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sinsboldly
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| Mw99 wrote: | | merr wrote: | | Mw99 I'm just asking a purely logical question here, but how could you date a girl, not wanting her to meet your parents, when you live with them? At some time it's going to happen, and it seems logical to introduce them since it is their house, right? |
Why would I ever want to bring my hypothetical girlfriend to my parent's house? |
Bill Gates 'dated' Melinda for years while he lived in Redmond and she lived in Denver. They would go to a movie and then contact each other online and discuss the movie together. It worked for them, but they eventually met everyone.
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NightsideEclipse
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Question for Merr?
At what age would you (or the "average" NT woman) say is the deadline for a man to have his own place in order to avoid social ostracization or negative judgment? I'm 20 and I have every intention of living completely on my own by 25 (I'm already getting a taste of living alone by spending 8 out of 12 months of the year in college dorms), but I thought it would be good to get an idea of what is considered conventionally acceptable so that I might adjust my own goals accordingly. |
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merr
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| Posted: Mon Dec 31, 2007 7:51 am Post subject: |
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| NightsideEclipse wrote: | Question for Merr?
At what age would you (or the "average" NT woman) say is the deadline for a man to have his own place in order to avoid social ostracization or negative judgment? I'm 20 and I have every intention of living completely on my own by 25 (I'm already getting a taste of living alone by spending 8 out of 12 months of the year in college dorms), but I thought it would be good to get an idea of what is considered conventionally acceptable so that I might adjust my own goals accordingly. |
I would say the deadline is 30. I know that many people in college plan to move back in with their parents to pay off their loans so they won't have debt up the wazoo, and that is definitely socially acceptable.
30 would be a deadline as it somewhat marks the "definitely an adult stage" as far as social norms go. For example, when youre in your early 20s, people still see you as young and semi-dependent. When you're just out of college and a few years after, you're adjusting to getting a job in your field, dealing with all the things you didnt deal with when living in the dorms. 30 is like the starting point of the "no turning back" stage.
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If you have an awesome family that is fun to be around, like the one Danielismyname was talking about, chances are if you explain to a girl that they are enjoyable, introduce her and they all get along, and explain to her the situation, chances are a nice girl wont mind.  |
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merr
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| Posted: Mon Dec 31, 2007 7:53 am Post subject: |
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| Mw99 wrote: | | merr wrote: | | Mw99 I'm just asking a purely logical question here, but how could you date a girl, not wanting her to meet your parents, when you live with them? At some time it's going to happen, and it seems logical to introduce them since it is their house, right? |
Why would I ever want to bring my hypothetical girlfriend to my parent's house? |
But if you dont like going out and you dont want her at your home, where are you going to go? If you spend the entire relationship at her house, eventually she's going to want to see where you live or it may start to feel a little one-sided. |
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