Miron121
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Joined: Jul 24, 2011
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Technically I had a girlfriend for an extended amount of time but it was a means to an
end for both parties. She needed a place to live, I didn't want to be alone anymore.
After we both figured out it you can't manufacture love it was over. That took a while.
I can't read people, much less girls.
I'm a bit weird, my ex says people are intimidated by me. If it's true, I don't see it.
I can be a bit of a snob.
I don't like strangers.
I can't chit chat so a casual date ends up being very awkward.
Once a girl tells me or show's me she's interested as long as it's casual, I'm usually okay.
Once my feelings get involved with a girl that has shown interest
(assuming I pick up on it) I tend to go overboard. Too much too fast. |
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VintageAspie
Emu Egg
Joined: Jul 25, 2011
Age: 20
Posts: 8
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| Gwenwyn wrote: | | I've never had a girlfriend because I'm a straight female. Not that I haven't had offers... |
Same.
But, to make this post useful, I haven't had a boyfriend until now.
Yes, really. Stop looking at me like that! |
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chrissyrun
True love is rare, don't envy an illusion
Joined: Oct 24, 2010
Age: 20
Posts: 13788
Location: Hell :)
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| Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 6:09 pm Post subject: |
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| VintageAspie wrote: | | Gwenwyn wrote: | | I've never had a girlfriend because I'm a straight female. Not that I haven't had offers... |
Same.
But, to make this post useful, I haven't had a boyfriend until now.
Yes, really. Stop looking at me like that! |
Don't worry, I'm in the same boat. |
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Tequila
Trust the people!
Joined: Feb 26, 2006
Posts: 26054
Location: Lancashire, UK
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| Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 6:20 pm Post subject: |
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| No-one I know who I can connect with. |
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Tequila
Trust the people!
Joined: Feb 26, 2006
Posts: 26054
Location: Lancashire, UK
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| Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 6:26 pm Post subject: |
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| Provv wrote: | | By "internet dating", do you mean having an online girlfriend or using dating websites like okcupid to find real life girlfriends? |
Problem with Internet dating sites is that there are a lot of dim people, a lot of possessive crazies and bloodsuckers, a lot of single mothers and an awful lot of women suffering from trust issues ("looking for an HONEST man" is a favourite). Most times, one will be rejected in any case. I found Internet dating to be far more stress than it was ever worth. |
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Spazzergasm
Who Fanatic
Joined: Sep 16, 2009
Age: 21
Posts: 4415
Location: Maine
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| Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 8:20 pm Post subject: |
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I've never had a boyfriend because I haven't really ever pursued one that hard... Or really at all. And none have ever pursued me.
And for the people who say it's because of their body odour and stuff... Why not just bathe? |
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The_Walrus
Walrus
Joined: Jan 28, 2010
Age: 18
Posts: 1506
Location: Reading, England
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| Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 9:37 pm Post subject: |
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| I have only bothered pursuing two girls. I was too nervous to impress the first one, and the second one simply didn't/doesn't want a boyfriend. |
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Tequila
Trust the people!
Joined: Feb 26, 2006
Posts: 26054
Location: Lancashire, UK
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| Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2011 4:54 am Post subject: |
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| Spazzergasm wrote: | | I've never had a boyfriend because I haven't really ever pursued one that hard... Or really at all. And none have ever pursued me. |
They probably have; you probably just weren't that interested. And a lot of the guys that would are probably just creepy users in any case.
| Quote: | | And for the people who say it's because of their body odour and stuff... Why not just bathe? |
Very true; it goes without saying that one should at least be clean and not smelly? |
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Spazzergasm
Who Fanatic
Joined: Sep 16, 2009
Age: 21
Posts: 4415
Location: Maine
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| Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2011 5:33 am Post subject: |
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| Tequila wrote: | | Spazzergasm wrote: | | I've never had a boyfriend because I haven't really ever pursued one that hard... Or really at all. And none have ever pursued me. |
They probably have; you probably just weren't that interested. And a lot of the guys that would are probably just creepy users in any case.
| Quote: | | And for the people who say it's because of their body odour and stuff... Why not just bathe? |
Very true; it goes without saying that one should at least be clean and not smelly? |
Yeah. Well I just remembered this one guy kind of did. But it was all in the same day, so it doesn't really count.
You'd think! Yet I saw some people on here saying they can't get girls because they smell.  |
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Tequila
Trust the people!
Joined: Feb 26, 2006
Posts: 26054
Location: Lancashire, UK
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| Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2011 5:36 am Post subject: |
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| Spazzergasm wrote: | | You'd think! Yet I saw some people on here saying they can't get girls because they smell. |
Those sorts of people are beyond help. |
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Tehsbe
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: Aug 15, 2010
Posts: 26
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I can never get past the friend zone with girls I like...
I dont get it, I'm supposed to make them laugh; I can do that. Girls like guys with some muscle; I work out a little to tone mine. Girls like smart guys; I'm fairly intellectual. girls like guys who care about others; and everyone says I'm a kind person
But Noooooo, NOBODY wants to be with me. The only girl whoever did decided to run back to her boyfriend after stealing second from me. Then decides she needs to be "best friends" with because "you understand me and can relate to my problems"... Crawls to me to cry when she argues with her boyfriend and skips straight back to him when he tells her the same "You are my one and only girl my love and my future wifey and I love you<3" (actual quote) bull****.
Sigh... I know I sound bitter about all this. I really did like her, though, she's an amazing girl. She has some flaws but then again, everyone does... oh well, next time I'm making sure that she's single before I start attracting her.. |
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Tequila
Trust the people!
Joined: Feb 26, 2006
Posts: 26054
Location: Lancashire, UK
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| Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2011 5:41 am Post subject: |
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| Tehsbe wrote: | | But Noooooo, NOBODY wants to be with me. The only girl whoever did decided to run back to her boyfriend after stealing second from me. Then decides she needs to be "best friends" with because "you understand me and can relate to my problems". |
Don't give women like that the time of day. You're allowing them to use you to moan about their problems while her boyfriend gets the girl. Just cut them out of your life; you're allowing yourself to be used here. |
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Namazu
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
Joined: Jun 26, 2011
Age: 31
Posts: 53
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I deleted my original post. It came from a feeling of dispair. I'm not proud of myself. I hope those of you who actually read the original post weren't dragged down by it. I've had a very hard week. And I am more than a little overwhelmed. I have trouble interacting with women. As a consequence I have never really had a GF. I want to share something meaningful with someone. I just don't know how. I don't think my chances of attracting a mate are very good. I have a lot of damage. I don't exude sex appeal. I wish I had been born NT or female or both. All three options would have probably increased my odds.
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Namazu
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
Joined: Jun 26, 2011
Age: 31
Posts: 53
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Bataar
Phoenix
Joined: Sep 19, 2008
Age: 34
Posts: 1383
Location: Seattle, WA
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| Another problem I have is that I have a hard time determining the age of some people. I'll be talking to a girl and many times, I can't tell if she's 17 or 24. There have been a couple of times where a girl I was interested that I could have sworn was in her early/mid 20s turned out to be 17/18. This deters me quite a bit because I don't want to ask someone out only to have them be waaay too young. |
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