gained a bit of weight. Now she is underweight (around 17 BMI) so any attraction I have now is all to do with who she is as a person.


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29 Jul 2013, 6:38 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
The OP got 3-4 boyfriends (and maybe more) ever since, hence proving this thread is false: not all guys hate fat girls.

And she's probably now more sexually experienced than 90% of fit guys here.


Lol, maaaybeeee. :lol: :wink:

I'm surprised this was revived. This was my first topic I posted I think...but yeah, I've lost around 87 pounds since this thread was made, found love, lost it and found it again and now it's going really good for me. We're talking rings and babies and the whole works. He met me halfway through my weightloss sooo yeah I was proven wrong in that guys don't hate fat chicks. I discovered that some take advantage of those with really low self-esteem and then ditch em when they're done. So once I started gaining confidence with the weight loss and graduating college, I met my current bf and I couldn't be happier. You may continue to debate it if you'd like but know that I no longer need guidence on the topic. Huzzah! :)



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29 Jul 2013, 6:56 pm

Why guys hate fat chicks: For the same reason anyone hates fat people. Cause they are jealous that they got more food. Food = Love That's why!