jedaustin
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| namaste wrote: | Today a girl in my office commented that i have been opening up
she said that i was quite closed earlier....
i never felt that way since i was always nice with everyone 
so maybe as per peoples opinion i might be improving in anyway |
Other people noticed my improvement due to Toastmasters long before I did.
I had no idea how it affected people that I never talked to them for days or even weeks - they assumed that I didn't like them when in fact I was just too self absorbed and anti-social due to AS.
It is probable you have improved  |
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SanityTheorist
Wandering Artist
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Location: The Akuma Afterglow
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Well since we learn social skills over time from exposure, thsoe issues lessen, and since we can enjoy thyings for longer than our non-aspergian counterparts, we're also far more likely to be happy in the long-term.
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howzat
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Age: 26
Posts: 1742
Location: Hornsey North London
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| Posted: Wed Apr 04, 2012 3:40 pm Post subject: |
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| I am a lot more confident nowadays when it comes to talking to other people. |
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autismthinker21
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Location: unitedstates
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| Posted: Thu Apr 05, 2012 12:19 am Post subject: social life and making friends. |
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| howzat wrote: | | I am a lot more confident nowadays when it comes to talking to other people. |
I have to say that i talk like a funny person or a guider. one girl i asked that is aspergerian as well
told me i was awkward with my talking. i think
she mean't i was going to quick with my talking. yeah that's it i was talking way to fast like a motor
mouth. but i can't help it, well i can but it's hard to since i am used to it. my mom keeps saying that
i have a quarter stuck in my head. like a broken record. it's really funny actually. |
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AspieOtaku
Leader of the Otaku Legion
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Age: 30
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Location: Mountain View, California, United States
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It seems to get a bit easier I think. As opposed to my past I would say yes.
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autismthinker21
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Location: unitedstates
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How do you know that someone is an aspie or not with the scores? seems some people on here
are doing that. can you explain? |
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xSleep
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| Posted: Thu Apr 05, 2012 3:00 pm Post subject: |
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I feel like as I got older it was only from the forced experiences I had to endure that kind of made it almost routine-like. Although it still gets SO awkward when people are looking at me laughing about something they thought was funny that just didnt do it for me. It always ends up with
Check phone, play with fingers, look at ground, half smile.
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muslimmetalhead
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| Posted: Thu Apr 05, 2012 5:36 pm Post subject: |
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| namaste wrote: | Today a girl in my office commented that i have been opening up
she said that i was quite closed earlier....
i never felt that way since i was always nice with everyone
so maybe as per peoples opinion i might be improving in anyway |
When you're over-friendly like most Aspies get, it makes people sick of you and like they can't talk to you.
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tomboy4good
An Equal Opportunity Annoyer
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Posts: 1608
Location: Irritating people everywhere
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Nope, as a matter of fact, I seem to be getting more dysfunctional/useless as I get older.
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elf_1half
Blue Jay
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Posts: 95
Location: New York
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| Posted: Sat Apr 07, 2012 10:19 am Post subject: |
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| Yes and no. My social skills have definitely improved from exposure and life experience but I feel the complexity of adult socialization/day to day life/organizational skills are being thrown at me faster than I can handle them and make my difficulties much more apparent than they were when I was a kid. |
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Oren
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Location: United States
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| Posted: Sat Apr 07, 2012 10:34 am Post subject: |
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For me everything gets easier emotionally with age. There is no need to fit in after a certain point.
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aspi-rant
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Location: denmark
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| Posted: Sat Apr 07, 2012 10:35 am Post subject: |
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i did rather well… but then it all collapsed again after 40 years… i just burned out pretending and trying.
so did most aspies i know that passed that magic age of doom…  |
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WhiteWidow
Phoenix
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Age: 23
Posts: 592
Location: Edmonton, Alberta
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| CrazyCatLord wrote: | | In my case, it got worse over the years. I turned from a slightly nerdy but mostly functional kid into a semi-functional adult with severe issues, and then into a shut-in with zero social contact. Now I'm on the way of becoming a crazy old cat person. |
I grow more anxious and angry as the days go by |
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AScomposer13413
Complacent Composer
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Location: Canada
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| Posted: Sun Apr 08, 2012 5:12 pm Post subject: |
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| elf_1half wrote: | | Yes and no. My social skills have definitely improved from exposure and life experience but I feel the complexity of adult socialization/day to day life/organizational skills are being thrown at me faster than I can handle them and make my difficulties much more apparent than they were when I was a kid. |
^ This, 100% |
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Kalika
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Age: 34
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| Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2012 10:06 pm Post subject: |
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| I think it does.......to some degree. Going by personal experience, I've gotten better with making eye contact, interacting with people, .....etc. |
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