| Which describes your situation most accurately? |
| I'M A MAN. I am married or in a steady relationship and have never experienced dating problems. |
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1% |
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| I'M A MAN. I am married or in a steady relationship, but I used to have dating problems in the past. |
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8% |
[ 14 ] |
| I'M A MAN. I am currently single, but I don't have any problems with dating in general. |
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6% |
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| I'M A MAN. I am single, and I do experience chronic dating problems, which might be AS-related. |
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46% |
[ 78 ] |
| I'M A WOMAN. I am married or in a steady relationship and have never experienced dating problems. |
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4% |
[ 8 ] |
| I'M A WOMAN. I am married or in a steady relationship, but I used to have dating problems in the past. |
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10% |
[ 18 ] |
| I'M A WOMAN. I am currently single, but I don't have any problems with dating in general. |
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2% |
[ 4 ] |
| I'M A WOMAN. I am single, and I do experience chronic dating problems, which might be AS-related. |
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20% |
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Blindspot149
Phoenix
Joined: Oct 08, 2009
Posts: 2516
Location: Aspergers Quadrant, INTJ, AQ 45/50
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I voted married with dating problems in the past, but they were chronic, highly impairing problems. However this was confined to the emotional aspect of dating, I always felt very empowered by the physical aspect of what could loosely be described as 'dating'.
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SpongeBobRocksMao
The SpongeBob Freak! :D
Joined: Oct 19, 2008
Age: 19
Posts: 2970
Location: SpongeBob's Pineapple (England really!)
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Well, I may only be 18, but I've never really been successful with dating. I understand that some would say "I'm too young, I've got plenty of time to date", but I get the feeling that I'll always have dating problems.
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MathGirl
admitted workaholic
Joined: Apr 12, 2009
Age: 22
Posts: 2784
Location: Ontario, Canada
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I'm a woman who didn't care about dating until I've met a guy in an Asperger's group who I became attracted to. We are now in a relationship. I don't know what is considered to be relationship problems. I've gone through some strange scenarios in the past, but not by my own will. And I have a stalker who, after 2 years of me ignoring him, still continues to stalk me. I've met him on Aspie Affection as an experiment. 
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beccah
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
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Joined: Sep 11, 2010
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I ama woman
I identify as a woman
I am bisexual
I have non-AS related relationship problems,the most recent problem was that the guy ended up being one 'of those guys' and said relationship ended. |
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Feline1982
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: Apr 12, 2012
Posts: 48
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I got so sad to see that there is so many single man with dating problems. I would like to date all of you but I doubt my boyfriend wouldn't like that.
I've been with same guy now for 9 years. Before that I had two (2) redicilous "relationships". I'm sort of cute, so many man gets attracted to me, but when they get to know me...
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mindmapper
Blue Jay
Joined: Feb 17, 2012
Posts: 86
Location: Netherlands
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| Feline1982 wrote: | | I'm sort of cute, so many man gets attracted to me, but when they get to know me... |
I get told all the time that I look cute, I'm not quite sure why however, but I think most of those cute parts are actually AS related, such as me telling interesting facts all the time, and always having my big eyes staring at the world around me.
I'm dating someone now, and it seems to be going quite well, though I can't stop being very paranoid about what he thinks of me, I constantly have this feeling that I do something that will terminate the whole thing, but that's not really based on anything.
I've never dated anyone before this, so it's all quite new as well, that also might have something to do with it. |
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Czeslaw_Kowalski
Snowy Owl
Joined: Dec 25, 2011
Posts: 140
Location: Dolchavia
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| Posted: Mon Apr 30, 2012 8:59 am Post subject: Re: How is your dating/relationship life? |
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| New-Yorker wrote: | I'm a man and, unfortunately, I have been experiencing dating difficulties for the past decade or so. I tend to think that these difficulties have a lot to do with the way I present myself, which, in turn, may very well be due to undiagnosed AS.
Of course, I maintain the optimisic composure: even if I do turn out to have AS, I'm determined to override its symptoms and get myself a happy relationship (marriage). |
I only once had a girlfriend several years ago and couldn't have another now. |
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Wandering_Stranger
Phoenix
Joined: Apr 07, 2012
Posts: 1133
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I'm a single woman. No interest in relationships at all. According to my mother, this makes me sensible.  |
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Dillogic
you know how it goes
Joined: Nov 25, 2011
Posts: 3309
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Non-existent.
Which is how it should be [for me]. |
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Species5618
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
Joined: Apr 18, 2012
Posts: 55
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I picked male, married, had dating problems.
The woman I'm married to prefers introverted people over extroverts and macho guys, so that helps. We were in the same year at the university (physics department) and she likes to take initiative, which compensates for my passivity in matters of romance. I wouldn't call her exactly NT, but she doesn't have an ASD either. We're together now for 8.5 years, married for almost 3 years.
But besides her, I've never had any other dates or girlfriends. |
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NTAndrew
Toucan
Joined: Jan 19, 2012
Posts: 280
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I'm an unmarried male with dating problems.
I've had a couple of very brief flings, and a relationship that lasted about 3 years that was sort of a train wreck.
I'm a hopeless romantic with a pretty strong sex drive, but I seem to have an unerring attraction to women with whom I would be miserable.
I really miss being in love. I'd love to have someone run their fingers through my hair...while I still have some hair left. |
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jetbuilder
Phoenix
Joined: Feb 24, 2012
Age: 28
Posts: 739
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There should be a selection that says "non existent"
That would fit my dating and relationship life.
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Who_Am_I
almost human
Joined: Aug 28, 2005
Age: 29
Posts: 10503
Location: My body is in Brisbane and my mind is in the gutter. :D
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No option for "Female, and since I put no effort in my lack of a relationship can hardly be seen as "struggles" "issues" or "problems" "? 
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SilkySifaka
Lemur
Joined: Apr 23, 2012
Age: 27
Posts: 1396
Location: UK
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I chose 'I'M A WOMAN. I am married or in a steady relationship, but I used to have dating problems in the past'.
I'm in a steady relationship with an (NT) man who seems to be happy with me, and I am very happy with him. In the past I either dated men who mistreated me or men who hoped they could somehow 'fix' me, and then became unhappy and angry with me when I couldn't change. If the relationship I am in now did not work out I'm not sure if I would seek another relationship. I find it all quite confusing and mentally exhausting. I try very hard to be a good girlfriend, but I worry that I am getting things wrong that I am not aware of. |
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Sora
away away
Joined: Sep 16, 2006
Age: 25
Posts: 5645
Location: Europe
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How is my dating/relationship life? Non-existent.
Giving off a vibe of being different and struggling to speak puts people off, no amount of nice clothes and nice looks is going to make up for it.
Maybe I should go hunt for an autistic guy. Or someone with hyperactive ADHD. (Please be someone with dark/black hair, thankyouverymuch!) Might be fun.
Besides the hair issue, preferably one who isn't going to ridicule me and call me retarded for being a perfectly normal autistic person. I ought to meet someone like that at some point.
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