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| Heterosexual |
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48% |
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| Homosexual |
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8% |
[ 16 ] |
| Bisexual |
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17% |
[ 31 ] |
| Asexual |
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23% |
[ 42 ] |
| Transexual |
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1% |
[ 3 ] |
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J-Greens
Phoenix
Joined: Oct 20, 2011
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I wish there was an answer that read 'don't know' - it would be more appropriate for me. On every official test/exam/form I'll tick Heterosexual and leave it at that.
But personally, I'm so much more favourable to the term 'adventurous' - because I can easily see why I would switch different sexualities for different partners. I wouldn't say I was pansexual as I've never fully explored each sexuality and either enjoyed or repulused by it. However, while I'm naturally heterosexual, in the right situation I could see myself with another guy or transgender if only for the experience. It's strange because I don't know how much this maybe influnced by my aspergers or if it's just my corrupted mind.
I've only ever had feelings for women myself but I can't rule out other possibilties until tested. |
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packmaster
Butterfly
Joined: Mar 31, 2012
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I am attracted to a very small group of people. Their genitalia doesn't seem to be a factor in this.
They almost always fit into the GLBT "spectrum", which works out fine for me with the "G's"..... not so much with the "L's".
Fortunately I don;t have much of a sex drive and have issues with touch, so questioning it all doesn't occupy a lot of my time.
Pansexual seems to be the closest, but isn't on the list so couldn't vote.
(Thought about Bi, but it just doesn't work. In common usage it covers too much that I'm not)
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Heidi80
Phoenix
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Age: 33
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| I'm not sure about my gender or my sexual orientation. I kind of feel that I'm between genders and between sexual orientations. What I mean is that I feel both like a man and like a woman, but more like a man or a masculine lesbian (butch) (I'm biologically female). I guess I'm pansexual, as the other person's gender isn't really important when I fall in love, it's the personality that I fall for. I have a girlfriend now, but can imagine falling for a guy also, at least on an intellectual level. |
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crookedfingers
Blue Jay
Joined: Apr 04, 2012
Age: 24
Posts: 93
Location: Lincolnshire, England
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Secondly, someone who is asexual doesn't necessarily not want a partner. I've known asexuals who have been in relationships.
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I agree with this, my fiance and I are both asexual, its not that we don't feel attraction (aesthetic or intellectual), it's more a lack of sexual attraction and urges or lust.
Sex isn't the only reason to crave a partnership. I identify as Bi-Romantic, and he identifies as Hetero-Romantic |
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Frankie_J
Snowy Owl
Joined: Feb 27, 2011
Posts: 156
Location: UK
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| Heidi80 wrote: | | I'm not sure about my gender or my sexual orientation. I kind of feel that I'm between genders and between sexual orientations. What I mean is that I feel both like a man and like a woman, but more like a man or a masculine lesbian (butch) (I'm biologically female). I guess I'm pansexual, as the other person's gender isn't really important when I fall in love, it's the personality that I fall for. I have a girlfriend now, but can imagine falling for a guy also, at least on an intellectual level. |
Why should 'feeling like a man' or 'woman' have to have set characteristics? Humans seem to latch onto labels and categories and assign traits to things and that's why so many people are confused and even unhappy with themselves. You don't need to label yourself with a gender ever, or a sexual orientation. All you are is you. And that's the only way we should describe ourselves. |
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Sweetleaf
Metalhead
Joined: Jan 07, 2011
Age: 23
Posts: 14828
Location: Somewhere in Colorado
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| Frankie_J wrote: | | Heidi80 wrote: | | I'm not sure about my gender or my sexual orientation. I kind of feel that I'm between genders and between sexual orientations. What I mean is that I feel both like a man and like a woman, but more like a man or a masculine lesbian (butch) (I'm biologically female). I guess I'm pansexual, as the other person's gender isn't really important when I fall in love, it's the personality that I fall for. I have a girlfriend now, but can imagine falling for a guy also, at least on an intellectual level. |
Why should 'feeling like a man' or 'woman' have to have set characteristics? Humans seem to latch onto labels and categories and assign traits to things and that's why so many people are confused and even unhappy with themselves. You don't need to label yourself with a gender ever, or a sexual orientation. All you are is you. And that's the only way we should describe ourselves. |
How are humans supposed to communicate things to each other without having words to describe things. I mean yes I am me that's all good and fine but if I just tell someone 'oh I'm me' that is not going to give them any idea at all what that means.
