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jedaustin
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Posted: Fri Apr 13, 2012 2:40 pm Post subject:

Joe90 wrote:

Not just a general hobby, like this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ya4z7GiQlgQ
That is how I use the keyboard - except I can't control the keys at the left side of the keyboard with 3 fingers at once, I have to use just one finger.

While you're no Mozart just yet there are markets that need music like that.
That particular song sounds somewhat circus like but it seems like you're perfectly capable of producing music for children, commercials, and a lot of other things.

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Paul123
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Posted: Fri Apr 13, 2012 2:41 pm Post subject:

I'm not sure if this helps any (and I could be talking nonsense as per usual), but.... I consider myself to be reasonably smart compared to most people I come across. My "thing" was getting websites to appear high up in the search engines - I got several sites up to positions 1 to 3, and they remained there for many years (I moved onto other things and others took over) - this included search terms that are in the "top 10 most popular search terms" - i.e. top listings for the most popular terms, in a competitive arena. I created the sites from scratch too - hence it's not like a big brand where you would have expected the websites to have appeared high anyway. The company I worked for grew rapidly, employing several hundred extra employees to handle the business (mainly young females around my age). I still had no friends and no girlfriends, and struggled with all social things. Being really good at something (that happens to be an "in demand" skill) can help pay the bills making things easier on that front, but for me its not helped any other way. In fact I've probably been too focused on the stuff that I was doing to give other things a go ("tunnel vision" or whatever the term for it is). I found myself in a board room meeting (!) one day and someone mentioned a girl had just gotten pregnant and was getting married. It suddenly hit me that I had a crush on this person, and had absolutely no idea I had had a crush. I was too busy going about in my robotic aspie mode. I took a risk and left, to try to become more self aware or something (I'll let you know when it starts working out!) My siblings are all NTs and are all very bright - they are really really good at the social thing - and very good at intelligent/logical things too. My theory is that AS moves whatever resources your brain would normally have had and rebalances it, moving some of the stuff that should go into the social side into the logical side instead - i.e. no real net gain: daft perhaps but that's my theory and I'm sticking to it! I think the challenge is just getting through to the people who you would normally want to hang around / be with if you hadn't had AS (regardless of IQ stuff) - that's the difficult part regardless! I don't focus on what web applications I can build (except when I'm doing it for fun) - most of my time just now I'm trying to figure out how to get along with certain people in my current work. After a year I've now given up on this last bit (and in the process oddly started speaking to others in work) but I'm meeting up with fellow (assuming I'm a genuine aspie) aspies tommorrow morning for the first ever time. I don't think this type of activity requires high IQ, but rather bravery!!

Joe90
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Posted: Fri Apr 13, 2012 3:37 pm Post subject:

Well I wouldn't consider smart compared to the general population, let's put it that way. _________________ Real gender: Female From: East UK Age: 23

starkid
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Posted: Fri Apr 13, 2012 4:45 pm Post subject:

Uhura wrote:

How do you make the quotes turn white? I quoted someone in this topic and it didn't turn white.

There should be a small rectangle that says "quote" at the upper right side of all the posts. Click it for the one you want to quote.
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Uhura
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Posted: Sat Apr 14, 2012 11:08 am Post subject:

That is how I have been quoting. The words show up but not the white box.

perpetualconfusion
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Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 3:19 am Post subject:

Uhura wrote:

How do you make the quotes turn white? I quoted someone in this topic and it didn't turn white.

Just hit the "quote" button in the upper right hand corner of the post you want to quote from, the comment will appear w/tags already attached in the reply Smile

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Alternatively, if you are really good, you can capture the quote with ctrl+C and hand tag it into your reply. Not hard if you study the tags; it's just quicker the first way I described Cool

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auntblabby
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Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 3:27 am Post subject:

Uhura wrote:

That is how I have been quoting. The words show up but not the white box.

it sounds like you have my problem, IOW my menubar buttons don't work at all, for whatever reason- so i have had to learn to manually type the HTML code to make those various functions [youtube embedding, quotes, italics et al] work. to make a highlighted quote box, you need to type (using my own example, [qoute="auntblabby"]) (quote intentionally mispelled) a left bracket (looking something like [qoute="auntblabby"]) with the right bracket ] capping it off, then at the end of your paragraph or sentence, you must again type [/quote] with the left bracket and forward slash in front of quote, followed by the right bracket]. to see it in action, just hit the quote button on the top right of the post so you can see the way the code looks in the "post a reply" window. just copy what you see therein. i hope this works for you, even though my explanation is clumsy.

perpetualconfusion
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Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 3:36 am Post subject:

Joe90 wrote:

I'm the same - I'm not clever either. I'm probably around average, or even just under average. I get annoyed when I have a rant about being lonely and the advice always is ''well focus on your special interest and you will make a good living out of it...'' because the answer is no I can't. I've tried it before, and it doesn't work.

I've always felt NTs were cleverer than me. When I first read somewhere that Aspies have high IQs, I was very surprised, and then confused. All through school I required special help and support with my work. There was actually another Aspie in my class at High School (I didn't know that until just after I left), and she was the cleverest person I had ever met. She was excellent in every subject, got A's and above A's in every exam, and always helped other kids with their work in lessons. And when the teacher's assistant wasn't there, the teacher always put her next to me so she could help me. We were like opposites, and yet we were both Aspies!

There were about 5 or 6 other people in my class with learning difficulties (but not AS), and they were all boys, and I required help at the same pace as they did, so that goes to show I had (and still have) the intelligence of a person with learning difficulties. So, basically, I was the ''thickest'' girl in my class!

That's what makes me so miserable - I am not very clever, and when you're not very clever, what else do you crave to be? Yes - social. And I'm not very social either *laughs nervously* so I am pretty much f****.

I feel your pain, Joe90. Getting through school was tough and I had no Idea what Autism was or that I was on the spectrum. Couple that with no musical talent (though both my parents do play instruments/sing). So yeah, band class was a fail for me. I am much better at playing the radio Wink

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Be glad you know you are on the spectrum now instead of finding out when you are over 40 Evil or Very Mad

. Knowledge is power and that information at least gives us all a head start in the right direction, provided the timeliness of it all.
I have spent countless hours doing repetitious jobs (and making a lot of mistakes), to only master them far slower than any of my N/T co-workers. Even then, I am never as fast as some of them, even if I know more about the subject than they do.
So no, I have no specific talent (speaking for myself only), unless you count being off in my own little word a talent Rolling Eyes

Uhura
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Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 9:38 am Post subject:

[I've always felt NTs were cleverer than me] I know they are. just trying the quote through copy/paste. But how do you live with watching them and other Aspies do things so easily?

Briarsprout
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Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 10:03 am Post subject:

Realize AS is expressed differently with each us. Many are not gifted. I, myself, have learning disabilities and AS. I try to "find" my own strengths and play off them.

androbot2084
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Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 11:23 am Post subject:

The secret of intelligence of the autistic is not like a fast digital computer but rather like an artificial neural network.

perpetualconfusion
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Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 12:40 pm Post subject:

Uhura wrote:

I know they are. just trying the quote through copy/paste. But how do you live with watching them and other Aspies do things so easily?

Uhura, maybe you wanted the quote to appear like this?

Joe90 wrote:

I've always felt NTs were cleverer than me

Great snip though! I couldn't agree more with Joe90 Smile

Uhura
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Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 2:57 pm Post subject:

Yes, that is how I wanted it to appear. I don't know why I can't get it to show up in the white box. Now if only I were better at dealing with the frustration that comes with not learning as fast as some.