IlovemyAspie
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| Quote: | You may feel bitter toward him, but you understand you can never show this? You'll only alienate yourself.
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I'm not going to say you are wrong for feeling this way, but this ^
| Quote: | | curiously enough one of my special interests, like the guy you spoke of, is physics. In fact, I intend to major in physics. |
Yup, my guy is reading a book about quantum physics-SEXY! I told him I'd have to go check out "quantum physics for dummies".  'Cause this NT is clueless.
You are not inferior. No one is inferior to anyone. History is riddled with people who felt they were superior to others and felt those inferior did not deserve life. We know that to not be true.
Warning-the mother is coming out in me:
Now look here, I need you to realize that you are just as good as everyone else. You are worthy of all the joys in life, just like everyone else. I understand you need the moment to be depressed for a moment. This situation sucks! But then you're going to get it together and get out there and show some girl just how sexy physics can be! Then she's going to run out and buy "Quantum Physics for dummies" just to feel connected to you.
Everyone here is pulling for you. Every day I come here to check on you. One day I'm going to come here and hear good news from you.  |
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The_Postmaster
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Okay, so now I'm really F*cking pissed. The guy has the nerve to, after revealing to me that he's going out with the girl he knows I like, ask me not to tell anyone they're going out. I'm not going to, but not for him, only because she doesn't want me to either. I told him he's lucky that the person he told isn't a manipulative bastard who would take advantage of his situation, and he tells me not to get started with that, he's known me long enough, and knows everything about me. Then when I called his bluff, asking him what, exactly, he knows about me, he said something to the effect of, "Do you really want to test me? I can't think of anything, but if I have to I will make something up." After this, I lost what little shred of respect I had left for him. At this point I really wanted to let the testosterone speak for me and say, "F*ck yes, I want to test you. In fact, we can make this an all out war, because I will not be beaten or intimidated by a lesser intellect." Thankfully I had an ounce of self control left and assured him that I wouldn't tell anyone his secret.
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ZX_SpectrumDisorder
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What a total as*hole. Why are they keeping it quiet?
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| Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 6:17 am Post subject: Re: I'm inadequate |
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| The_Postmaster wrote: | So the last couple of months there's been this girl who's been going to the same chess club that I go to. I really like her. The problem is there's another guy there, the same age as me, who is superior in nearly every respect.
He looks better than me.
He plays chess better than me.
He's socially competent, and I have AS.
He has a cheerful, optimistic view of the world, and I have grown cynical and jaded.
In fact, I only have a couple of advantages over him, and even those are relatively minor. 1) I am much more intelligent than he is. 2) I, like another person I read about recently, have the special interest of knowledge- in other words, I live to absorb information about many different topics. I am competent enough to hold a conversation on just about any topic, whereas his area of expertise is limited to chess.
But really, the main problem is that I am f*cked up and he is perfect. Can anyone else relate to this? I mean, who in their right mind would choose me over him? He always knows what the right thing to say is, and I can't even make eye contact. |
Let's say that's all true (Dunning-Kruger Effect says its probably not, but just for the sake of argument)
Reverse the situation a little bit. Instead of a guy and a girl there, there's two girls. One plays chess excellently, is really stunning and beautiful, very socially competent, full of cheer and optimism, whereas the other is more intelligent and a better conversationalist. Let's assume, furthermore, that they both like you. Do you automatically pick the first? If so ... have you really considered this long-term?
I mean, how secure are you going to feel with the first one, around other guys? And when you're not playing chess or doing the things couples do, how will you spend your time together with this person who's quickly going to run out of things to talk about? |
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IlovemyAspie
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| Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 12:53 pm Post subject: |
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| Quote: | | Why are they keeping it quiet? |
That's what I was wondering? |
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The_Postmaster
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| Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 2:37 pm Post subject: |
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| ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote: | | What a total as*hole. Why are they keeping it quiet? |
Well, I don't know her rationale but his- which I find to be completely ridiculous- is that if the information travels to his parents, his life will be ruined, because his father will make sexual jokes about the girl with him, and his mother will think it's funny to ground him in order to keep him from seeing the girl he likes. I think it's very likely, though, that these reasons are simply excuses and he doesn't want to tell me the real reason. I haven't the first clue what the real one is, though. |
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IlovemyAspie
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| Quote: | | I think it's very likely, though, that these reasons are simply excuses and he doesn't want to tell me the real reason. I haven't the first clue what the real one is, though. |
Yeah cause all that sounds like BS. I would distance myself from this crap. |
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ZX_SpectrumDisorder
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| Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 6:12 pm Post subject: |
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| The_Postmaster wrote: | | ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote: | | What a total as*hole. Why are they keeping it quiet? |
Well, I don't know her rationale but his- which I find to be completely ridiculous- is that if the information travels to his parents, his life will be ruined, because his father will make sexual jokes about the girl with him, and his mother will think it's funny to ground him in order to keep him from seeing the girl he likes. I think it's very likely, though, that these reasons are simply excuses and he doesn't want to tell me the real reason. I haven't the first clue what the real one is, though. |
Is he a total simpleton? |
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The_Postmaster
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| ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote: | | The_Postmaster wrote: | | ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote: | | What a total as*hole. Why are they keeping it quiet? |
Well, I don't know her rationale but his- which I find to be completely ridiculous- is that if the information travels to his parents, his life will be ruined, because his father will make sexual jokes about the girl with him, and his mother will think it's funny to ground him in order to keep him from seeing the girl he likes. I think it's very likely, though, that these reasons are simply excuses and he doesn't want to tell me the real reason. I haven't the first clue what the real one is, though. |
Is he a total simpleton? |
I wouldn't say he's stupid in the traditional sense- I'm sure his IQ is probably relatively high- but he is ignorant of just about everything. He asked me, and I'm not exaggerating, if the earth's crust was pizza crust in earth science a few years back. The sad part is he wasn't joking. |
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ZX_SpectrumDisorder
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| Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 6:52 pm Post subject: |
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| Her loss mate. |
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IlovemyAspie
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| Quote: | | He asked me, and I'm not exaggerating, if the earth's crust was pizza crust in earth science a few years back. The sad part is he wasn't joking. |
Yeah okay, if that's who's she's interested in then move on and let the two of them discuss what kind of sauce in on the earth's crust. |
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Trigas
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I mean why not let word get out about it? I mean ball is in your court. 
Isn't that what you've wanted?
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IlovemyAspie
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| Quote: | | I mean why not let word get out about it? |
Problem with that is, she may hate him for it. He's at war, so to speak, with the guy not the girl. He's got to keep it cool so he can remain friends with the girl-if that's what he still wants. |
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Trigas
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| Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 10:34 pm Post subject: |
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| IlovemyAspie wrote: | | Quote: | | I mean why not let word get out about it? |
Problem with that is, she may hate him for it. He's at war, so to speak, with the guy not the girl. He's got to keep it cool so he can remain friends with the girl-if that's what he still wants. |
Ah yea I could see that then, I guess it just seems like the other guy's secrecy about the relationship might cause her more pain in the end if it blows up so I dunno.
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ZX_SpectrumDisorder
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Honestly Postie, if it turned out a girl I was into was into a spanner like that dick, I'd be over her pretty quickly.
Remain friends and everything, just steer clear. |
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