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17 Feb 2008, 8:55 am

funny enough I was actually thinking about this myself. I definately don't have a diminished sex drive, and can even have sex thats purely f*****g rather than making love and still enjoy it, although it's not my preferrence.... A lot of people on here do write about being asexual but are they really the majority, or is it just that people with normal sexuality have no reason to write about it? I don't know. I am starting to think this is one of the ways in which aspergers does not explain the whole of me since I seem to feel different to most women on here about it.



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17 Feb 2008, 11:10 am

Definitely would think it would be more towards higher sex drive if Simon Baron-Cohen's testosterone theory is correct. I know mine is high.



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17 Feb 2008, 11:13 am

This might sound silly, but I'm not even sure about my sex drive.



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17 Feb 2008, 4:29 pm

Mine is not either "on or off". It's either there or it's not. It's a great source of frustration.


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19 Feb 2008, 2:51 pm

It will drive you crazy topic

Jeepers. More of this blue stuff. I am glad I do not have to worry about it anymore. Been there, done that. :)


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20 Feb 2008, 3:22 am

MishLuvsHer2Boys wrote:
Definitely would think it would be more towards higher sex drive if Simon Baron-Cohen's testosterone theory is correct. I know mine is high.


I thought his theory was that we were exposed to testosterone in the womb, which is different than producing the hormone ourselves.



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20 Feb 2008, 2:13 pm

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funny enough I was actually thinking about this myself. I definately don't have a diminished sex drive, and can even have sex thats purely f***ing rather than making love and still enjoy it, although it's not my preferrence.... A lot of people on here do write about being asexual but are they really the majority, or is it just that people with normal sexuality have no reason to write about it? I don't know. I am starting to think this is one of the ways in which aspergers does not explain the whole of me since I seem to feel different to most women on here about it.


Well there certainly is plenty of variation in individual women(with or without AS). But Im glad that someone(female)finally stepped up to the plate and acknowledged that some women actually DO like sex after all :lol: .



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20 Feb 2008, 2:27 pm

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funny enough I was actually thinking about this myself. I definately don't have a diminished sex drive, and can even have sex thats purely f***ing rather than making love and still enjoy it, although it's not my preferrence.... A lot of people on here do write about being asexual but are they really the majority, or is it just that people with normal sexuality have no reason to write about it? I don't know. I am starting to think this is one of the ways in which aspergers does not explain the whole of me since I seem to feel different to most women on here about it.


Well there certainly is plenty of variation in individual women(with or without AS). But Im glad that someone(female)finally stepped up to the plate and acknowledged that some women actually DO like sex after all :lol: .


Well, most of my (NT) friends talk about liking sex too. I'm DJing at a party friday week and one of my closest friends drunkenly told me that her attendence would depend on whether or not she was busy having sex with her new bloke. (I wasn't offended. I'd rather have sex with someone I liked than go to a party). Another friend told me that in the early stages of her current relationship, her and the guy had sex ten times in one day, (no, I don't understand how they managed it physically either).

I think it's true that it's often difficult for women who aren't interested in sex to open up about that, hence they need to be able to on these forums. But I do think that the actual reason it's talked about so much on here is precisely because it's the exception and not the rule.



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21 Feb 2008, 1:35 pm

Other women have been heavily stalked on this forum. I love sex, but I'm hesitant to talk about it openly here.


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21 Feb 2008, 3:45 pm

fabshelly wrote:
Other women have been heavily stalked on this forum. I love sex, but I'm hesitant to talk about it openly here.


If women here find themselves being stalked they should BLOCK the stalkers from sending them PMs and report it to Alex-hopefully to get the stalkers 86ed from WP.



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21 Feb 2008, 11:24 pm

...Sex isnt something you've got to play with; sex is you. It's the flow of your life, it's your moving self, and you are due to be true to the nature of it, it's reserve, its sensitive pride that it always has to begin with, and by which you ought to abide.

Know yourself.O know yourself, that you are mortal; and know the sensitive delicacy of your sex, in its ebbing and fro, and the mortal reserve of your sex as it stays in your depths below.

And dont, with the nasty, prying mind, drag it out from its deeps and finger it and force it, and shatter the rhythm it keeps when its left alone as it stirs and rouses and sleeps.

D.H. Lawrence "Sex isn't sin"
From "Sex and Dehumanization" David Holbrook 1972



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22 Feb 2008, 2:23 am

I definitely enjoy sex, but I don't *have* to have a lover to feel fulfilled; I see women on tv who appear to be ashamed about having gone 6 mos. without having sex - with me, it would be more like six years. I can (and have) enjoy(ed) sex without being in love with someone, but not without trusting them (it's just too vulnerable), and it takes me a very long time to trust people.



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22 Feb 2008, 11:19 am

zoya4eva wrote:
...Sex isnt something you've got to play with; sex is you. It's the flow of your life, it's your moving self, and you are due to be true to the nature of it, it's reserve, its sensitive pride that it always has to begin with, and by which you ought to abide.

Know yourself.O know yourself, that you are mortal; and know the sensitive delicacy of your sex, in its ebbing and fro, and the mortal reserve of your sex as it stays in your depths below.

And dont, with the nasty, prying mind, drag it out from its deeps and finger it and force it, and shatter the rhythm it keeps when its left alone as it stirs and rouses and sleeps.

D.H. Lawrence "Sex isn't sin"
From "Sex and Dehumanization" David Holbrook 1972
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errrrrrrrrrr, sounds like a lot of sophistry to me. I hate that all that BS philosophizing about things in such ridiculous
abstract semiotics.



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22 Feb 2008, 1:27 pm

actually, i believe it's poetry. :wink:



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22 Feb 2008, 1:39 pm

Nan wrote:
actually, i believe it's poetry. :wink:



Exactly my point-poetry is often NOT factual.



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22 Feb 2008, 4:50 pm

it's not meant to be. :wink:

not in the sense you're using "factual", anyway.