| Ladies, do you prefer aspie or NT partner? |
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32% |
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18% |
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| I'm male/don't care/show me the results |
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48% |
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Caesaran
Raven
Joined: Mar 31, 2012
Posts: 111
Location: The Divide
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 Posted: Sun Apr 01, 2012 10:36 pm Post subject: Logic Time! |
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The data suggested in this thread says that aspie girls will seek out males with traits that could qualify them possibly in the AS spectrum.
I love being an S-type! |
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Briana_Lopez
Deinonychus
Joined: Jan 07, 2012
Age: 16
Posts: 326
Location: Tyngsboro, MA
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Honestly, I could work with either. As long as he accepts me and loves me for who I am as well as treats me right, then I'll love him back. Right now I have quite a few NT boys chasing after me, hoping they can date me, but I'd much rather be with my aspie boyfriend of 2 years more than any other person in the world.  |
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Bloom
Deinonychus
Joined: Mar 16, 2012
Posts: 332
Location: On the OTHER Wrong Planet. The nicer one...
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| Briana_Lopez wrote: | | Right now I have quite a few NT boys chasing after me, hoping they can date me, but I'd much rather be with my aspie boyfriend of 2 years more than any other person in the world. |
Some girls have all the luck 
Why can't *I* have these problems?!
HA!
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Kjas
Onçinha
Joined: Feb 27, 2012
Age: 23
Posts: 4907
Location: the place I'm from doesn't exist anymore
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I'm not sure.
Previously I've only dated NT guys but hanging around here I can certainly see some pretty big advantages to dating an Aspie *thinking*
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BanjoGirl
Phoenix
Joined: Mar 25, 2012
Posts: 617
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| Posted: Mon Apr 02, 2012 7:45 am Post subject: |
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The aspie girl that wants protection and someone "to lead" her in the social situations will search a strong NT guy, the aspie girl that wants to protect or at least have a partner with similar traits as her and doesn't have the necessity to improve her social skills, will search aspies or introverted NT's.
As I feel I'm between NT's and Aspies, I fall in love with introverted NT guys. |
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dustyrose
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Joined: Mar 13, 2012
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| Posted: Mon Apr 02, 2012 9:09 am Post subject: |
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I actually think I'd prefer an NT, but I don't have much romantic experience at all and have never met or dated an aspie guy so I don't really know.
I think I'd prefer an NT because:
*I feel they could be more emotionally responsive
*Most aspies are very left-brained but I am a right-brainer and would prefer a boy who is the same
*They might have more social connections I could get involved with
*Might have interests that are more similar to mine, my interests are not typical aspie interests at all
*Quite frankly, I'd like a guy who takes care of himself physically (diet, hygiene etc.), and apparently many aspies are oblivious to this (although so are many NT's) |
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dustyrose
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Joined: Mar 13, 2012
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| Posted: Mon Apr 02, 2012 9:14 am Post subject: |
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| Nereid wrote: | | but perhaps the ideal (at least for me) is a very compassionate, understanding, unique NT. |
Yes, this. I'd like an NT but not a very typical one, he must be quirky and understanding enough to click with me, not a typical male. |
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ellora
Butterfly
Joined: Mar 28, 2012
Age: 40
Posts: 12
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| Posted: Mon Apr 02, 2012 6:47 pm Post subject: |
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| Im not certain, it would depend upon the individual. It does seem that there could be an advantage to dating someone more like myself. The last guy I dated (NT) could not really understand or except me. He once called me a vulcan, and was offended when I burst out laughing. I tried pointing out that my sense of humor was at least intact, to no avail. Ive been single for quite some time now and have been giving some thought to seeking out people who might be more inclined to understand me. acceptance without understanding is only good to a point. |
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Bloom
Deinonychus
Joined: Mar 16, 2012
Posts: 332
Location: On the OTHER Wrong Planet. The nicer one...