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Bun
Bunnymen
Joined: Jan 09, 2012
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| Sweetleaf wrote: | | Frankie_J wrote: | | Heidi80 wrote: | | I'm not sure about my gender or my sexual orientation. I kind of feel that I'm between genders and between sexual orientations. What I mean is that I feel both like a man and like a woman, but more like a man or a masculine lesbian (butch) (I'm biologically female). I guess I'm pansexual, as the other person's gender isn't really important when I fall in love, it's the personality that I fall for. I have a girlfriend now, but can imagine falling for a guy also, at least on an intellectual level. |
Why should 'feeling like a man' or 'woman' have to have set characteristics? Humans seem to latch onto labels and categories and assign traits to things and that's why so many people are confused and even unhappy with themselves. You don't need to label yourself with a gender ever, or a sexual orientation. All you are is you. And that's the only way we should describe ourselves. |
How are humans supposed to communicate things to each other without having words to describe things. I mean yes I am me that's all good and fine but if I just tell someone 'oh I'm me' that is not going to give them any idea at all what that means. |
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SanityTheorist
Wandering Artist
Joined: Feb 14, 2012
Posts: 2097
Location: The Akuma Afterglow
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Hard to say really. I have women issues from when I was young and fiund men attractive but care more about personality and interests far more than anything else. I would say homosexual though with low libido.
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Frankie_J
Snowy Owl
Joined: Feb 27, 2011
Posts: 156
Location: UK
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| Sweetleaf wrote: | | Frankie_J wrote: | | Heidi80 wrote: | | I'm not sure about my gender or my sexual orientation. I kind of feel that I'm between genders and between sexual orientations. What I mean is that I feel both like a man and like a woman, but more like a man or a masculine lesbian (butch) (I'm biologically female). I guess I'm pansexual, as the other person's gender isn't really important when I fall in love, it's the personality that I fall for. I have a girlfriend now, but can imagine falling for a guy also, at least on an intellectual level. |
Why should 'feeling like a man' or 'woman' have to have set characteristics? Humans seem to latch onto labels and categories and assign traits to things and that's why so many people are confused and even unhappy with themselves. You don't need to label yourself with a gender ever, or a sexual orientation. All you are is you. And that's the only way we should describe ourselves. |
How are humans supposed to communicate things to each other without having words to describe things. I mean yes I am me that's all good and fine but if I just tell someone 'oh I'm me' that is not going to give them any idea at all what that means. |
So? If someone doesn't get what being you means, then they're a moron, because the only way you can describe you is by saying you're you. Instead of going "I like this", "I like that" or "I'm this, I'm that" you're automatically conforming to something else that doesn't derive from you. If someone went to me "What do you mean you're you? I want answers. Are you this label? Are you that label?" I'd get quite annoyed with them. I shouldn't ever have to explain myself using words that don't completely describe me just so they're like "Oh, I see now." It's just that humans have developed in a way where we can only make sense of something by assigning it with labels, but those labels are false, inaccurate and put heavy expectations on people to be a particular way... and that's definitely not being yourself. Who even says someone HAS to know what you mean? If someone is a good enough person they'd take you as you are regardless. People are more unique than you think. |
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Sweetleaf
Metalhead
Joined: Jan 07, 2011
Age: 23
Posts: 14828
Location: Somewhere in Colorado
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| Frankie_J wrote: | | Sweetleaf wrote: | | Frankie_J wrote: | | Heidi80 wrote: | | I'm not sure about my gender or my sexual orientation. I kind of feel that I'm between genders and between sexual orientations. What I mean is that I feel both like a man and like a woman, but more like a man or a masculine lesbian (butch) (I'm biologically female). I guess I'm pansexual, as the other person's gender isn't really important when I fall in love, it's the personality that I fall for. I have a girlfriend now, but can imagine falling for a guy also, at least on an intellectual level. |
Why should 'feeling like a man' or 'woman' have to have set characteristics? Humans seem to latch onto labels and categories and assign traits to things and that's why so many people are confused and even unhappy with themselves. You don't need to label yourself with a gender ever, or a sexual orientation. All you are is you. And that's the only way we should describe ourselves. |
How are humans supposed to communicate things to each other without having words to describe things. I mean yes I am me that's all good and fine but if I just tell someone 'oh I'm me' that is not going to give them any idea at all what that means. |
So? If someone doesn't get what being you means, then they're a moron, because the only way you can describe you is by saying you're you. Instead of going "I like this", "I like that" or "I'm this, I'm that" you're automatically conforming to something else that doesn't derive from you. If someone went to me "What do you mean you're you? I want answers. Are you this label? Are you that label?" I'd get quite annoyed with them. I shouldn't ever have to explain myself using words that don't completely describe me just so they're like "Oh, I see now." It's just that humans have developed in a way where we can only make sense of something by assigning it with labels, but those labels are false, inaccurate and put heavy expectations on people to be a particular way... and that's definitely not being yourself. Who even says someone HAS to know what you mean? If someone is a good enough person they'd take you as you are regardless. People are more unique than you think. |
Where did I say anyone was a moron? I was saying people categorize things and such because it makes it easier to express different ideas in ways that can make sense. I was saying in order to describe myself I would have to give some details like that I like music, maybe what kind of music I like and other interests or things about my personality.
