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Do you hate shaking hand, hugging, ect..
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No
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PostPosted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 4:32 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I gotta say I like actually like hugs, though not many people hug me. It makes me feel wanted in this world.
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PostPosted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 4:41 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I love shaking hands, and hugging. I'm very affectionate. :O)
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PostPosted: Fri Feb 08, 2008 5:47 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

No, I don't hate it at all. I like to be hugged (especially by friends Very Happy ) I hug my best friend every day Very Happy . I also like holding hands sometimes. It may sound childish but whatever Wink
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PostPosted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 7:36 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'm really quite affectionate for the most part.. but only with people I know.
And I still freak out a bit on occasion for no apparent reason.

Absolutely despise shaking hands with people when I meet them.
I think it results in the thinking I'm just disgusted by them. Laughing
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PostPosted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 7:56 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

To me it is all a matter of pressure. I HATE light handshakes, hugs or touching in general.
I find that the discomfort drops exponentially with the pressure applied, and indeed goes into the comfort at higher degrees of pressure.
Sorry for talking math here, but it remains the best way of illustrating. Basically I agree with Strapples Very Happy
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PostPosted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 10:18 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

AndersTheAspie wrote:
To me it is all a matter of pressure. I HATE light handshakes, hugs or touching in general.
I find that the discomfort drops exponentially with the pressure applied, and indeed goes into the comfort at higher degrees of pressure.
Sorry for talking math here, but it remains the best way of illustrating. Basically I agree with Strapples Very Happy


ding ding ding!

jackpot! your like me... cant stand light pressure yet loves deep pressure... most aspies hate being touched period according to the stereotype.
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PostPosted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 6:06 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hugging people I know and trust, I can deal with (and even initiate). People I'm not so sure about, on the other hand... Shocked
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PostPosted: Sat Feb 16, 2008 2:54 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

MrSinister wrote:
Hugging people I know and trust, I can deal with (and even initiate). People I'm not so sure about, on the other hand... Shocked


I was lucky enough to get a hug from you!! Very Happy

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PostPosted: Sat Feb 16, 2008 6:38 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Afroman wrote:
Im not a big fan of shaking hands or hugging but...... if its like..... ummm the thing to be done at that time.... i'll do it


yeah i agree.
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PostPosted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 1:55 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I have no problem with handshakes. I do not like hugging, though. I still do it when I have to, like visiting my grandma. I'd break her heart if I flat-out refused to hug her, lol.
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PostPosted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 10:08 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I have never had an issue with shaking hands. Hugging is something I didn't realize that I had a problem with until fairly recently (within the past year). I am not one to initiate hugs, but if someone hugs me (usually women I don't know well, but are friends of my partner) I will participate in the hug. The person I hug back usually notices that I am not really physically present in the hug (sometimes, it's commented on.) I don't really get a lot out of hugs and I can't feel them...even with my partner, who I trust completely. My partner loves hugs, so I give her hugs and I've gotten better at learning to feel them with her, but if I had the choice, I wouldn't necessarily give a hug. She loves the physical contact and I want to make her happy.

Just the other day, she and I were talking about hugs in general and hugs between the two of us. Since we've just recently discovered that I have mild AS, we decided to talk about this issue among others. I mistakenly told her that when we hug I can't always feel it (most of the time, but not always) and this really upset her...it made her cry. She then said we shouldn't hug then if I don't get anything out of it...I clarified that for her and told her that it is only sometimes that I don't feel anything. That seemed OK with her. For me, all of this is so hard, because I didn't know until recently that I was so different from other people when it came to hugs or physical contact. I know it's hard for my partner as well. We're working on it.

Great topic!
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PostPosted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 11:15 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I hate touching of any kind in a social context. but I have managed to just make shaking hands a game.
I can handle that well unless they don't release their grip when i do and hang on I HATE that.

I also feel dirty after shaking hands and have to find an excuse to go and wash my hands. I consider the whole thing very unsanitary.
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PostPosted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 12:51 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I don't like shaking hands, because a lot of people will judge you by your handshake. I don't have a very strong handshake (it just sort of sits there), so I often dread it.

I much prefer hugs. I love being able to hug people that I first meet, even though the opportunity is rather rare...
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PostPosted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 2:46 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I despise having to touch anyone for any reason. Even if it's just an accidental brush on the arm it feels so weird...
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PostPosted: Tue Mar 25, 2008 3:32 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I really hate shaking hands. It feels like forced intimacy with a person you don't even know, and have no desire to touch them! I, too, feel the strong urge to go and wash my hands afterward. I also don't like casual hugs from people I don't really care about. In my family, hugging is something we reluctantly do after not seeing each other for a really long time. Tight, heavy pressure hugs I have experienced on a few rare occasions, and enjoyed. But they were from a friend who had kids on the spectrum, and she knew how to give a hug! Smile So I have to say, maybe I like hugs when they are given right, and by people I love.
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