YellowBanana
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 Posted: Sat May 19, 2012 9:05 pm Post subject: Re: Do you "cling"? |
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| Dots wrote: | | I "cling" in pretty much every unfamiliar situation. I went to a coffee house at my university that a couple of people I knew were organizing, and I got there and pretty much followed the girl I knew around while she was setting up, until she told me to "go, mingle", after which I went and sat alone. |
I cling and the above could have been written by me.
I also happen to love the word cling ...the way it's spelled, the way it looks and the way it sounds.
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Dots
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How do you feel about the Klingons? I love Star Trek but every time I hear that word I imagine little furry things that piggyback on people.
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JanuaryMan
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I used to cling to people real bad. It resulted in almost ruining my social life entirely up until a few years into adulthood.
It's the other way round now people might cling to be but I don't know how to deal with it because my brain isn't tuned to think like that much now.
I still get clingy once in a blue moon (well it happens inside me and I just hide it / fight it even though it's hard to do).
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Atomsk
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| Posted: Sat May 19, 2012 9:46 pm Post subject: |
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| Dots wrote: | | Yes, you were that person. I wasn't sure if it was appropriate to quote you in the original post or not. Hopefully I didn't offend. It just stuck out to me because I related. |
I have no problems with being quoted. Didn't offend at all - I enjoy others relating to the things I say. |
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Colinn
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| Posted: Sat May 19, 2012 10:31 pm Post subject: |
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| I don't tend to get clingy really, people and friends come and go, its just part of life. But I do become attached to those I make a personal connection with. |
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Tuttle
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| Posted: Sat May 19, 2012 11:08 pm Post subject: |
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| I've been being unable to respond to this thread because I can't find a way to say that I do that strong enough. The best I have is that when I linked this thread to my boyfriend and said that I do more than a little of both this sort of clinging and the physical sort his response was "Very very very, yes..." |
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Lockheart
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| Posted: Sun May 20, 2012 12:43 am Post subject: |
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| I cling. It used to be worse, but I still do it as an adult. It's very much like a shy little kid sticking with someone they know in a crowd of big strangers. |
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Blownmind
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| Applecore wrote: | | I also used to follow people to the bathroom and wait outside because i didn't know where else it was appropriate to wait (I later learned that right outside the door isn't the right place). |
When at a shoppingmall, I truely hope its ok to wait outside the loo, cause I still do that. 
| Dots wrote: | Usually if I'm hanging out with females and they go to the bathroom at a public bathroom, like in the university hallway, I wait right outside - not right on the doorstep, but just outside the washroom. I never realized that wasn't appropriate... maybe even less appropriate now that I'm a guy... 
Where is the appropriate place to wait when the people you are with go to the bathroom? |
I would also like to know the answer to this question.
...and yes, I do cling when I'm with many strangers. I usually stick with the person / persons I came there with, I never mingle alone.
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lostgirl1986
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| Posted: Sun May 20, 2012 10:31 am Post subject: |
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| I definitely do that. If I happen to make a friend at school, I usually cling to them so as to not lose them as a friend. I also tend to cling to boyfriends when I have them for similar reasons. Also, like you I tend to cling to familiar people in an unfamiliar setting because I'm so shy. It's embarrassing but I hate it when I go somewhere where I don't know anyone and the person just leaves me there to fend for myself. |
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yondoloki
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| Dots wrote: | | Where is the appropriate place to wait when the people you are with go to the bathroom? |
If people say they are going to the bathroom, I usually find a place nearby were I can sit and see the door. If I'm home with people I wait in the living room, or where we were when she/he said it until the person comes back. Don't know if that helps?
But I have also always been clingy in both ways. But after I got a boyfriend, I have noticed I haven't been that clingy the physical way anymore, he is also a person how loves hugs, so maybe I have just found a way to get all my clingyness out of the system?
But following people around like a little chicken? Oh yes, I still do that a lot, when I don't know where to put myself in unfamiliar situations.
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Applecore
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| Dots wrote: | | Applecore wrote: | | I also used to follow people to the bathroom and wait outside because i didn't know where else it was appropriate to wait (I later learned that right outside the door isn't the right place). |
I still do that.  Do you mean public bathrooms, or in people's houses? Usually if I'm hanging out with females and they go to the bathroom at a public bathroom, like in the university hallway, I wait right outside - not right on the doorstep, but just outside the washroom. I never realized that wasn't appropriate... maybe even less appropriate now that I'm a guy...
Where is the appropriate place to wait when the people you are with go to the bathroom? |
I still stand outside the washroom when we're in public, i don't think thats too inaproriate.. But when i'm at peoples house i now stay seated where we were or go find myself a seat if we weren't seated before.
I remember having difficulty finding out where to wait as a kid since i couldn't just go sit with the parents.. also I didn't like having friends looking at my stuff in my room when I wasn't there, so i'd prosume they felt the same. Waiting right outside the door felt like the only option, but a (not so close) friend once told me it was wierd when i was visited her house for the first time. |
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Roninninja
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I don't usually cling to people, usually inanimate objects like my computer or guitar.
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faerie_queene87
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I tend to be very clingy (but not in the sense of "touchy" - just following people). I have to remind myself constantly not to overdo it, because it's not socially appropriate. I wrote about it in my blog lol
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xero052
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This is kinda related, but I constantly feel like I respond to text messages, etc. too fast. Like I'll send someone a text, they'll reply about 3-4 mins later, but I'll reply right away, within a minute. Does this seem clingy to people? I was just wondering, because I never seem to get replies that quickly.
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jetbuilder
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I've been doing it most of this evening!
I'm at a friends now for a BBQ and there are around 10 people here, none of which i know. I've been folowing my friend around most of the afternoon because she's the only one i know very well. Right now she's making phone calls for work. so i made mg way out to the deck because everyone else's inside.
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