SteveK
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Louise,
I don't know about the UK, but the US changed the definition of autism in 1996! They removed the requirement for a low IQ! It USED to require that the IQ be below 70.
Some of my GOOD habits, etc... have been obliterated by my family, society, etc.... I wish they weren't. 8-( Maybe ONE DAY people will accept such things. I almost wish I was a psychiatrist, psycologist, or educator JUST so I could have some input into the system. I NEVER liked the way kids were treated.
BTW how could ANYONE think you have to go to college to be an expert? Such a belief is MORONIC circular reasoning, because the first teachers in college did NOT go to college! ALSO, the first experts in any techology did NOT learn about it in college! So what MAGIC makes the current situation any different?
ALSO, a number of inventions started in the imagination of KIDS, and some were even finished by people with little schooling.
With all that, one wonders why they treat all kids like they're idiots!
Even peter lynch in his book "one up on wall street" gives credit for one of his biggest successes to what?
1. His education?
2. His studies in marketing?
3. His stock market research?
4. Insiders info?
5. None of the above, just his dumb luck?
6. He had NOTHING to do with it?
Would you believe the answer is #6!? He credits his wifes chance observation, and she thought it was just a good idea! She thought lEGGS was a good concept and a good impulse buy! What if he had just sad "Honey, you just DON'T know what you are talking about!"?
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blackcat
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| ok steve, i will. glad to here it louise and i am very grateful 4 my friends. but i've never really MADE friends. 4 some reason people just find how quiet i am facinating. my v.b.f. just plopped her self down in front of me in the lunch room in thie 8th grade, motined 4 me to take my fingers outta my ears and started talking, paying ABSOLUTLY no attention to the fact that i wasnt making any signal that i could hear her.(ive had ppl scream at me in the past"iz u deeeeeeeeeaaaaf?!*to which i replied, rubbing my ears,"if i was then that would have made what you just did very stupid, wouldnt't it?") she says i talked kinda funny back then.that i held words over and still do when im upset sometimes, i dont hear it..."you new?" me:*mumble*her:"huh?"me:yeees, i am neeew"her:aaah. so whats your name? me:*grumble*her:im sorry, i cant here u...me:ste-fa-neee"her:oh, well hi steph, im erin!me:he-loooo. this went on 4 a week days until i both reconized her face and responded without being forced. then id freak out and not know what to do when she was absent. i dont panic any more, but i still dunno what to do with my self... |
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| Another autie thing. Routines. Any break in routine's going to screw with ya. If anything, I think you're a textbook example of autism. Just keep dealing with it intelligently as you have, and you're better off than most typical folk, I think. |
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SteveK
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Well blackcat,
I don't know how younger girls judge one another, etc... today, etc.... but I still remember some acting VERY friendly around your age. perhaps it is just easier for girls.
WOW, was the cafeteria just too noisy for you, or was there some special event, etc??? Your holding your ears just seems so out of place. BTW That brought up ANOTHER related memory of mine. I went to an MLM meeting(NO, I didn't make any money there, and one guess why! 8-(). Anyway, the jerk yelled into the mike close to his mouth, and I saw the amp PEGGED! If that wasn't enough, it was an OLD auditorium MADE for sound. He could have whispered, and everyone would have heard him. I went running out feeling like SCREAMING! I was in PAIN! Few others did(if anyone else did). So I really DO understand your pain there.
ALSO, just as an aside.... A deaf person wouldn't be plugging her ears. 
Steve
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blackcat
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thank u griff. steve, blackcat please...4 a while. yes it was loud! and it was my 1st day (i went there during the last 2 months).not any more , girls are mean vicious creatures, we are. its the 3 of us and my other friend whose mom works at the school(the class i go to when i get a bathroom pass and skip the rest of the period)says its very strange how well we get along and that we have yet to be at each others throats(2 years weve been togther and havent fought once!  ) and i KNOW, you think these ppl would think of that befor they assume deaf!!! any ideas about my weird way of talking? |
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Griff
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| Posted: Sun Nov 19, 2006 10:59 pm Post subject: |
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| Between everyone talking at once and then talking louder to be heard over each other and, as a result, having to scream to be heard at opposite ends of the tables, all combined with REALLY REALLY HORRIBLE acoustics...those places bear down on ya. |
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blackcat
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| *sigh* yeah. |
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blackcat
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*sigh* yeah.
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SteveK
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Blackcat,
OK, SORRY!
As for how you are talking, the idea of AS answered questions I never even thought to ask! One is that I don't handle volume well. I used to talk pretty low, and now I sometimes talk too loud. Maybe you have the same problem.
Seeing how others here act, etc.... I really can't fathom what you are speaking about. I HAVE spoken "above" others. You have to know your audience, and not use too many "big" words. Maybe THAT is your problem.
SOME people, though it's mostly males, will listen to what they say get overly concerned, and stutter. If that is your problem, you have to struggle to overcome it.
ALSO, is your accent different from the others? Maybe the misunderstanding is because you have an odd accent, or they can't understand you because they are from a different area.
Do you usually speak in a steady manner? I mean some may say like na-ew instead of new. If you don't speak smoothly, you should try to do so.
HEY, have you thought about asking your friends? Maybe one of them could help you out. Maybe it will be like me with hindi. I asked an indian friend about 1 word, and he corrected me, and BANG hundreds of similar words are likewise corrected! Maybe you will have the same luck.
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SteveK
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BTW if you don't want to ask your friends, you could try to post an MP3 of you saying things you feel are representative, and misunderstood, and maybe we can help you. If you feel embarassed, maybe you can PM me a link to it. I'd be happy to see if I could help. BTW I would certainly not say anything to embarass you, etc.... Based on what others have said here, I doubt they would either. If you DO PM me, I will just communicate with you via PM as well, so it will all be private.
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its ok, just.. seeing my real name on here freakes me ot for some reason. steph would be fine Steve.i go back and forth between too quiet or too loud.i confuse my friends with big words often.ive always stuttered when stressed.my accent IS a LITTLE different but notmuch. its fading rapidly. my speech is quite smothe. also fast. but my problem is i STRETCH words too far. my friend has commented that i sound like the kid in mecury rising when i do this"its kind of creepy"...
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i hate my self so much right now. i just cried over taking COUGH SYRUP!!! i suck so much! i dont know why but i cried and whined until she decided to only make me take half of it!she just never listens. she is ALWAYS right.i kept trying to tell her that that minty crap made me wanna be sick but she wont lemme take anything else. im so weak. i prob dont even have AS, im probable just being a baby...or maybe im psyco. im angry all the time. anytime she interupts me yelling 4 me to do stupid things 4 her(she just called me to turn the light off 4 her when she was RIGHT there!!!)i scream inwardly or(childishly) BITE my self(back of hand only so dont be freaked)to the point of bruising.i am s o pathetic. 
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| I know. Neurotypical nonsense. Never gets any better. Never gets any worse. Whenever confronted with something weird like this, just smile, and say "oh, yeah, okie dokie!" I know it feels strange, but it seems to pacify these creatures. Do not allow their strange and arbitrary antics to upset you. Neurotypicals will do as neurotypicals will do. |
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thanks griff, that makes me feel better. sorry about breaking down like that... i was just annoyed with my self for cyring over nothing like that. i felt stupid.
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has any1 seen mercury rising(the movie)? i need 2 know what is wrong with how the kid talks.
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