Wolfheart
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| techstepgenr8tion wrote: | | I should, just for the heck of it one of these days, rent a pavilion in the Cleveland metroparks and have an aspie cookout - see how many people I can get together. I know there were at least seven people in my old support group, probably plenty in the Cleveland area that visit WP. It might be neat for networking. |
Sounds like a great idea, some of the parks in Cleveland look amazing. Sounds like a good idea for one of our UK Wrong Planet meet up groups, I don't think a BBQ in Buckingham Palace Gardens would go down too well though. |
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The-Raven
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Actually, that's Wolfheart. He just looks like David Duchovny in that picture. |
Wolfheart is like a hotter version of Keanu Reeves lol |
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Bataar
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| Tim_Tex wrote: | | ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote: | | But Mummy there are Contras in the garden... |
If you ever have to deal with them, just remember...
Up, Up, Down, Down, Left, Right, Left, Right, B, A. |
I thought it was Up, Up, Down, Down, Left, Right, Left Right, A, B, A ?  |
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Bataar
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| lightening020 wrote: | Dude wolfheart.......those are all valid places....but I have a huge problem with going to places specifically to meet girls/meet people.
Its the same thing as the "start talking to everybody" advice.
Nobody should be going anywhere "to meet girls". You go to those places because you are actually interested in bookstores and you like books.
Do you know what I mean?
I feel like if you are going to a bookstore because you know girls are going to be there, your not ready to meet someone......your not ready to date. Am I the only one who thinks this way?
good luck anyone going to those places, signing up to volunteer, going to a place/doing something your not really into with the intent just to meet people. |
That's how I feel too. I feel that if I have to go to a place I'm uninterested in or do something I'm uninterested in, I'm just going to be really irritated when/if I do meet anyone and probably won't be very good company. Unfortunately, when I go places I'm interested in and do stuff I'm interested in, only guys show up. |
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Joker
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Location: North Carolina The Tar Heel State :)
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| Church or church invents are how I meet most women or by playing sports I like to play soccer and some of the girls I know like to play soccer too. |
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The_Face_of_Boo
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| blueroses wrote: | | ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote: | | How's your lovelife, Wolfheart? |
If his avatar is a picture of him, I'd imagine it's not too bad. |
Why assuming that? |
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Wolfheart
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Location: Kent, England
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| Joker wrote: | | Church or church invents are how I meet most women or by playing sports I like to play soccer and some of the girls I know like to play soccer too. |
Church is a good place if you like religion, if you aren't inclined to agree with every one of their beliefs, they are more likely to show you the door depending on the church. Soccer is great, I love playing soccer, however it's more of a male sport here but more and more girls are getting into it. If you're into sports and fitness, it's best to get a girlfriend that supports that lifestyle, even if she doesn't participate in it.
| hyperlexian wrote: | good point.
however, i think everyone should be doing some form of volunteer work and joining clubs or community events as part of developing their social skills and contributing to their community and networking and making friends etc. basically, even if someone is doing online dating they will lead a better and richer life if they get out and do stuff.
so there are other reasons, but if i go and recommend it in the "Social Skills and Making Friends" or "Work and Finding a Job" sections, i will get answers like, "i don't need friends." or, "i am an aspie and i find it too awkward to socialise." or, "i don't see the point in networking when hiring should be based on skill level only." or, "there are no volunteer opportunities within a 100 mile radius of me."
you don't have to join clubs or volunteer just to date. pick and choose from many of the other reasons. |
I agree, don't go with the intention of getting laid but go with the intention of developing a social circle that might lead to a relationship or developing social skills which will help in most aspects of your lifestyle. It will lead to a more active lifestyle and build comfort in social situations as well.
| The_Face_of_Boo wrote: | | blueroses wrote: | | ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote: | | How's your lovelife, Wolfheart? |
If his avatar is a picture of him, I'd imagine it's not too bad. |
Why assuming that? |
Because i've got the chick magnet looks, women swoon instantly, just kidding  I wish.
| The-Raven wrote: | | Wolfheart is like a hotter version of Keanu Reeves lol |
Thanks, that's not the first time I've heard some call me Keanu Reeves or Neo, not sure about the hotter part though, he's a great actor and he seems like a great guy . |
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blueroses
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| The_Face_of_Boo wrote: | | blueroses wrote: | | ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote: | | How's your lovelife, Wolfheart? |
If his avatar is a picture of him, I'd imagine it's not too bad. |
Why assuming that? |
Because although being good-looking doesn't guarantee success with dating, it does usually give people an advantage. |
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The_Face_of_Boo
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| Quote: | | Because i've got the chick magnet looks, women swoon instantly, just kidding I wish. |
You're 'kidding' but you know you probably know it's true.
| blueroses wrote: | | The_Face_of_Boo wrote: | | blueroses wrote: | | ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote: | | How's your lovelife, Wolfheart? |
If his avatar is a picture of him, I'd imagine it's not too bad. |
Why assuming that? |
Because although being good-looking doesn't guarantee success with dating, it does usually give people an advantage. |
It's the most important advantage, in fact. For men and women. |
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mds_02
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| The_Face_of_Boo wrote: | | It's the most important advantage, in fact. For men and women. |
This is true. Looks make it easier. But too many people take it to mean that, without those looks, their situation is hopeless. Not the case. I've seen some seriously fugly dudes (and before anyone says, no they're not rich) end up with some great women.
