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SeaBright
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Berserker
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In real life? 0.
Online? 3 or 4. |
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gobi
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| Berserker wrote: | In real life? 0.
Online? 3 or 4. |
I find the idea of having an online friend to be quite strange. |
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lotusblossom
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| I have one friend in real life, I have had many friends over the years but I cant stand the friendship getting closer and them wanting to know more about me- I guess thats from trying to hide my AS from people " pretending to be normal". I hope I can get closer with others with Aspergers as I wont have to hide myself so much. |
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JayM
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Location: England
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None really, if we're not counting family. I get along well with my sister's boyfriend and friends but only the ones I've spent enough time with to be myself. I'm much more comfortable with girls though.
I used to have a lot when I was at school but now I don't go and with all the moving around my family has done, I've not had much time to make any. I'll try. |
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gobi
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| lotusblossom wrote: | | I have one friend in real life, I have had many friends over the years but I cant stand the friendship getting closer and them wanting to know more about me- I guess thats from trying to hide my AS from people " pretending to be normal". I hope I can get closer with others with Aspergers as I wont have to hide myself so much. |
I think that the more you get to know someone, the less Aspergers becomes an issue. If you're an aspie, they'll already know something is wrong with you -- and it probably makes little difference what the reason is. But if they allow themselves to get closer, they can probably overlook it.
I don't have any friends because, I guess, people find me interesting for a little while, and then they move on to something else. On my part, I'm incapable of acting in a way that's appropriate to sustain friendship. Maybe I don't initiate things enough. But I find that it's exhausting to initiate contact with "friends", and then when I do, I find that I'm supposed to do this every time, so it becomes even more exhausting and I wonder why I do it at all. |
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subcutis
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Location: UK!
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>>Heaps! |
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Mudboy
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Joined: May 20, 2007
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Location: TX
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| Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2008 9:52 am Post subject: |
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None. Not even my wife.
My search for the elusive friend continues. |
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gbollard
the oncoming storm
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Location: Sydney, Australia
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| Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2008 3:53 pm Post subject: |
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Technically your wife should be your best friend. I know that sometimes it doesn't feel that way but with a little work it can be.
and she sounds pretty supportive...
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Wilco
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Age: 16
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Location: Netherlands, Noord-Holland
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Well no, There should be "a best friend" and a wife. Two people you can really count on. And who you can really talk to. Wife and Best friend (if it's a male) can be very different. If you just want to drink something away with beer in a bar you go with your best friend. But if you're very sad and just want to tell your story and cry and stuff like that you should be with your wife.
idk, I just think wife and best friend is something different. |
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gbollard
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Certainly having a wife and No best friend is wrong - you definitely need another bloke to talk to about "bloke things".
But a wife should also have a status as best friend.
Bad scenario: When your other best friend is female.
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Wilco
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| gbollard wrote: | Certainly having a wife and No best friend is wrong - you definitely need another bloke to talk to about "bloke things".
But a wife should also have a status as best friend.
Bad scenario: When your other best friend is female. |
Very true. Like it or not, your wife won't like it. Even IF she trusts you 100% even IF you will never cheat on her. It's just something that doesn't feel right for her. |
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Berserker
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| gobi wrote: | | Berserker wrote: | In real life? 0.
Online? 3 or 4. |
I find the idea of having an online friend to be quite strange. |
I have to have online friends, because I can't have real friends. |
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Yoshie777
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| Berserker wrote: | | gobi wrote: | | Berserker wrote: | In real life? 0.
Online? 3 or 4. |
I find the idea of having an online friend to be quite strange. |
I have to have online friends, because I can't have real friends. |
Who are your online friends?
Anyway, I don't always know how to describe a close friendship, but IRL as of right now, I'd say 2.
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Berserker
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| My online friends are Yoshie, HDS, Kain and NieNie. My best online friends that is. I hope I didn't forget anyone. |
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