TeaEarlGreyHot
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| zen_mistress wrote: | | Well, it is nice to have attention anyway. I think ultimately it is better than having none at all. |
I'd prefer none at all, actually.
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TeaEarlGreyHot
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| Obres wrote: | | TeaEarlGreyHot wrote: | | I've seen guys fall over themselves while staring at me, so either I'm better looking than I think or it just depends on the guy. |
I think it's a combination of the two factors.
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Oh jeez... 
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TeaEarlGreyHot
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| Grisha wrote: | | TeaEarlGreyHot wrote: |
I'm not sure I understand what you mean here. Are you suggesting I pretend I have a boyfriend? |
Yes. It's a very elegant solution that allows the rejectee to save face... |
I'm not very good at lying.
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| TeaEarlGreyHot wrote: | | Grisha wrote: | | TeaEarlGreyHot wrote: |
I'm not sure I understand what you mean here. Are you suggesting I pretend I have a boyfriend? |
Yes. It's a very elegant solution that allows the rejectee to save face... |
I'm not very good at lying. |
Don't lie then: just casually say something like "I went with my BOYFRIEND to the movies" and don't volunteer that it was actually in 1998...
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TeaEarlGreyHot
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Brilliant! 
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TeaEarlGreyHot
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Or I could say "I'm into the ladies" without admitting I like men too. 
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| TeaEarlGreyHot wrote: | | Or I could say "I'm into the ladies" without admitting I like men too. |
I don't advise this. Many men find that a huge turn on. |
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TeaEarlGreyHot
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That was a joke. Sorry... my humor is broken of late.
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| deconstruction wrote: | | TeaEarlGreyHot wrote: | | Or I could say "I'm into the ladies" without admitting I like men too. |
I don't advise this. Many men find that a huge turn on. |
agreed, ive seen this fail so many times. Maybe its because im one of the few people with respect but whenever ive been told no i just walk away instead of keep pursuing |
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| TeaEarlGreyHot wrote: | | That was a joke. Sorry... my humor is broken of late. |
It's not your fault. This is an Aspie forum, where people take things literally. 
Anyway, I think the only solution is to make yourself unapproachable, but not an angry b...h. Somebody suggested listening the music while you're outside. It's a good idea, though.
And I agree unwanted attention is bad. No attention sucks a big time, but unwanted attention doesn't help at all. |
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TeaEarlGreyHot
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| MXH wrote: | | deconstruction wrote: | | TeaEarlGreyHot wrote: | | Or I could say "I'm into the ladies" without admitting I like men too. |
I don't advise this. Many men find that a huge turn on. |
agreed, ive seen this fail so many times. Maybe its because im one of the few people with respect but whenever ive been told no i just walk away instead of keep pursuing |
Same. If someone changes their mind, they'll have to come to me.
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TeaEarlGreyHot
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| deconstruction wrote: | | TeaEarlGreyHot wrote: | | That was a joke. Sorry... my humor is broken of late. |
It's not your fault. This is an Aspie forum, where people take things literally.
Anyway, I think the only solution is to make yourself unapproachable, but not an angry b...h. Somebody suggested listening the music while you're outside. It's a good idea, though.
And I agree unwanted attention is bad. No attention sucks a big time, but unwanted attention doesn't help at all. |
Ah... yes. I need to get my ipod touch charged and working. 
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I have a theory why you are getting so much attention. I think you perhaps have a certain brand of attractiveness, a sort of unusual, striking type. I think a number of aspie women have a similar quality. It is attracting attention to you, which you seem to not want, but it is hard to stop certain people from viewing you as interesting or attractive. So I guess it is just life.
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| Grisha wrote: | | TeaEarlGreyHot wrote: |
I'm not sure I understand what you mean here. Are you suggesting I pretend I have a boyfriend? |
Yes. It's a very elegant solution that allows the rejectee to save face... |
Just say, "I can see you fancy me, but I don't feel the same way."
Honest and to the point |
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| Posted: Mon Nov 21, 2011 1:52 am Post subject: |
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| zen_mistress wrote: | | I have a theory why you are getting so much attention. I think you perhaps have a certain brand of attractiveness, a sort of unusual, striking type. I think a number of aspie women have a similar quality. It is attracting attention to you, which you seem to not want, but it is hard to stop certain people from viewing you as interesting or attractive. So I guess it is just life. |
She's tall and curvy. I think you're over-thinking this. The typical male sexual response is not that complicated. Sir Mix-A-Lot didn't write a song titled "Baby got a certain brand of unusual attractiveness". Tall women with ample "features" get noticed, plain and simple. |
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