hale_bopp
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Make yourself look like Justin Beiber. Problem solved.
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CrazyStarlightRedux
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| Posted: Fri Feb 17, 2012 5:14 pm Post subject: |
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| hale_bopp wrote: | | Make yourself look like Justin Beiber. Problem solved. |
He needs to learn to sing to make sure though. XD |
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MR20
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| Dilbert wrote: | To mr20: Why are you here then? Why are you reaching out to others on this forum?
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You need other people. We all need other people. You've had teachers, you might even have someone you are working for. They all gave you a chance you otherwise wouldn't have had. You'd literally be dead now if you didn't have other people to fall back on. Who makes your food? You keeps the lights on?
You need to behave a certain way if you want to hang out with other people.
Therefore if they reject you then you are doing something wrong and you should change.
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I''m NOT doing anything wrong. I wouldn't mind hanging out with people if they treated me fairly and gave me respect. I've learned over the years after numerous attempts that will never happen, so I've kept to myself recently.
I don't need to behave a certain way, if anything it's the people out there that are "wrong". Selfish, arrogant, out of control, egotistical bullies that will get whats coming to them. |
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hyperlexian
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| Posted: Fri Feb 17, 2012 5:16 pm Post subject: |
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| MR20 wrote: | | Dilbert wrote: | To mr20: Why are you here then? Why are you reaching out to others on this forum?
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You need other people. We all need other people. You've had teachers, you might even have someone you are working for. They all gave you a chance you otherwise wouldn't have had. You'd literally be dead now if you didn't have other people to fall back on. Who makes your food? You keeps the lights on?
You need to behave a certain way if you want to hang out with other people.
Therefore if they reject you then you are doing something wrong and you should change.
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I''m NOT doing anything wrong. I wouldn't mind hanging out with people if they treated me fairly and gave me respect. I've learned over the years after numerous attempts that will never happen, so I've kept to myself recently.
I don't need to behave a certain way, if anything it's the people out there that are "wrong". Selfish, arrogant, out of control, egotistical bullies that will get whats coming to them. |
what do you mean by that? (bolded part)
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MR20
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| hyperlexian wrote: | | MR20 wrote: | | Dilbert wrote: | To mr20: Why are you here then? Why are you reaching out to others on this forum?
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You need other people. We all need other people. You've had teachers, you might even have someone you are working for. They all gave you a chance you otherwise wouldn't have had. You'd literally be dead now if you didn't have other people to fall back on. Who makes your food? You keeps the lights on?
You need to behave a certain way if you want to hang out with other people.
Therefore if they reject you then you are doing something wrong and you should change.
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I''m NOT doing anything wrong. I wouldn't mind hanging out with people if they treated me fairly and gave me respect. I've learned over the years after numerous attempts that will never happen, so I've kept to myself recently.
I don't need to behave a certain way, if anything it's the people out there that are "wrong". Selfish, arrogant, out of control, egotistical bullies that will get whats coming to them. |
what do you mean by that? (bolded part) |
what do you think it means?
They will answer for it in their next life. |
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Skateri
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| Posted: Fri Feb 17, 2012 5:23 pm Post subject: |
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| MR20 wrote: | | I''m NOT doing anything wrong. I wouldn't mind hanging out with people if they treated me fairly and gave me respect. I've learned over the years after numerous attempts that will never happen, so I've kept to myself recently. |
I agree with the "treated fairly" part... But respect is earned... Not a given... They can accept you without respecting you...
And no, I don't want to get into an argument on when you've earned the respect and all that... Just wanted to say that respect and accept isn't the same thing as many people think...
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Tequila
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| Skateri wrote: | | They can accept you without respecting you... |
And the converse can also be true - that a person can respect someone without accepting them. |
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ManicMinx
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| MR20 wrote: | Again with this "confidence" BS. It's just a way how selfish and arrogant people justify treating people the way they do. BTW, f***ing changing yourself to be "social" (I hate that f***ing word) You shouldn't have to change yourself just so people will hang out/talk to you.
It's one of the main reasons I like being alone. |
Hey, you don't have to change if you don't want to. You're doing very well for someone who wants to be alone. Like I said, you get what you put out there. |
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| Dilbert wrote: | | It's not a myth. Low confidence is a social killer. Love yourself and have confidence in yourself and everything else, socially speaking, will just kind of fall into place. |
But how can you really be confident if people are bullying you all the time?
