| What Sexuality are YOU? |
| Heterosexual |
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48% |
[ 88 ] |
| Homosexual |
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8% |
[ 16 ] |
| Bisexual |
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17% |
[ 31 ] |
| Asexual |
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23% |
[ 42 ] |
| Transexual |
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1% |
[ 3 ] |
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Bun
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| Mine's directed towards unrealistic desires for not more than two people (not ones I know IRL) |
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idlewild
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| ValentineWiggin wrote: | | idlewild wrote: | | Sexual orientation and gender identity are not interchangeable terms. |
Yeah, I wondered about the inclusion of "transsexual", come to think of it. |
Transsexual literally says nothing about your sexual orientation. Neither does asexual, really. A lack of interest in sex or lack of sexual attraction does not mean a person doesn't have a preference for forming a close relationship with a specific gender.
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anneurysm
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Location: Barrie & Toronto, Canada
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| Posted: Tue Apr 03, 2012 1:20 am Post subject: |
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| I've noticed that people on the spectrum are much more varied in terms of their sexual preferences: specifically I've noticed greater levels of fetishism, gender-neutral people and asexuals. I have always been bisexual, and have had enjoyable sexual experiences with both sexes as well some gender-variable people (a couple of androgynous boys). Today, I have a boyfriend who I seem to have become exclusively attracted /attached to, but he has been understanding of my biological preference and knows that I'd never cheat on him with anyone: no matter what gender. I've recently discovered that even though I can become attracted to both genders, I am happiest when I am intimate with one person that I have feelings for. |
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ValentineWiggin
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| idlewild wrote: | | ValentineWiggin wrote: | | idlewild wrote: | | Sexual orientation and gender identity are not interchangeable terms. |
Yeah, I wondered about the inclusion of "transsexual", come to think of it. |
Transsexual literally says nothing about your sexual orientation. Neither does asexual, really. A lack of interest in sex or lack of sexual attraction does not mean a person doesn't have a preference for forming a close relationship with a specific gender. |
If it's a question of orientation, though, asexual should be included to differentiate those who lack sexual attraction.
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Verdandi
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Asexual fits and is fine.
Transsexual is not an orientation, and people who are transsexual can have any orientation. It really shouldn't be in the list, and I can't imagine anyone getting upset if it wasn't. |
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hanyo
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I didn't vote because I didn't know what to pick.
In a way I could be asexual because I haven't had sex in almost 17 years and don't think I even want sex with a partner and haven't been attracted to a real person in real life in a long time.
I do sometimes get interested in and attracted to fictional characters. I'm not always me in my fantasies though and in my fantasies I think of male/male, female/female, and male/female (but never with me as male in male/female).
I actually had a naughty dream last night which is really rare for me. 
If sex was that good in real life maybe I'd actually do it. Like most of my dreams of that nature it was about a vampire. I like vampires. |
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ScientistOfSound
Hope I die before I get old
Joined: May 22, 2011
Age: 19
Posts: 1014
Location: In an evil testing facility
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| I'm primarily interested in women; I am biologically male (however I do have a somewhat androgynous appearance, I have one of those faces...) and intend to stay so, however I care very little for gender roles and I view myself as being a mixture of both genders. I feel somewhat in the middle; I've not really came out about it, but to be honest I don't really think I need to because it's what I am and I shouldn't have to place a label on it anyway. |
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puddingmouse
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Location: Cottonopolis
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| Posted: Tue Apr 03, 2012 9:14 am Post subject: |
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Bisexual with leaning towards lesbian (I have a bf, though).
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Kiseki
I just ran out of Band-Aids
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Location: Osaka JP
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Homoromantic demisexual. Basically lesbian, but I am rarely attracted to people enough to care.
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Kiseki
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| IdahoRose wrote: | | I'm a lesbian. I know I've asserted that I was bisexual multiple times on this site, but I'm done lying to myself (and everyone else) now. While I sometimes become emotionally attached to men, I've never been sexually attracted to them. On the other hand, I find other women to be very sexually appealing. |
Opposite case for me. Sometimes I find men sexually attractive, but I feel no emotional connection to them at all.
However I find women both sexually and emotionally stimulating.
Good for you for embracing your sexuality! 
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mrspotatohead
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Joined: Apr 05, 2012
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| IdahoRose wrote: | I'm a lesbian. I know I've asserted that I was bisexual multiple times on this site, but I'm done lying to myself (and everyone else) now. While I sometimes become emotionally attached to men, I've never been sexually attracted to them. On the other hand, I find other women to be very sexually appealing.
