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EvilKimEvil
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First of all, I think a clothing guide for autistics is a good idea. It stands to reason that some of us who have never had an obsession related to fashion or clothing might not be aware of the basic social rules for dressing and selecting clothing.
I agree with this statement:
| tharn wrote: | | Clothing can be a powerful means of self-expression; knowing what messages you're sending is a skill that could potentially come in handy. *shrugs* |
But I must point out that clothing sends different messages to different people. No matter what you wear, some people will love it, some will hate it, and some will be indifferent to it. In other words, what you wear will always attract some people and repel others. This is inevitable, but I have found there are two common ways to deal with it.
One approach is to design your outfits to attract people you are most likely to become friends with and repel people you are least likely to become friends with. This can be done in numerous different ways. The easiest method is to simply dress like your current friends or people you would like to have as friends, ideally putting your own spin on it so that you don't look like you're literally imitating other people. The advantage for people on the spectrum is that the clothes communicate for you, which helps if you're not very outgoing.
The other approach is to try to dress in a manner that is likely to offend as few people as possible. I can't say much about this approach because it does not come naturally to me - if I try to dress in a neutral and highly unoffensive manner, I think I look boring. However, I think this is the way in which most people dress. The advantage for people on the spectrum is that it's easy to dress this way and it can help you to avoid unwanted attention (of any kind). |
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tharn
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Joined: Apr 22, 2008
Age: 29
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Location: Iowa
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 6:24 pm Post subject: |
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Callista, ouinon, Crack - certainly nothing is wrong with a "uniform" or a simple selection of clothes that work for you. My goal here is not to prescribe good fashion, or to pass any sort of judgement, but to demystify how style works, so that its language is accessable without appealing to "fashion sense". A wardrobe that says only a handful of things is quite sufficient if it says all the things you want to say. But this is not sufficient for everyone.
SotiCoto - It seems that this type of tutorial is not necessary for your needs. But these are things I would have liked to know when I was younger, and I suspect they might be of use to others. As far as trial and error goes, many of us are a bit shy about making clothing choices, and might appreciate some guidelines that help us avoid ones that draw unwanted negative attention. But hey, different strokes for different folks, yes?
Callista - I'd say clothing is communication that many NT's seem to grasp easily. That doesn't mean we can't, or shouldn't, learn to speak it. It'd be like saying "French is for French people." But it's also for non-French people who want to learn French... even if you're learning just enough French to avoid saying something offensive by accident. ^_^
EvilKimEvil - Clothing, like any other form of communication, can be interpreted differently by different people. And the message that's received may be accurate or inaccurate, and may be liked, disliked, or even ignored. Part of this process is entirely up to the observer, and we can't change that part. But by being conscious of, and deliberate with our communication, we can still affect communication for the better. I think the two modes of dress you mention are a good approach, and copying your friends is a safe and effective way to get used to building outfits. ^_^ |
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AspE
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| I found my all time favorite pants, Ben Davis 50/50 blend twill pants. You can get them online too from gorillagear.com. Much stronger and longer lasting than jeans and lighter weight. The 50/50 blend dries quickly, so they're better for hiking and camping, and they don't wrinkle. For shirts, I prefer snaps to buttons, you can take it off more quickly, and the snaps never fall off. Pendleton makes some soft washable wool shirts that are great. |
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