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Kjas
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Bloom,
Having been through online dating myself at one point, so I can totally relate, I thought that entire thing was an awesome social commentry that you could only get from an very honest, direct and humorous aspie point of view. You had pissing myself laughing for good 15 minutes over that.
It's interesting to me that your message was taken so badly from some of the members on here (clearly I AM insane  ), all it would have made me do was set up an actual date with you (if I was a boy, that is).
Actually, mind if I pass it on to some friends of mine?
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JanuaryMan
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| Posted: Tue May 08, 2012 6:34 pm Post subject: |
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You can moderate offensive writing but you can't moderate how someone feels about something (note that thinking is not the same as feeling).
Telling people they were wrong to be offended and limiting them to an opinion of praise is well....yeah  though I have to agree the usual men / women bashers came in and ruined it.
EDIT: Bloom, I hope you reconsider leaving. Quite frankly those that were opportunistic to fortify their agenda of all women being evil curs and women waiting for these guys to post in order to immortalize them as misogynistic demons do not represent everyone in this section, or the boards. You are always going to get people hating, and if you were to leave a board because of such criticism quite frankly you'd have nowhere to post. People aren't perfect, and don't always respond how we'd like (nor is it their obligation). You're a funny and interesting character, so please don't let this one thread put you off okay 
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rabbittss
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| Posted: Tue May 08, 2012 11:29 pm Post subject: |
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| Bloom wrote: | Wow... this post when somewhere dark and cold. I'm going to have to remember this... I appreciate everyone's response - no matter how judgemental. It's good insight into who I've been chatting with on this site, and some of the PMs I've gotten. It's unfortunate that the same people seem to just want to continue to pull others apart... But, hey, maybe I deserve some of the comments here, eh? I am, after all, a horrible person that's constantly attacking people and demonstrating my sizable ego. I deserve the be shot down and judged.
For those of you that actually got the humour, *hugs*  The chap that I wrote and I have had a great time writing each other back and forth. This post actually followed up one of his funnier "this is how we met" posts. Actually, his initiating message had me in tears. He may not be a writer, but his sense of humour is astoundingly sharp. Depending on how the next couple of messages go, I just might take his offer up.
In any event, I posted this because I enjoy writing - it's how I express myself. So thank you to the people that just appreciated it as a funny bit a writing. |
For what it's worth, I found the message to be humorous.. No one has really ever taken the time to write me anything even remotely similar in the 6 months I've been on that website.. let alone one as amusing or diverting as that.. |
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| Posted: Wed May 09, 2012 12:28 am Post subject: |
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| MXH wrote: | | spongy wrote: | | MXH wrote: | | spongy wrote: | | MXH wrote: | | hyperlexian wrote: | | ok so the message is facetious? or serious? i can't sort through the layers of meaning. i feel bit like there was a joke i didn't get, or maybe i missed the point of the thread? Bloom did you want feedback or did you want people offering their own responses? i think i misunderstood. oh, and if you feel attacked you may want to contact another mod as i am participating in this thread as a member. |
she just wanted to throw it out there and make it seen by more than one pair of eyes. I decided to add my opinion on it. Its not any more of an attack as what she has insinuated about multiple members in her reply. |
Anyone that feels attacked by her post is more than free to contact any moderator.
However this members may want to think about the way they approach people since all she did was address their comments about her personality(btw I didnt know that some of you guys could tell someones character out of a short message,Im truly impressed by your abilities  ) |
Nobody here talked about her character. We all did agree that without knowing the context its something that can be taken very negatively. |
"I dont know you enough to say that you are full of yourself or have a needy ego or whatnot, but likely neither does that guy and now he likely thinks you are that way."
Taking the I dont know you enough formality, being full of herself/needy/pretentious are judgements of character as far as I know.
Feel free to correct me though |
"yea it does make her sound very full of herself. I wrote "a bit" to try and not sound insulting, because im trying hard to word this without coming that way. "
Good to see you automatically assume the worst out of what someone says to twist when they are explaining and point out that they arent trying to insult but just showing what it comes off as. Hell, you even got it from the same f***ing post. Figure out a simpler way of saying "your message makes you sound full of yourself and would make a normal guy walk away" which is what weve all said. We never said she was full of herself, we said her message made her sound that way. Thats a very big difference if you ask me. But in the eyes of someone trying to judge its "just a formality"
You want to hear what a formality is? Heres one, with all due respect you sound like someone trying too hard to be a smartass |
Heres the thing when you have to try to avoid sounding insulting chances are that what you are going to say is indeed insulting and you are just trying to sweeten things up.
Assuming the worst would mean that I read into your post a lot. I didnt read into your post I quoted the parts where you were judging her character which you were denying to do.
As for the last part I refuse to get involved into personal attacks nonsense and if someone else sees your post and decides to do something about it its up to them. |
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