| longest allowable shutdown |
| not allowed at all |
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0% |
[ 0 ] |
| a few minutes |
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2% |
[ 1 ] |
| a few hours |
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8% |
[ 3 ] |
| a day or so |
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19% |
[ 7 ] |
| a few days |
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22% |
[ 8 ] |
| a week or two |
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30% |
[ 11 ] |
| a few weeks or a month |
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5% |
[ 2 ] |
| a few months |
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5% |
[ 2 ] |
| half a year or so |
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0% |
[ 0 ] |
| more than half a year |
|
5% |
[ 2 ] |
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bucephalus
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| Matt62 wrote: | OK, we are talking about sensory/emotional overload caused by close proximity of a romantic interest.
Matthew |
sorry, I was just teasing :) I think a few days is acceptable in my books. once it gets over a week i would reach the conclusion that there are other aggravating factors than emotional overload
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mds_02
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Joined: Sep 10, 2011
Posts: 1948
Location: Los Angeles
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| Posted: Fri Mar 02, 2012 9:01 pm Post subject: |
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| Matt62 wrote: | Hmm, Shutdown here means something a bit less defined than what I normally consider a shutdown; Mind and/or body no longer obeying me, depersonalization. We are talking more about emotional overloading here, are we not? That is my impression. In which case, withdrawing might be a better term.
My shut-downs are just that, like someone flipped the switch to "OFF"!
Sorry to be nit-picky about this, & not trying to high-jack the thread.
Anyway a week to two are acceptable in my book..
Sincerely,
Matthew |
Yeah, defining shutdown the way others seem to would change my answer. If my partner were able to function, just not with me around, the lack of contact would hurt more than if they just couldn't function at all. I'd still try to be understanding, but I'd end up backing out of the relationship sooner to spare my own feelings. |
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simon_says
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Joined: Jan 21, 2011
Posts: 2443
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I once had one for two or three months. Aggressively non-talkative with a gf. A long time ago.
These days I could go a week but that's pretty rare. A day or two is normal. I have no idea what's acceptable. |
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