Edit: and I've seen some truly beautiful people who, though they may have an easy time meeting people, cannot keep anyone interested for longer than a month or two.
Good looks are an advantage, but they are not a guarantee of success. Nor is the lack of looks a guarantee of failure.
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blueroses
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| ^^I know this is totally off-topic, but I love that Mumford and Sons song in your signature, mds_02. You have good taste! |
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mds_02
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Thank you.
"saw" them live last year. With Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros. Didn't actually see, but heard them. A show, at an outdoor venue, just a few blocks from where I was living, found a good spot very close by without having to pay.
They were awesome. |
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Mindslave
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| Daryl_Blonder wrote: | Strip clubs and brothels.
I'm not kidding or trying to be funny or look cool; I'm dead serious. In all my 30 years the best and most relaxed interaction I've had with women was at strip clubs. Realize that a great deal of guys that patronize strip clubs are douchebags, while we tend to be the nice ones. So the dancers appreciate us as a breath of fresh air. And yes, they are after your wallet... but that's a better scenario to be in than one where you never know what to say or who to say it to, and everything feels awkward, wrong, and unwanted, and where, for all you know, the other party COULD have an agenda to be after your wallet.
While I post from the USA where brothels exist legally in only one state, strip club workers are often willing to meet for dates outside the clubs. And I know a lot of WP members live in parts of the world where this sort of thing is not so stigmatized.
I've quoted Mindslave because the passage below would be greeted at a strip club not with dirty looks, but a hug.
Check out "Problem Child," my published memoir of life with autism.
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Guy: I noticed you are insecure. I am too.
Girl: That's bold of you. You're cute, but what else you got?
Guy: I've got a lot of interesting things to show you, but if you don't act now, you won't see them. Plus, I know you need me, and the time is right, and I know I'm hot.
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Daryl is right about the strip club part, at least in the context he describes. I went on two dates with strippers because the novelty of being respectful took them by surprise. Having said that, don't get your hopes up (not that you need to be told that, but still) Communication is all about instinct and reflex, and since strippers have to listen, they always find me interesting. Of course, I haven't been to one for a few years. But if you want to practice getting a girl's number, practice on strippers. I would ask all kinds of questions about strip clubs and bad customers, not to make talk with her, but because I actually wanted to know. They detect lies for a living, so they knew I was honest and real. |
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ValentineWiggin
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| mds_02 wrote: | Thank you.
"saw" them live last year. With Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros. |
Oh, oh, I HATE you. I'm so jealous.
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OliveOilMom
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| Wolfheart wrote: | | Joker wrote: | | Church or church invents are how I meet most women or by playing sports I like to play soccer and some of the girls I know like to play soccer too. |
Church is a good place if you like religion, if you aren't inclined to agree with every one of their beliefs, they are more likely to show you the door depending on the church. Soccer is great, I love playing soccer, however it's more of a male sport here but more and more girls are getting into it. If you're into sports and fitness, it's best to get a girlfriend that supports that lifestyle, even if she doesn't participate in it.
| hyperlexian wrote: | good point.
however, i think everyone should be doing some form of volunteer work and joining clubs or community events as part of developing their social skills and contributing to their community and networking and making friends etc. basically, even if someone is doing online dating they will lead a better and richer life if they get out and do stuff.
so there are other reasons, but if i go and recommend it in the "Social Skills and Making Friends" or "Work and Finding a Job" sections, i will get answers like, "i don't need friends." or, "i am an aspie and i find it too awkward to socialise." or, "i don't see the point in networking when hiring should be based on skill level only." or, "there are no volunteer opportunities within a 100 mile radius of me."
you don't have to join clubs or volunteer just to date. pick and choose from many of the other reasons. |
I agree, don't go with the intention of getting laid but go with the intention of developing a social circle that might lead to a relationship or developing social skills which will help in most aspects of your lifestyle. It will lead to a more active lifestyle and build comfort in social situations as well.
| The_Face_of_Boo wrote: | | blueroses wrote: | | ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote: | | How's your lovelife, Wolfheart? |
If his avatar is a picture of him, I'd imagine it's not too bad. |
Why assuming that? |
Because i've got the chick magnet looks, women swoon instantly, just kidding I wish.
| The-Raven wrote: | | Wolfheart is like a hotter version of Keanu Reeves lol |
Thanks, that's not the first time I've heard some call me Keanu Reeves or Neo, not sure about the hotter part though, he's a great actor and he seems like a great guy . |
That's you? I wasn't sure if that was you or if that was the actor that plays Carter in ER.
We can't decide who you look like can we? But you are a very nice looking boy.
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