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techstepgenr8tion
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30 Apr 2012, 6:08 pm

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I think the 'rape' reasoning was that if she's really a lesbian, then she wouldn't consent to straight sex, so the only way the man's friend could have sex with her is through rape. This is a black and white view of sexuality, which ignores the fact that lesbians can and do consent to straight sex in a variety of contexts. However, it's not uncommon for people to think that way, though.

I get the impression most guys don't see lesbians as 100%, enough guys claim that they have fooled around or do fool around with lesbians. The implication was still quite 60's/70's macho - bang her right and she'll go straight, however - I don't know.....on one hand it seems more than a little naive to imply that lesbian means, in certainty, no men and also odd that this many people jumped to the absolute worst case interpretation ahead of any actual thought.


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30 Apr 2012, 11:20 pm

techstepgenr8tion wrote:
puddingmouse wrote:
I think the 'rape' reasoning was that if she's really a lesbian, then she wouldn't consent to straight sex, so the only way the man's friend could have sex with her is through rape. This is a black and white view of sexuality, which ignores the fact that lesbians can and do consent to straight sex in a variety of contexts. However, it's not uncommon for people to think that way, though.

I get the impression most guys don't see lesbians as 100%, enough guys claim that they have fooled around or do fool around with lesbians. The implication was still quite 60's/70's macho - bang her right and she'll go straight, however - I don't know.....on one hand it seems more than a little naive to imply that lesbian means, in certainty, no men and also odd that this many people jumped to the absolute worst case interpretation ahead of any actual thought.


I think the turn feminism took in the 80s included lesbians who proclaimed to be 100%. In the 'politically correct' (for want of a better word) circles I've mixed in, that's the belief (believe it or not!) I don't know how this belief could become so common amongst the general public, but I think the corrective rapes of South Africa set the stage in people's minds for this.


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