Also I don't think all labels are necessarily false an inaccurate, some stereotypes about certain labels or whatever are false and inaccurate or at least exaggerated but the categories themselves aren't wrong in my opinion. I don't see how using lables to describe things is the same as not being yourself? I mean I am certainly not anyone else than me....but various labels do apply, maybe not all the negative stereotypes but I have no issue of falling in certain categories as opposed to others.
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Patrick64
Emu Egg
Joined: Apr 08, 2012
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With ASD, I am mainly heterosexual, but I generally like girls. I find them more attractive and they have a interesting personality.
I did try going homosexual once, but I knew I couldn't.
I tried really hard to be asexual, but I can't. (I guess once you fall in love with a few girls, you can't go back)
I have thought about being a transsexual lesbian. (I do believe I was supposed to be a woman, but I like girls.) |
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ThatKidInTheCorner
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: Apr 01, 2012
Posts: 32
Location: CANDYLAND.
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Well crap, I started a war.
But on another note, I might have to add more options to the poll. I'm feeling rather ignorant now.
When I use the term mate, I'm using it as in a sexual mate. Just thought I'd clear things up. Words have different definitions to me. Partner is a non-sexual relationship, mate is a sexual relationship. I don't like the term domestic partner to refer to a homosexual relationship, however. It makes them sound like animals or something. I just use the terms mate and partner for all kinds of relationships. |
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Heidi80
Phoenix
Joined: Dec 05, 2011
Age: 33
Posts: 507
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| Sweetleaf wrote: | | Frankie_J wrote: | | Sweetleaf wrote: | | Frankie_J wrote: | | Heidi80 wrote: | | I'm not sure about my gender or my sexual orientation. I kind of feel that I'm between genders and between sexual orientations. What I mean is that I feel both like a man and like a woman, but more like a man or a masculine lesbian (butch) (I'm biologically female). I guess I'm pansexual, as the other person's gender isn't really important when I fall in love, it's the personality that I fall for. I have a girlfriend now, but can imagine falling for a guy also, at least on an intellectual level. |
Why should 'feeling like a man' or 'woman' have to have set characteristics? Humans seem to latch onto labels and categories and assign traits to things and that's why so many people are confused and even unhappy with themselves. You don't need to label yourself with a gender ever, or a sexual orientation. All you are is you. And that's the only way we should describe ourselves. |
How are humans supposed to communicate things to each other without having words to describe things. I mean yes I am me that's all good and fine but if I just tell someone 'oh I'm me' that is not going to give them any idea at all what that means. |
So? If someone doesn't get what being you means, then they're a moron, because the only way you can describe you is by saying you're you. Instead of going "I like this", "I like that" or "I'm this, I'm that" you're automatically conforming to something else that doesn't derive from you. If someone went to me "What do you mean you're you? I want answers. Are you this label? Are you that label?" I'd get quite annoyed with them. I shouldn't ever have to explain myself using words that don't completely describe me just so they're like "Oh, I see now." It's just that humans have developed in a way where we can only make sense of something by assigning it with labels, but those labels are false, inaccurate and put heavy expectations on people to be a particular way... and that's definitely not being yourself. Who even says someone HAS to know what you mean? If someone is a good enough person they'd take you as you are regardless. People are more unique than you think. |
Where did I say anyone was a moron? I was saying people categorize things and such because it makes it easier to express different ideas in ways that can make sense. I was saying in order to describe myself I would have to give some details like that I like music, maybe what kind of music I like and other interests or things about my personality.
Also I don't think all labels are necessarily false an inaccurate, some stereotypes about certain labels or whatever are false and inaccurate or at least exaggerated but the categories themselves aren't wrong in my opinion. I don't see how using lables to describe things is the same as not being yourself? I mean I am certainly not anyone else than me....but various labels do apply, maybe not all the negative stereotypes but I have no issue of falling in certain categories as opposed to others. |
I agree. Sometimes you need labels/words to describe yourself and your world and yourself. Labels aren't everything, of course, but they're a way to help you identify who and what you are |
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League_Girl
Proud mamma
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PerfectlyDarkTails
Sea Gull
Joined: Mar 14, 2012
Age: 25
Posts: 232
Location: Wales
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Erm... I put it as asexual for the time being since that is the closest. I do experience a form of attraction to guys and girls, more so guys.
The thing is, it could be interpreted as bisexual with no sex drive or asexual without physical attractions. Fantasies, dreams and reactions to erotic material is mixed and does not tell me a thing either way.
The emotional connection required for some is completely absent, the social drive is also absent.
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