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| Posted: Mon Apr 02, 2012 10:21 pm Post subject: |
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| BanjoGirl wrote: | The aspie girl that wants protection and someone "to lead" her in the social situations will search a strong NT guy, the aspie girl that wants to protect or at least have a partner with similar traits as her and doesn't have the necessity to improve her social skills, will search aspies or introverted NT's.
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Hmmm... something else I hadn't thought about. Thanks for posting this... I'm really getting a lot out of "listening" to everyone on these forums. 
I'm on of those girls that wants to be "protected" and "lead", I suppose. I work, for the most part, on my social skills. Sometimes, when I've had enough, though, I'VE HAD ENOUGH. I need someone to grab me by the arm and drag me to safety At that point, I don't really care who it is
Interestingly, I'm talking to someone right now (yes, just talking) who is on the spectrum... I've never really talked like this to someone on the spectrum and ... it's AMAZING. The open, honest communication, the feeling of not needing to hide ME, the "it's okay to have FUN talking about databases and neurology", and the awkward flirting ... It's all new to me, and I like it. When I talk to him, I don't feel "different." We don't talk about our weaknesses, we talk about our strengths, ha! And our funnies! I dunno... this has really opened my eyes.
I think I'm more open today to *trying* something more with someone like me than I was. I have concerns, though, still... serious concerns. Not about this guy, of course, since we're JUST TALKING But ... in general. I don't know how safe I would feel with someone that would just leave me when things got bad. But that's not just a spectrum trait, I'm sure.
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Einfari
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Joined: Dec 23, 2011
Age: 18
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| Posted: Mon Apr 02, 2012 11:42 pm Post subject: |
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| I don't care if a guy is an Aspie or a NT. I like nerdy athletes, and I'm sure there are both NTs and Aspies of this type. |
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Erisad
More like Erihappy, amirite?
Joined: Jul 06, 2010
Age: 23
Posts: 13040
Location: United States
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| Posted: Tue Apr 03, 2012 8:24 am Post subject: |
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| I don't pursue aspies specifically but I do go after the geeky type. |
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Mercurial
Phoenix
Joined: Oct 12, 2010
Age: 41
Posts: 537
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| Posted: Wed Apr 04, 2012 10:00 pm Post subject: |
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| I go for geeky, nerdy but not exactly Aspie types. I've never been particularly attracted to anyone I thought was on the spectrum, except for one case, and that turned out to be a really, really bad idea. Most Aspie men I've personally known aren't what I'd consider dating material. They always seem to have such unrealistic expectations of women that it's a real turn-off. |
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melisa27
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Joined: Mar 10, 2012
Posts: 7
Location: under a bridge where the chocolate muffin's roam
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| Posted: Thu Apr 05, 2012 11:57 am Post subject: Here's my feel |
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Yeah on one hand it's all fine and dandy to have a loving partner with the same disadvantages are yourself. But also in the long run it would be nicer if most of us could all find more understanding NTs. I myself would love more then anything to find that special NT of interest. Here the benefits:
More support.
Getting better provided plans met with you and said partner.
You still have the right to bare children with them despite how much some HFA individuals feel about raising a family of their own.
I've read somewhere that there may be a small risk of having any SSI or similar source of income threw said government. That will take away some of your benefits. But you will still have money threw them but not as much as before you two decided to get married. I'm seriously rooting for a change on how most of these clients get these types of private care more suitable. For either retirement or trying to make an honest living all year round.
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CloudLayer
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Joined: Mar 28, 2012
Age: 27
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| Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 2:28 am Post subject: |
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Awkwardness and such is a sign of hypersensitivity.
Lack of imperfections is not something I can easily appreciate.
To me a lot of what you'd call your "average functioning people" seem very polished and robotic in their behavior.
I know most people need to be that way to keep the world turning. It just is such a happy surprise for my soul to find someone who knows how it is.
That said, I think I'll be joining a nunnery soon to preserve my sanity so the question is moot. |
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