Also how can you be confident at all if you know that there are stronger, richer, more muscular, healthier and more popular men in society than you are? |
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hyperlexian
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| MR20 wrote: | | hyperlexian wrote: | | MR20 wrote: | | Dilbert wrote: | To mr20: Why are you here then? Why are you reaching out to others on this forum?
See?
You need other people. We all need other people. You've had teachers, you might even have someone you are working for. They all gave you a chance you otherwise wouldn't have had. You'd literally be dead now if you didn't have other people to fall back on. Who makes your food? You keeps the lights on?
You need to behave a certain way if you want to hang out with other people.
Therefore if they reject you then you are doing something wrong and you should change.
See? |
I''m NOT doing anything wrong. I wouldn't mind hanging out with people if they treated me fairly and gave me respect. I've learned over the years after numerous attempts that will never happen, so I've kept to myself recently.
I don't need to behave a certain way, if anything it's the people out there that are "wrong". Selfish, arrogant, out of control, egotistical bullies that will get whats coming to them. |
what do you mean by that? (bolded part) |
what do you think it means?
They will answer for it in their next life. |
i didn't know, obviously, which was why i asked. it sounded like you were making a threat and it's my responsibility to clarify.
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Skateri
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| Tom5 wrote: | | Also how be confident at all if you know that there are stronger, richer, more muscular, healthier and more popular men in society than you are? |
There will always be people better then you... But it's all about making the best of what you got... I personally know that there are a lot of better, more beautiful, healthier women out there than me but I'm doing the best I can... And I'm certainly not rich in any financial way (I'm a student) but I do know one thing; I'm trying to cope and have a good life... And you can always do it better... It's just trying...
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hale_bopp
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| Tom5 wrote: | | Dilbert wrote: | | It's not a myth. Low confidence is a social killer. Love yourself and have confidence in yourself and everything else, socially speaking, will just kind of fall into place. |
But how can you really be confident if people are bullying you all the time?
Also how can you be confident at all if you know that there are stronger, richer, more muscular, healthier and more popular men in society than you are? |
You learn to stand up to them, and choose not to believe them. That's what confidence is.
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MR20
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| Skateri wrote: | | MR20 wrote: | | I''m NOT doing anything wrong. I wouldn't mind hanging out with people if they treated me fairly and gave me respect. I've learned over the years after numerous attempts that will never happen, so I've kept to myself recently. |
I agree with the "treated fairly" part... But respect is earned... Not a given... They can accept you without respecting you...
And no, I don't want to get into an argument on when you've earned the respect and all that... Just wanted to say that respect and accept isn't the same thing as many people think... |
I think it's just semantics. In my past I've been mocked and ridiculed constantly for my appearance and the way I talked and behaved. My house is/was run down so that was made fun of alot, as well as my relatives. I was talked down to and bullied. I've been taken advantage of and had things stolen from me by people I thought were friends. (not belittling anyone else's past problems just stating my experiences and why I'm the way I am now.)
I don't see that as being treated fairly or respected. Really hard to distinguish the two.
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Skateri
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| MR20 wrote: | | Skateri wrote: | | MR20 wrote: | | I''m NOT doing anything wrong. I wouldn't mind hanging out with people if they treated me fairly and gave me respect. I've learned over the years after numerous attempts that will never happen, so I've kept to myself recently. |
I agree with the "treated fairly" part... But respect is earned... Not a given... They can accept you without respecting you...
And no, I don't want to get into an argument on when you've earned the respect and all that... Just wanted to say that respect and accept isn't the same thing as many people think... |
I think it's just semantics. In my past I've been mocked and ridiculed constantly for my appearance and the way I talked and behaved. My house is/was run down so that was made fun of alot, as well as my relatives. I was talked down to and bullied. I've been advantage of and had things stolen from me by people I thought were friends. (not belittling anyone else's past problems just stating my experiences and why I'm the way I am now.)
I don't see that as being treated fairly or respected. Really hard to distinguish the two. |
Have you considered to move to a whole new place and start from scratch? The way I see it you have been more than just unlucky with your past...
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