fragileclover
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There are a few special exceptions, but for the most part, I'm incredibly impatient, particularly if I'm trying to show someone how to do something, and they just aren't getting it. I LOATHE having to repeat myself, and any time I've tried to show someone how to do something, I've had to fight myself not to jump over them and do it myself.
A very recent example of my impatience was the other evening when I was on the phone with my boyfriend. He was really excited about a video concept he had for a song he'd been listening to, and he wanted to tell me, in detail, about the concept and get my opinion. I was in the middle of doing something when he called, and I wasn't particularly interested in the concept, because it's not likely this concept would ever come to fruition, but I allowed him to talk to be nice. However, about halfway through the call, I was becoming increasingly impatient to get off the phone, and I started punching the arm of the chair I was sitting in so that I could fight the urge to tell my boyfriend I was no longer interested. It was awful.
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This one does.
Sometimes I have more than others though and then the roles are reversed.
I think it might be because I want things to go a particular way and if they're not and people take even longer doing things their own way, there will be trouble.
I really hate waiting in line though, or even for my chance to speak. Worst of all is waiting at a pedestrian crossing, being the pedestrian who has to wait for the green man.
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NarcissusSavage
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I am as patient as a rock.
With the following exceptions;
I'm dealing with someone dumb. (by my qualification)
I am dealing with someone's irrational emotions. (again, my qualification)
My tolerance of those exceptions dwindles each passing year. And my qualifications for what they apply to grows... |
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| i hate ciggarates to the bone i can`t stand the smell. |
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| I've been told I have the patience of a saint... little do they know just how draining it is to pull it off. |
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Patient, extremely
Tolerant of fools? NO!!
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glider18
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I have little patience too. A lot of it involves driving. I am tired of people driving left of center (in the US). I am tired of people pulling out in front of me (and others---it happens so often anymore) when they should have waited---then they often turn not long after. I have a saying, "Pull out in front of you, turn within a mile." At least a couple times a week I have to be on the alert as some car begins drifting toward my lane due to their texting. I also get fed up with people running stop signs and ignoring traffic lights when they have just turned red. There's more, but I'm getting angry  .
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Joe90
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This is why I've discovered I don't want to work with the public. I had the public. People get on my nerves. I don't mean it personally, but I'd rather work somewhere where I don't have to interact with the public, like just packing boxes in a factory or something like that. I get so impatient when I'm a customer myself, so I definately will if I was put in a position where I had to deal with customers all day.
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Mdyar
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| fragileclover wrote: | There are a few special exceptions, but for the most part, I'm incredibly impatient, particularly if I'm trying to show someone how to do something, and they just aren't getting it. I LOATHE having to repeat myself, and any time I've tried to show someone how to do something, I've had to fight myself not to jump over them and do it myself.
A very recent example of my impatience was the other evening when I was on the phone with my boyfriend. He was really excited about a video concept he had for a song he'd been listening to, and he wanted to tell me, in detail, about the concept and get my opinion. I was in the middle of doing something when he called, and I wasn't particularly interested in the concept, because it's not likely this concept would ever come to fruition, but I allowed him to talk to be nice. However, about halfway through the call, I was becoming increasingly impatient to get off the phone, and I started punching the arm of the chair I was sitting in so that I could fight the urge to tell my boyfriend I was no longer interested. It was awful. |
Hmmmm, fc, I recall your diagnostician pegged you as subclinical ADHD.
I find that once I get hooked into a train of thought, a stick of dynamite couldn't crack through that . And many times this is the case or rule, with a few exceptions. Someone talks, I zone out --I feel this an injustice but it's something beyond my full control.
It has to be something different or special to break into my attention awareness; then I do find my of track of thinking adjusting to that.
Repeating something twice drains me somehow, and the impatience exudes -- this shows and is off putting-- and I'm acutley aware of it, but can do little to garner control.
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| Patience is NOT one of my virtues. I'm very impatient. But strangely, I'm also really tolerant....of most people. |
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Joe90
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I can be very tolerant. I have an elderly relative with Alzheimer's, and my mum says I'm really good with her, whilst they all get impatient with her. Perhaps it's because I understand how being a bit different from the norm feels.
But, like I said, I am extremely impatient with things like people in shops, etc. Maybe it comes from having Social Phobia, though.
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glider18
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| Joe90 wrote: | | This is why I've discovered I don't want to work with the public.....People get on my nerves.....I'd rather work somewhere where I don't have to interact with the public... |
Yes, definitely yes. When I was in college I worked part time at a fancy department store. Ohhhhh, the pay was bad and many of the customers were rude. Ohhhhh---the anxiety!!! Even though we worked on commission I can remember hoping there would be no customers to wait on. I can still feel the anxiety and nervousness of checking someone out (back when you had to do VISA charges by hand on a credit slip with carbon copies---talk about slow---you had to add it up on a calculator) and seeing impatient customers huffing and puffing because of the wait. Many times I have thought how nice it would be to work by myself with "things" rather than people.
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fragileclover
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| Mdyar wrote: | | fragileclover wrote: | There are a few special exceptions, but for the most part, I'm incredibly impatient, particularly if I'm trying to show someone how to do something, and they just aren't getting it. I LOATHE having to repeat myself, and any time I've tried to show someone how to do something, I've had to fight myself not to jump over them and do it myself.
A very recent example of my impatience was the other evening when I was on the phone with my boyfriend. He was really excited about a video concept he had for a song he'd been listening to, and he wanted to tell me, in detail, about the concept and get my opinion. I was in the middle of doing something when he called, and I wasn't particularly interested in the concept, because it's not likely this concept would ever come to fruition, but I allowed him to talk to be nice. However, about halfway through the call, I was becoming increasingly impatient to get off the phone, and I started punching the arm of the chair I was sitting in so that I could fight the urge to tell my boyfriend I was no longer interested. It was awful. |
Hmmmm, fc, I recall your diagnostician pegged you as subclinical ADHD.
I find that once I get hooked into a train of thought, a stick of dynamite couldn't crack through that . And many times this is the case or rule, with a few exceptions. Someone talks, I zone out --I feel this an injustice but it's something beyond my full control.
It has to be something different or special to break into my attention awareness; then I do find my of track of thinking adjusting to that.
Repeating something twice drains me somehow, and the impatience exudes -- this shows and is off putting-- and I'm acutley aware of it, but can do little to garner control. |
Yes, you recall correctly. If you look at the DSM, I have 4 of the needed 6 symptoms of inattention. I only have 2 symptoms of Hyperactivity/Impulsivity (one of each). My boyfriend and I each filled out a form on executive functioning difficulties, and it pointed to some specific areas of difficulty, but didn't overall qualify for a diagnosis. The thing with me is, I can focus when I deem something to be important...I had nearly a 4.0 throughout highschool and college...but if something is neither important nor of particular interest to me, I struggle to pay attention. My psychologist decided that most of this was explainable by the AS diagnosis.
In terms of feeling drained when having to repeat yourself...EXACTLY! It's the same feeling I have when I'm trying to get out of bed in the morning when I haven't had enough sleep. I usually end up saying "nothing" or "nevermind" when asked to repeat myself.
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Joe90
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I'm OK with other workers. I know they can be annoying, but I can't avoid people all together, and I don't expect to be left completely on my own every day. But working with the public is more daunting for me because you got to speak to different people every day. At least with other workers you can get used to them and know what each individual is like.
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