It's a shame I have to keep my sexual orientation a secret in real life though, because when I came out when I was 14, I was ostracized and bullied at school, and the adults in my life either wrote it off as a "phase" or got angry with me over what they perceived to be morally wrong.
After hearing so many times that I was just going through a phase, I started to believe it and kept telling myself that I was heterosexual. Eventually I became unhappy with that and just labelled myself as bisexual. But then, I recently realized "hey, who am I kidding?" and finally decided to accept the fact that I am, have been, and always will be, a lesbian. |
I don't like male genitalia. I never have really. I prefer to close my eyes or look away when I'm with my husband. But I love him and love to kiss and hug him and, if I don't see it... then I can enjoy it. Otherwise, it's just something funny to look at and not at all sexually stimulating. I have never been with another woman, beyond kissing. I've kissed a lot of girls, but always have been afraid to try anything else... I guess I respect them more than I do men and am afraid to take things to the next level when the time comes, so I just get stuck on kissing. I love the female form though...on other women. Other girls have just never been romantically attracted to me, though, so it was easier finding a male partner to connect with romantically, and I still don't know just how it would go to actually have sex with a woman. I understand men better, anyway. I feel almost like I'm in a homosexual relationship with my husband sometimes with me just being a slightly effeminate man inside of a female body. He likes the female body, but he has agreed to let me lop off the majority of my breasts after we have a kid. He wants me to keep a B cup... but I might try for a large A cup. I've always hated them.
I also cycle in my attractions. Sometimes men actually are sexually attractive to me, but for the past year they haven't been, and like I said, I never really found their actual male parts attractive, so I dunno. It's weird. |
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Ettina
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| Quote: | | Firstly, your use of the word 'choose' is wrong. Someone who is straight or gay doesn't choose to be attracted to someone. It's just their natural response. |
| Quote: | Heterosexual: You like to choose mates of the opposite sex. Boy+Girl
Homosexual: You like to choose mates of the same sex. Boy+Boy, Girl+Girl.
Bisexual: You like to choose mates of both sexes. Boy+Boy, Girl+Girl, Boy+Girl. |
That doesn't imply your orientation is a choice, it implies who you go out with is a choice. Which it is, even if you can't chose their gender.
| Quote: | | For the people who say they are asexual: do you simply have a lack of desire for actual sex, or do you have a total lack of physical/sexual attraction to people? I'm just curious. |
In my case: I have never felt any feeling that I can reliably classify as 'sexual' in any way. I even tried rubbing my clitoris, and I got a twitchy feeling, but it wasn't at all pleasurable. I find some people (of either gender, though more often women) more physically attractive than others, but have no desire to do anything sexual with them. The thought of doing anything with anyone else's genitalia kind of grosses me out. I also have no desire for any sort of pair-bond. |
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Mysty
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| Posted: Sat Apr 07, 2012 11:38 am Post subject: |
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| Frankie_J wrote: | | Firstly, your use of the word 'choose' is wrong. Someone who is straight or gay doesn't choose to be attracted to someone. It's just their natural response. |
First, the poll choices don't say who you choose to be attracted to. It's who you choose to have relationships with.
I do agree that saying "who you choose to find attractive" would be inappropriate wording. However, it seems appropriate to note that there is choice involved in who we find attractive. It's not a direct choice thing. And there are limits. But my choices of who I pay attention to and in what way affect who I find attractive. My choices of what attitude to have towards a person affect if I find that person attractive. And, maybe evenmoreso, affect how enduring that attraction is.
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Mysty
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| TTRSage wrote: | | Actually I believe that it is none of the above. I personally believe that there is no such thing as 100% hetero or 100% gay, but that it is a continuous spectrum between the two extremes just like autism, and just like limits in differential calculus, the extremes may be approached but can never actually be reached. |
I partly agree. It does seem to be a spectrum. I do think I'm close enough to 100% hetero to call it that. And I also think that I am outside the norm in that. I notice that it's normal to have a hint of bisexuality precisely because I don't share that.
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Mysty
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| CrazyCatLord wrote: | | The term "sexuality" refers to all things sexual, including biological sex and sexual behavior. The term that you are looking for is sexual orientation (and transsexuality is not a sexual orientation btw. Transsexuals are either hetero, gay, bi, poly/omnisexual, or asexual like everybody else). |
Not really. If you said transsexuals are either attracted to women, men, or both, or neither, just like everyone else, I'd agree.
But the heterosexual and homosexual labels require one's own gender/sex to be easily and simply defined, and so, it seems to me, don't really fit for a transsexual unless they've first clearly defined their gender/sex as male or female.
In other words, their sexuality is the same as non-transsexuals, but the usual labels don't fit as easily.
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